The Pleasure For Health Podcast

Why do we suffer from this crippling feeling of never being good enough? Where does it come from? And more importantly, how do we get rid of it?

Whatever you need to do, divorce the story and marry the truth. This saying struck me recently as being a great mantra to live by. We make up so many stories, about ourselves, about why we are in the place we are, about what people think of us, about what we are destined to do. Most of us live in our stories all of the time!

Ok guys, this one is for you. Let me tell you a little story and you see if it sounds like something you have experienced. It’s your wife’s birthday (sub in ‘girlfriend’, ‘partner’ if needed ) and you, thinking you are ahead of the game, smugly ask a week or so in advance, what she’d like as a present. Score one for you right? You’re on the ball, you are thinking of her, you are asking what she li...

I recently had a friend who has been blessed with pretty great physical health for most of his life; a couple of small day surgeries, a minor motorcycle incident, a bit of a struggle with keeping a healthy weight and exercising regularly, but overall, in pretty good shape; ‘suddenly’  struck down with severe pain. He couldn’t remember doing anything to cause this sudden onset, and he was pretty sh...

How many of you dreamed of being Cinderella when you were little? Come on, admit it...you secretly dressed up in your prettiest party outfit with a crown made from your Mom’s brooch or something like that. You danced your way around the living room, sashaying and curtsying to an imaginary court. The ultimate goal of the entire story was to attract the handsome Prince and then live happily ever aft...

A passion of mine is to work towards true equality and understanding between people of different gender, sexuality, race, financial means, ability. This may seem like a big dream, and it is, but it is also possible if we change a few beliefs. Our culture is built on inequality, and competition feeds the feeling that only one side can win, and if you’re not winning then you are losing.

I wanted to touch on something that really stuck in my mind from recent teachings... “There is often more difference between people’s genitals that are the same gender than there are between people of different genders.” So what does that mean? Well, to put it simply, it means we are all different. No surprise there in our heads, but then, Why do we insist on ‘teaching’ about sex, as if we are all...

I have decided to take the month of April and describe a little bit of my journey as I begin my advanced training in Somatic Sex Education. After my first week of exploring gender, I peeked ahead to look at our next assignment. My first thought was.... AWESOME!   The task was to make time for four personal erotic exploration sessions within a week.   Best homework ever, right?   My body was excite...

For a start, this field, as a profession, is relatively new. The importance of somatic or bodywork training in conjunction with traditional sex therapy or coaching has only recently begun to be explored. As well, the idea that sex therapy could be something positive, something other than the old paradigm of ‘sexual dysfunctions’ and ‘problems’ is a modern idea.  What if we just want to explore our...

Empowerment! I know that’s a word that gets thrown around a lot these days, and even I, roll my eyes when I see another slogan with the message of ‘empower yourself’ written blithely on a landing page for another coaching course. So, here’s the thing, empowerment is possible. It isn’t something you always get in ‘three easy steps’, but it is possible to live into, in your body. I’ll tell you how I...

I am a bodyworker. Every day I work with people’s relationships to their body. It constantly amazes me how disconnected most of us have become, from our ‘physicalness’. When was the last time you really connected with your earlobe? Or more practically, when was the last time you really sent gratitude to your feet for carrying you around all day? When was the last time you allowed yourself to feel?

So I have spent the last week or two having some really great talks with my guy friends, and to say its been eye-opening is an understatement! I have been blown away by the openness, the caring, and the vulnerability I have witnessed in men. I also see how confused and helpless they feel in the shifting social culture of our times, characterized by the media #metoo campaign.

I hear this from so many men, this desire to please their female partners. Often they laugh and say they wish there was a manual that went with the woman. I mean women are complex, right? We are notoriously hard to read, and we seem to have a penchant for changing our minds right when things are going well. I mean what is a guy to do?

So this week I thought I’d give a taste of what is possible when you expand your ideas around play in the bedroom. Maybe you feel like you’ve gotten in a rut, performing the same few things with the same partner, and finding yourself becoming bored with the predictability. You may find yourself sighing and wishing things were more exciting, or worse, blaming your partner for not being more ‘romant...

One of my first clients was a woman in her 70’s who, after talking to me, wanted to know where things were down there. She had been raised in a strict Catholic setting, and although she had been married and borne a child, she had divorced several years later, and had never really thought about her nether parts since then.

Open your mind to the various aspects of gender equality. 

Modern-day relationships require skills, and skills require practice. Join me for a quick exercise that you could try with your current partner/s or friends.

t is fast approaching the holiday season and I felt inspired to write a blog on the art of giving and receiving, since we can get caught up in the frenzy of this, and lose our perspective.

Tony was a man in his late 40’s, successful by outward appearance, but on the inside feeling that he had somehow failed at life.

Somewhere, somehow, the idea got lodged in our psyche that to be a goddess we had to be perfect, or at least better than human. We had to look beautiful, radiate energy, smile always, dance and move like we are 20 years old. We could never be angry, frustrated, bored or tired. Being a goddess didn’t include... listen for more...

Join Ailsa, and her partner Declan, as they discuss the allusions to sex that exist in our society today, and the reluctance people have to talk about it!