The Phoenix Frequencies

Due to what comes our way in life, we create our perceived perception as 'the truth'. By creating our truth, we keep ourselves safe from feeling hurt, disappointed or insecure.  It predicts how we listen; it shapes our actions. We create our self-protection limiting beliefs.  But life will give us the same situations until we learn and transform because there is only the truth we created...

Worrying and overcare can sneak into our lives like invited, unwanted guests.  When they show up, we can give them the attention they ask for or send them away. Thank them for coming, and they are no longer needed.  Nienke had the opportunity, based on possibly concerning yearly tumour check-up results, to choose between worrying and overcaring and starting a new collaboration based on what is ser...

When you got dressed today, did you dress for the weather of today?  Or did you dress already for next week? Or for the weather of 3 months ago? If we adjust for outside circumstances why don't we do the same for for our inner circumstances?  Why do respond to things as if it was years ago, or as protection what might happen in the future?  How would it be if we ar prepared for all circumstan...

Nienke inherited the photography 'eye' from her grandfather. Eyes for the unexpected angle, using a peripheral view within the bigger 'picture'.  As an accountant, Nienke's grandfather used the same skill to see what needed to be seen as a thermometer within the numbers, reading the results in healthy or sick companies. Unfiltered. Real.  Where do we put on filters in our...

In this episode, the special guest is Dr. Betty® Uribe. Born in Colombia, the doctors didn't have faith that she would survive. But her mother believed in her. Her life shifted over one flight from Colombia to the United States when she was 12. Important women in her life taught her lessons that made her the remarkable woman she is now. It's highly recommended that you follow her to see...

This episode is a tribute to Nienke's grandmother, Emma Emily van Bezooijen-Spreksel, born in 1918 during WWI in Rotterdam, the Netherlands. Who grew up in poverty under mental and physical abuse. Who gave birth, just 20 years old, to a son three months before Rotterdam was bombed by the nazi-regime, starting WWII. Emma overcame her fears and anxiety when she could care for children. She star...

Dignity is an inside job. Although impulses from the outside world are tempting, they are also considered dignity or self-sabotaging. Like oil and water, they don't blend well. Recognising your red flags of sabotaging your dignity is worth taking a closer look at.  What if your behaviour is triggered when your dignity is under pressure? Are you giving up your dignity, or can you stand the hea...

Have you ever realised how our two human ears are put side by side and form the shape of a heart? What does it indicate? Two ears also form the core of the word "hEARt" indicates that it is important to listen to people from our neutral heart.  The Albinger Institute published in 2007 The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict . We listen from how we frame or box ourselves. Th...

How others see you and perceive you can be mixed up or woven into limiting beliefs. Limiting beliefs can influence how you react or interact with others, too.  Don't mix up what you don't want in your life and how others respond to you. BEING limited in what you can or can't;  You have a free choice if you take their perception on as your identity or not.  You have a free choice to...

When we feel emotionally under pressure, we tend to hide how we feel.  We give our response to how we feel away by blaming and shaming others for how we feel.  Polarisation is a mask. The masculine form is the overpowering, attack as the best defence. The feminine mask is to get people in your camp of victimhood, showing how awful you feel because of their behaviour. We justify our behaviour becau...

Michael Drummond Davidson worked as a young man in the mines for a living.  His curiosity brought him to a life-changing experience. Later, the gift from the mines brought him all over the world as a stone mason.   Not only is he a stone healer, but also a living beings healer as a polarity therapist, heart ambassador, nature and art lover.  His latest 'architectural' project is bringing...

We grieve when we face a loss, a shift that disrupts us from what was.  A loss of a dear one, a breakup, or a loss of physical or mental capacities.  What if grief is an opportunity to shift what is no longer serving up? If we can bring the pain of the loss to a stepping stone of what elevates us instead, so painful grief and gratitude live on the same page.  This podcast is an honourary tribute t...

