The Pleasure Files

Click here to send me a message :) BECOMING: A 9 month group mentorship with Naomi, for you to to grow into the woman you were always meant to be. Click here to find out more.  Sex and intimacy in dating can feel confusing and pressured, especially if your body does not always respond easily, if it has been a long time, or if you have learned to push yourself to keep connection. In this episode, w...

Click here to send me a message :) BECOMING: A 9 month group mentorship with Naomi, for you to to grow into the woman you were always meant to be. Click here to find out more.  Dating can feel SO HARD. In this episode of The Pleasure Files, I share a practical, healthy to returning to dating without rushing, overriding yourself, or turning it into a measure of your worth. We talk about pacing, dat...

Click here to send me a message :) BECOMING: A 9 month group mentorship with Naomi, for you to to grow into the woman you were always meant to be. Click here to find out more.  In this episode I talk about something many women struggle with.  We spend so much time thinking sex is about technique or positions or doing things the right way. But the part that actually changes our experience happens m...

Click here to send me a message :) BECOMING: A 9 month group mentorship with Naomi, for you to to grow into the woman you were always meant to be. Click here to find out more.  In this episode, I guide you through the real timeline of female arousal, from the first moments of willingness to the deep, full-body turn-on many women never realise they’re able to have.  You’ll hear why responsive desir...

Click here to send me a message :) BECOMING: A 9 month group mentorship with Naomi, for you to to grow into the woman you were always meant to be. Click here to find out more.  In this episode we get honest about vaginal lubrication what it is, what shapes it, and why so many women think something is wrong with them when their body doesn’t become as wet as they expect.  I break down the real physi...

Click here to send me a message :) In this episode of The Pleasure Files, we go on a detective hunt into the mystery of why orgasms are not happening, or are disappointing when they do.  You’ll hear how stress, tension, shame, numbness, pain, and rushing all disrupt the body’s ability to open to pleasure.  We talk about the impact of porn conditioning, performance pressure, and orgasming through f...

Click here to send me a message :) In this episode of The Pleasure Files , I sit down with Maggie, a former client who began her healing journey with me earlier this year.  We start with where she started, what called her into this work, and how her relationship with herself, her body, and her pleasure has transformed since.  Maggie shares with such honesty and warmth about the challenges of facin...

Click here to send me a message :) In this episode of The Pleasure Files, we get deeply practical about desire  and what it actually takes for your body to want sex. And yep, we are complex, complex creatures! This conversation is about the real-life conditions that help desire happen and arousal thrive: time, space, safety, and intention.  As always there are plenty of practical and useful tips t...

Click here to send me a message :) In this episode, we get real about one of the most avoided yet most important parts of any intimate relationship: talking about sex.  We look at why open, grounded communication is the gateway to deeper pleasure, trust, and connection. You’ll learn how to bring up the topic without blame or awkwardness, how to create emotional and physical safety for both partner...

Click here to send me a message :) In this episode, I explore how the modern world’s constant glow and invisible hum might be dimming your desire.  From blue light and late-night screens to the Wi-Fi signals surrounding us, I share how these everyday exposures can keep our bodies in alert mode, awake, but not aroused.  I also share what I noticed in my own body after moving into a brightly lit, si...

Click here to send me a message :) In this first part of our Desire series, we unpack how the nervous system’s two settings, stress and safety, act like a seesaw that shapes libido, arousal, and pleasure.  You’ll learn why cortisol and adrenaline turn down oxytocin, estrogen, and testosterone, making desire harder to access, and how safety cues lift the feel-good chemistry that supports connection...

Click here to send me a message :) Welcome to The Pleasure Files and to our very first investigation together.   In this episode, I dive straight into a question so many of us carry: why does my vulva hurt? Before we even start unpacking the whys, I invite you to pause and consider what “hurt” actually means. Because for so many of us, we’ve been taught to live with discomfort, to assume that burn...

