The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins

Most relationship advice says relationships are healthy when you communicate. Be open. Share your feelings. Explain your needs. Take responsibility for your emotions. And all of this is true. But it catastrophically fails women with Super Traits. Not because they are bad communicators. Women with Super Traits are great communicators. But they communicate at the cost of themselves. At the cost of t...

Happy New Year. For women with super traits, there is often a quiet exhaustion underneath the hope and desire for more. You have done everything right, and something still is not working. If pleasure, desire, and connection disappear the moment stress enters your relationships, this explains why. This is not a personal failure or lack of effort. It is a body-level adaptation. Women with super trai...

Christmas has a way of showing us what we have been carrying all year. For many women, this season brings more responsibility, more emotional labor, and more pressure to hold everything together while feeling unseen in their relationships and disconnected from themselves. I spent years overfunctioning in relationships, believing that giving more and trying harder would create safety and connection...

The holiday season is a major trigger for women with super traits. There is more emotional labor, more pressure to keep the peace, more overgiving, and more shutdown. When you overfunction during the holidays, it leads to burnout, resentment, loneliness, and a sense of feeling unseen, even when you are surrounded by people. I break down practical holiday survival tips to help you stop overgiving a...

Financial infidelity is one of the most common yet least recognized forms of betrayal. It often begins subtly through missing information (like names not being on the title), restricted access to accounts, unexplained withdrawals, hidden accounts, or financial decisions made without consent. Many women overlook these signs because they appear inside relationships built on trust, love, and shared h...

You have done the healing. You know your patterns and your attachment style. You set boundaries and stopped abandoning yourself. Yet when life gets hard, or someone is disappointed in you, you still end up doing the emotional labor. You collapse or you over-function. Your relationships have not shifted as much as you have. Your sex life feels flatter than it should. Your aliveness and turn-on feel...

You are not frigid. You are fried. When you have super traits, empathy, loyalty, responsibility, and hard work, you end up building your entire relationship around him. You carry the emotional load, the logistical load, and even the erotic load. You hold his stress, his moods, his comfort above your own, and then blame yourself when your desire shuts down. You are not an impossible-to-please crust...

I am recording this sitting on an ice pack with stitches in my vagina. After the delivery of my daughter, there was a tear. They tried to fix it. It didn't really fix. The doctor said to wait until the next baby, and we can repair it then. I thought that made sense. My daughter just turned five. I have been tolerating a tear in my labia that I didn't want to be there. I decided I was done waiting....

High-empathy women are praised for their compassion, yet beneath that care often lies exhaustion and loneliness. When empathy becomes survival, it stops being connection and starts being control. Many women who feel deeply spend their lives reading the room, anticipating every tone, and managing everyone else's emotions in the name of love. It looks selfless but becomes self-abandonment. The nervo...

High-achieving women with super traits know how to make everything work. We plan, manage, fix, and anticipate. We keep the peace and carry the weight for everyone around us. From the outside, it looks like strength and success. Inside, it's emotional exhaustion and the quiet panic of never feeling safe enough to rest. Control becomes our safety. -Apply for the Super Traits Society - Success, intim...

Apply for the Super Traits Society - Success, intimacy, pleasure, you don't have to choose. Learn how to take back your power and create a pleasure-filled life without sacrificing who you are or what you've built.  [ APPLY HERE]   Women come into my office every week saying they can't think clearly, they lose words mid-sentence, and they feel like their brains are failing them. They're sure it mus...

You were praised for being the responsible one. The girl who kept the peace, remembered everyone's birthday, got straight A's, and picked up everyone else's slack. That praise felt like love, but it wasn't love for who you are; it was love for what you did. Now you're the woman holding everything together. You make the meals while your partner plays with the kids. You manage the emotions in the ho...

Most women try to fix their relationships or fix themselves. My work isn't about fixing or forcing intimacy. It's about rewiring what led you to believe that depletion was love in the first place. High-achieving women with super traits have been called codependent, people pleasers, and overfunctioners, when the truth is, we were never met. We are not meant to see extractive love, and the smartest,...