Compassion with a mental approach is going towards sympathy; from a feeling approach, it comes from empathy for someone suffering or in misfortune, according to the dictionary. Can you access compassion for someone who is with hate or blame? Can you let go of judgments? Maybe if you are aware, compassion doesn't need agreement to someone's deeds or actions. Compassion is neutral, fréé of...

Your well-being is my peace initiative! I spent my twenties working on Kurd's rights on the Syrian peace process. Very, very closely! This rich journey taught me that there is much deeper peace and freedom. They are beyond one conflict, one identity. Peace and freedom cross all borders and, most importantly, our individual borders. I experienced that as I had to flee from my birth ground in S...

Marriage, tie the knot, or trouwen in Dutch, isn't something you do overnight.  You gain trust first. The same is true with the marriage between the higher masculine and the higher feminine expressions within yourself.  Before you tie the knot, you explore what works and what needs working on.  You check this in a relationship, and it works to check in with these expressions, too.  In normal,...

Masculine and feminine energies or frequencies are not male or female nor any other form of gender-based. We all have them. These frequencies come with qualities.  Are you aware of which ones you use? In the masculine, Nienke tunes into the lower and higher expressions of the masculine. The lower form you can see expressed as overpowering, ego-proving, judgmental and ambitious drive, predatory and...

When something inside or outside us needs full attention, we hold our breath. Excitement, fear, pain, beauty. But during our daily lives, we can be unconscious about our breathing.  Nienke shares in this episode her experience when she breathed herself through surgery with failing anaesthesia. But also how we can balance ourselves through breathing so that even when we feel like we are underwater,...

What drives you and sets you on fire in life? Is that a sustainable fuel that sets off your hormonal system? Anger, judgments, hate upsets, can you feel them? They can kickstart you. Adrenaline or cortisol are necessary, but only if you balance them. An overdrive leads to a rushed fire and burns you in the longer term.  How about the counterbalance hormones like oxytocin and dopamine, which are pr...

Boats don't sink because they are on the water but because the water gets in. If you look at how you live your life, how much unwanted unnecessary water of others do you let into your boat of life?   What do you take on what isn't your task, job or responsibility? What is the reason why you take it on? You can check and keep the water out of your boat with four simple questions. Nienke s...

Daeyoung Kim is a South Korean innovator. She stands for international exchange and Public Diplomacy. She is a speaker and panellist on women's leadership and diversity inclusion globally. She faced obstacles and opportunities in her life's journey between multi-cultural boundaries. As a coach and spiritual EQ Practitioner, she now creates retreats. Here, people are invited to unlearn wh...

Living based on Phoenix Frequencies doesn't mean you'll never face difficulties in life again. Over the last weeks, life seemed heavy to Nienke. It makes the difference to recognise the pattern behind it. Not bumping into the same wall over and over again, but being what it is: the reality called life.  Diving under and rising when you feel the tides have turned without the drowning expe...

Susanna Kalejian is an Armenian American, born in Armenia and raised in the United States. Despite facing significant challenges at the age of 32, including surgery, family loss, and the loss of her home, Susanna refused to succumb to darkness. Instead, she embarked on a journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Through perseverance and dedication, Susanna transformed herself from a victim of...

In years of coaching and mentoring  the biggest obstacle  for many is rarely the fear of failure. "What if I can't 'make' it" Most of the time it is fear of "What if all I wish for comes my way?" All that big pants responsibility is the real fear to face. What if my big dream comes true....  Today, on her birthday, Nienke looks at her wishlist. Be conscious what...

How many times did you get a wake-up call and ignore it?  How often have you tried to change a habit or pattern in your life? Life can give us warning signs in relationships, social interactions, or physical health symptoms. How often did you end up in the same situation, like marrying the same person only with a different birthday?  The same job or team that you just left with great relief, only...

On Valentine's Day, so many of us speak about love, and in a sincere or commercialized way, love has become a tricky thing. What if you are missing out on someone else's expression of love?  What if this day is full of expectations or disappointments? What if you would receive a card with the words you say to yourself when you don't reach your own expectations? Would you receive tha...