The Pleasure Positive Podcast

Matriarchy does not mean a world where women rule over men. What we noticed in our research on matriarchal societies around the world—from the Bribri communities in Costa Rica to the Akan of Ghana—is that often men lead in important areas like politics or spirituality, and women are the central property owners. It’s a balance of power, rather than one gender dominating the other. Actually, it soun...

As many of us have witnessed, social media can lead to family fights, problems with the boss, taxing our adrenal glands, and even a 50% rise of suicide rates amongst young women since social media became prevalent. BUT social media can also lead to reuniting long lost relatives, amazing nights out with friends, and even finding true love. So is it good or evil?  Support the showDownload our free a...

Life partner, main squeeze, friends with bennies, or one time hook-up—what dating app should you choose to meet your best match? Match? Or Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Field, The League, OK Cupid, Plenty of Fish, Coffee, Bagels, OMG! So many! And once you’re there, how on Earth do you land your prey? Er, we mean uh, meet the person of your dreams. With Lindsey fresh out of a breakup with her long term l...

Today we continue our Season 3 series inspired by the NY times bestselling book Sex At Dawn with a fascinating discussion on Indigenous sexual practices. But how different could they really be from Western mating rituals? As it turns out, very. From the ritualistic rape of men to teenage love huts to armpit sweat-soaked apple eating—we examine how modern-day tribal cultures get it on. Support the...

Are you one of those people pining away to unplug from your 24/7-desperate-every-man-for-themselves-survival-game? Ever fantasize about defecting to a permaculture ecovillage loaded with likeminded friends in a warm climate with a clean water source? Or are you one of those people who think, “Fack no, I’m not sharing my vegetable garden with a bunch of facking hippies!” (Insert spitting noise here...

You know how it goes. You’re so in love and so turned on by this person that you dive into a deep, bonded, steamy relationship full of giggles and snuggles and hot hot HOT SEX. And then...over time…you’re. just. not. that. interested. They lick your neck and you think “Ew, that’s wet.” Well, today our Pussy Posse takes an honest look at whether chemistry is something you can get back…or is it gone...

Evolutionary psychologists break down a man’s sexual methodology as thus: men offer goods and services (food, shelter, protection, status, etc.) in exchange for exclusive, relatively consistent sexual access. Instead of bat around whether this theory is true or false amongst a bunch of babes, we decided to bring in some of our favorite men to break down why they really have sex…lust, legacy or lov...

Today we’re going to be discussing the historical attack on the female libido. According to the New York Times bestseller  Sex At Dawn, the perspective of evolutionary psychologists is that—for women—sex is all about security, not physical pleasure. And men spend their energy impressing women with fame, status, and power to convince coy females to part with their closely guarded sexual favors. Are...

In the second episode of our series on the New York Times best seller Sex At Dawn, we ask some of our favorite men (gay, straight and in between) a big question—is lifelong traditional monogamy a powerful choice based in love or just some outdated societal programming? As the author points out in his book, one of the first things to go when Agriculturalism emerged was having sex with multiple part...

Welcome to Season 3 of Clit Talk where we return to our roots as a book club, featuring Christopher Ryan’s New York Times bestselling book Sex At Dawn.  In today’s episode, we begin with bonobos and the birth of Agriculturalism. That’s right, apes People. It turns out that human DNA differs from that of bonobos by only 1.6%. Sex At Dawn lays out the theory that before Agriculturalism, human tribes...

Women want to think of our pussies as a place of pleasure, love, and divine creation, yet many women in the world experience theirs as place of trauma—be it through sexual violence or disease. Once a woman’s pussy has been traumatized, how does she come back from it? Well, we’re here in the studio today with a woman who has done exactly that…with style and with humor. This icon has turned her pain...

If you missed the Oscars this year, you may not know that a film telling a story about the creation of a period pad machine in rural India won Best Documentary. Yes, that’s right, a documentary on menstruation won A FUCKING OSCAR. And the miracle behind this miracle? The film was birthed by a group of middle schoolers. Today in the studio, we have three of the co-founders of The Pad Project, who a...

We love the shit out of our fans…and today’s episode is inspired by questions from our beloved Clitterati. From truffle butter to 7-year-olds on diets to Nurse Katie’s all too real definition of “poopsicle,” we look at what it takes to get beyond our own hangups to experience authentic confidence in our own bodies. Whether you are a man or a woman, listening to this may liberate you to the next le...