Click here to send me a message :) Ashley’s story is common for a lot of us. She never really found physical pleasure in sex and never orgasmed. Sure, there was the closeness and connection and building love and trust that came from sex with her husband, but orgasm wasn’t part of her experience. She’s on the podcast for episode 18, vulnerably sharing about what that has meant for her enjoyment of...

Click here to send me a message :) Have you heard that as a woman you are too much in your masculine, and need to be more in your feminine? Or that if you just 'embrace your feminine' you will be able to effortlessly tick off your massively long to-do list, and feel sexy and relaxed at the end of the day? What do these words even mean? If you embrace your feminine, do you have to go and...

Click here to send me a message :) Have you decided that your sexual life will just be finished after menopause? Are you allowed to be turned on, sexy and desirable after 50 plus, or do you just have to shut down and turn off like society tells you you should? Karen Levine has passed through menopause, and is still juicy and sexy, desiring and desirable, so what is different about her? And is it p...

Click here to send me a message :) Are you curious about kink? Maybe you've seen the 50 Shades movies or you've heard that some people like having things done to them that to you seem degrading or painful. And where is the pleasure in that? Jessica is a kink and sex personality coach, helping women find their unique sensual side and then embrace and embody that to have a life full of ple...

Click here to send me a message :) Ok, sure, pleasure isn't just sex, but what if we want to have more pleasure when we have sex? Aaron Michael is on the pod today, and as an author, sex coach, bodyworker and course creator, he has created a new model for sex that brings the power of our pleasure back to each of us. We talked about the potential for pleasure in every body, what it takes to ha...

Click here to send me a message :) Sarah Michelle grew up in purity culture, and after a painful and unexpected divorce, found herself in hookup culture. We talked about what the impact of her purity education was on her sense of herself and her sexuality, and how that flowed over into world view and mindset. If you are curious about the impacts of religious upbringings on your sense of self, and...

Click here to send me a message :) Have you ever been curious about being tied up? Maybe you're wondering why anyone would do it? Or how they do it? And isn't it demeaning and degrading to be tied up? Why would we be talking about rope play and pleasure in the same conversation?  Marco Jellema is on the pod this week to share his expertise and passion for therapeutic Shibari, the Japanes...

Click here to send me a message :) How's your libido? Have you ever wished your libido was stronger, and wondered what you could do about it? Dr Patricia and I explore what it takes for women’s libidos to stay strong and healthy throughout our lives, and the answers might surprise you. *** About Naomi: Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.com Instagram @naomiharrisnd If you want to dip your toe...

Click here to send me a message :) Adam Beker is a student of the body and consciousness, and is certified in all things breathing. Adam and I let our inner geeks out for this episode, exploring the world of breathing, including if it’s true that if we breathe right, we can experience so much more pleasure in our bodies. So yep, we’re talking about breathing your way to orgasm. *** Want to learn m...

Click here to send me a message :) Do you remember being 20? Remember your own sexual education and first sexual explorations? Elle is on the pod talking about her pleasure experiences as a 20 year old, especially following an assault 18 months ago. We talk about sex ed, finding partners to help along the way, and what the assault taught her about her needs and wants. (There is no description of a...

Click here to send me a message :) Peter Maloney is a grief and loss expert, who is on the pod to talk about that taboo topic - what do we do when we find ourselves in a turned on body when we are in mourning for someone we have loved and lost? Surely pleasure and grief don't belong in the same conversation? We talk about shame, grief, community and connection, and the healthy use of pleasure...

Click here to send me a message :) If you are living in a body that doesn't fit into what we are taught the perfect body should look like, (and let's face it, who is?), this episode will inspire you. Indi Gage describes herself as sex positive, disabled and fat, and in this episode she shares about her journey towards pleasure in a fat body. *** Want to learn more about what I offer? Web...

Click here to send me a message :) If you have ever been curious about pleasure and the Jewish faith, this episode is for you. Felice Winograd takes us on a gentle ride through her love of ritual, the pleasure she finds from simple daily acts, and her own understanding of where sexuality and pleasure sit in her faith. Listening to this episode feels like sitting down for a cup of tea with a close...