Something so simple but so hard for high-achieving women to accept is that we were taught male-centered love, male-centered relating, and male-centered sex. The truth that I denied for months after reading the original research is that marriage benefits him more than it benefits you. He lives longer, he is healthier, he receives emotional stability, caretaking, and the invisible workload, while yo...

I have been hearing from so many women lately. They are separating, considering separation, rebuilding after infidelity, or trying to date again as superwomen with super traits. No matter where they are, they cannot keep going the same way they have been. There is an element of doneness. Super traits like empathy, loyalty, hard work, and forgiveness are the qualities that make us successful. They...

Women with super traits are praised for their loyalty, empathy, and hard work. These traits make you successful in your career, but they leave you exhausted, resentful, and sexless in your relationships. You give more, you bend over backwards, and you still do not feel met. I am sharing the habits of the most well-loved and well fucked women I know. These women feel their emotions instead of pushi...

JOIN US FOR THE FREE Super Trait Masterclass,  October 2nd at 1pm ET/10am PT. The Truth About Why Successful Women Struggle In Intimacy HERE High-achieving women are praised for their empathy, loyalty, and hard work, but these same super traits often become survival strategies that leave them exhausted, lonely, and stuck in relationships. The very qualities that help women succeed in their careers...

Join the FREE Super Trait Masterclass October 2nd, 2025 @ 1pmET/10amPT The Truth About Why Successful Women Struggle In Intimacy. JOIN FOR FREE HERE   I am feeling direct today, and it could be the eight cortados I had while writing content. There are a few things that are always true after working with thousands of women with super traits. If he cannot handle your tone, he is never going to be ab...

Most high-achieving women don't even realize they are living in an extractive relationship. You give and give in your relationship, in your career, and at home, and wonder why you feel exhausted, unseen, untouched, and unfulfilled. You blame your hormones, your libido, your partner's attachment style, or your parents. You go to therapy, plan date nights, and try lingerie, but none of it works beca...

Summer is almost over, and I see a lot of my clients getting caught up in loops. You know that version of you that shows up on vacation. The one who laughs more easily, who says yes to sex, who feels lighter and more present in her body. Or maybe, like me, you have lived years experiencing a vacation from a bird's-eye view, outside of your body, because of how burnt out you were. That woman isn't...

Join us in the Pleasure Principles™ Group Program with Dr. Jordin Wiggins ND HERE  Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 1ST, 2025   I was asked recently why successful, hardworking, intuitive women stay in emotionally harmful relationships. This was me. This is many of my clients. The truth is, we have super traits. The same traits that make us incredible in our careers...

Most women don't need another date night, another vacation, or better communication strategies. What they need is a radical unlearning of everything they were taught about love and intimacy. Because even the good relationships are built on extraction. Not reciprocity. Not mutuality. Not pleasure. If your relationship feels like a second job, if your body is numb, if you've been blaming your hormon...

Your nervous system already knows what your mind has been trained not to see. "He's a great guy." "He's a good dad." "He means well." These are the phrases that keep brilliant, high-achieving women stuck in sexless, disconnected, emotionally manipulative relationships. I'm naming the pattern you've been taught not to see… the good guy gaslighter. It's the new face of power and control and it's qui...

If you've ever been told that estrogen causes breast cancer, or that your mammogram will save your life, or that your only option is to "cut, poison, and burn," this episode is going to challenge everything you've been taught. Dr. Jenn Simmons joins me for an honest conversation about what actually causes breast cancer, why the screening model is flawed, and how functional medicine is changing the...

If you've ever been called intimidating, too much, or one of the boys. If you've had to explain how you like to be touched more times than you can count. If the idea of surrender feels terrifying because you're the one who always needs to be in control. This episode is your permission slip. We are talking about kink. Not in the way you think. This is not about whips or pain or anything performativ...