Ever had a partner who was really not into sex? Ever been indifferent or even repulsed by the thought of sex yourself? For some, this is a passing phase and for some it’s simply their sexual orientation. In fact, as the term LGBT has been expanding letter by letter and is now known in its glorious totality as “LGBTQIA,” the A in which stand for—yep, you guessed it—Asexuality! This orientation to o...

Every pussy has a story to tell, and today the cast of Clit Talk went to a place called Pussy Church to hear they had to say. Our priestess-in-residence was the one and only Sierra Sullivan aka The Pussy Oracle. Much like palm reading, The Pussy Oracle reads pussies by their folds, colors, and skin tones to discover the hidden wisdom within and translate that to the women lying spread eagle before...

Ever heard of a dick vid? How bout a #pelfie? Penis rupture? What on Earth did Nurse Katie do with a zucchini? Our man fans inspired one of the most hilarious episodes of Clit Talk ever as we answer questions from our cock-bearing Clitterati.  Support the showDownload our free audio training: The Ultimate NO BS Guide to Self Pleasure & Sexual Intimacy 💦On our top-rated sexuality podcast, Pleasure...

Whether you love smoking herb or can’t stand the stuff, you’re gonna wanna hear what Dr. Uma has to say on treating disease with cannabis. Dr. Uma Dhanabalad is a Harvard-trained primary care physician and one of about 45 doctors in the US to be certified as a Cannabinoid Medicine Specialist. In this episode, Dr. Uma breaks down how cannabis can be used effectively for all kinds of sexually-relate...

Having a hard time getting over a recent heartbreak? You’re not alone. We’ve ALL been there and Courtney—another member of our dear Clitterati—asked us on what the first steps are that she can take to get her pussy power back after a break-up. So all our men folk and femme folk gather round the fireside, here we go with another Clit Talk Fan Q & A!!!   Support the showDownload our free audio train...

In much of the world, we have this taboo around talking about sex with teens—especially how to have good sex. This social stigma stops these conversations from happening, which has had a negative effect on young adults and our society as a whole. That’s why today, we are so excited to have Gia Lynne in the studio, a woman who has taken on this brave and edgy conversation in her book On Blossoming....

Today is our 1 year anniversary! And we are celebrating by looking at our greatest triumphs this year in the bedroom…from coming out of the closet to coming so hard we squirted for the very first time to blowing our financial goals out of the water to falling in love with each other and getting pregnant at a sex party. Wait! Who got pregnant at the sex party?! And which cast members fell in love w...

Excitement. Jealousy. Nausea. That's right, we're talking about threesomes. To do or not to do, that is the question. Probably since prehistoric times, the sacred triad of sexuality has been a conundrum for all humankind. How do you pleasure all, without leaving out one? How do you have the hottest sexual experience of your life without it ending with at least one person in tears? Thanks to a most...

Does your sphincter tighten up with anxiety at the mere mention of anal sex? Well, boys and girls, do we have a special release for you today! In the studio with us, we have world famous anal sexpert and porn superstar Riley Reyes, who is here to demystify anal sex for the faint of heart and elevate the act to a whole new level for longtime veterans of doin’ it in the butt. Welcome to Riley Reyes...

We’re back in the studio with Marla Mervis-Hartmann—body image expert, tantra teacher, and coach and creator of Love Your Body Love Yourself—to be laser coached from the dark side of our body shame back to the light of self-love. We look at how to deal with being body shamed by your doctor, what it’s like to be super horny with a husband who’s really not feeling turned on by the thought of pregnan...

Body shame. Whether it’s yours or your partners, it can really take the wind out of your sex life. Weight, shape, color, texture…why do we obsess over our bodies and how do we heal it? Marla Mervis-Hartmann is a body image expert, tantra teacher, TED speaker, and coach and creator of Love Your Body Love Yourself, and she is in the studio with us today to shed some light on the murky world of body...

Sex Coach Kat Trimarco has dedicated her practice to helping people let go of guilt and shame so they can take powerful ownership of what they want and need—in the bedroom and in life. In this episode, we discuss everything from what a sex coach does in session to sexological bodyworkers to the authenticity of the sounds we make in bed to how our sexual desire affects all of our other desires in l...