The Phoenix Frequencies

In this episode, Nienke shares part two of her interview with Guru Lama, who has possessed an extraordinary ability to heal and uplift those around him since childhood. It took nearly a decade for him to find his right teacher, or guru.  Not all are a right fit, many people see themselves as a guru, but from a high spiritual ego. Guru Lama also shares how to prepare ourselves to be without the int...

From Ghosting to Hosting, a powerful conversation is just a change of one letter.  Ghosting is used as a skill to control a situation through social (non)interaction, aiming to dominate or overpower it. However, people who think they need ghosting as a solution simply haven't yet discovered the social and emotional intelligence toolbox.  Ghosting is in the same field as naming, framing, blami...

Nienke and Guru Lama met each other through the TEDx Fiesole event and instantly noticed that they both serve through frequencies. From that moment, they stayed in touch. Nienke and the Monk had a long conversation that Nienke made into several episodes op the Phoenix Frequencies Podcasts. Guru Lama often gets the question 'What religion are you from? He answers with a smile: Our religion is...

What if we can see people pleasing as a smart protection mechanism rather than a weak character? With the sugarcoated behaviour, it's a way to feel and stay emotionally safe. Often learned by painful life experiences. It looks good, it feels better than reality. Like a painkiller. But what are you suppressing and at what cost? Health, relationships and feeling drained...... Nienke grew up in...

Experiencing pain is always a message. Often, we don't like the way pain communicates. We are conditioned to get 'rid ' of pain, soothe pain, or kill pain with painkillers.  Or we over-identify with pain, like with tiredness or diseases.  I am tired, I am ill. No, you're not. You feel tired, you feel dis-eased.   What if pain is not an enemy but an ally?  In this podcast, Nienk...

Over the last few months, Nienke has worked with 20 people to prepare for their TEDx Talk. To be Heard to be Heart at the same time. BE ready.  Staying with your true message and true to your authentic self wasn't easy for all.  Going into their topic, their story as a deep dive was an unexpected gift for many of the speakers to rise above the past.  But life had a personal gift for Nienke as...

This week, Nienke tunes into the sudden death of her energy work role model and old friend. At first, there was a massive magnitude of shock, grief and pain. Why her, not me? That question isn't to be answered nor relevant. It just is. Grief. Soon, that shifted: D showed she wasn't 'gone', and the connection didn't change. The overwhelm shited into gratitude. Grief and gra...

Today, exactly five years ago, in the first week of the total COVID Lockdown, Nienke started her 25 sessions of radiation therapy—a team collaboration to freeze the brain tumour growth. Everything has changed since. But this year, a friend reminded her of this five-year win. This year, it wasn't part of her life anymore, and thát was worth an even bigger celebration. Nienke imprinted herself...

If you are travelling, do you carry your whole closet with you? Summer and winter clothing, sportswear ánd bathing suits? Or do you choose what is appropriate for your journey?  In her coaching, Nienke sees many mental hoarders. Clinging on to what they don't need to take with them all the time.  You can tickbox your travel list and choose what you need and want to take with you. Leave behind...

It's two months since her mom's passing, and Nienke and her father spoke a lot at that time. Creating space to bring back memories.  When memories are shared over and over, they turn into stories. The story about the memory... Those stories can be helpful or block you. They always have deeper roots in what you liked or disliked when the memory was created. From there, you can choose to l...

Cut the Crap is, in English, a direct way of telling someone to stop saying things that are not true or not important: 'Just cut the crap and tell me what is really going on'. Playing around with words, Crabs belong to the subphylum Crustacean, the largest group of marine arthropods; most crabs move sideways, walking on four pairs of legs and holding their two legs with claws away from t...

When life seems to hit us 'again' with setbacks, pain, grief, hurt, feeling misunderstood, and alienation, we can confuse resilience, which involves powerful bouncing back, with taking response-ability. We can take a look at our patterns. What might have helped us in the past is no guarantee that the present or future will be the solution to get out of your setback.  In this podcast, Nie...

2025 started already with many dynamics, such as wildfires, ceasefires, impeachment, and inauguration in polarization.  In non-violent communication techniques, we can see that we act and react based on deep needs.  Fight, Flight Freeze or Please modes have their roots in deeper needs.  Sometimes, a third-party or helicopter view technique can help us see what is really going on. However, Heart-ba...

It has been weeks without time and space since December 17th 2024, for Nienke.  Once again, she stepped into the transition doula frequencies.  December 23rd, in the morning, her mom left her physical body. Very gentle and peaceful, she blew out her candle of life.  In the days before, Nienke saw first-hand the power of unconditional love between her parents, even in the transitional moments.  How...

What are the characteristics of your country of origin, in Nienke's case, the Dutch DNA? Well-known for concurring the water, creating land from sea and rivers by building barriers like 'dijken', dyks...   Or, during the Hanza's time, the trade line from Belgium to the Baltic states.... Trading the feminine way, exchange, non-violent. We had that culture until the first Brexit,...

To celebrate her re-birthday, Nienke went to South Korea. On a two-week, intense trip, she met real Koreans. She saw the contradiction within the country and the people.  The DNA of harmony, respect, exchange, and growth is overgrown by the most toxic feeling we can have: shame.  The devastating effects of trying to outsmart everybody to avoid shame are the lowest birth rate in the world and the h...

Start by doing what's necessary; then do what's possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible. Francis of Assisi.  Over the last year, Nienke recorded a podcast every week and is closing this year's cycle in South Korea. She followed her heart's intuition and reconnected with her mission to bring ease, listening, and connection based on the Phoenix Frequencies. In this po...

When history seems to repeat itself. When you see yourself hitting the same wall, reacting as always: defensive, creating your own truths, searching outside yourself to let others make you feel better, avoiding the point of no return?  Nienke can see life looks like a history repetition, but after her point of no return three years ago, she stopped the attitude that seemed resilient but, in realit...

Nienke is counting down the days until her trip to South Korea. Part of her trip will involve visiting the demilitarisation zone (DMZ) between North and South Korea. Peace is not the absence of war but an attitude toward peace. Peace seemed hijacked by happiness in the last century, but we need to elevate our Peace attitude further than that. In Self-leadership, the practice of pause and feeling i...

Storms are not there to blow you over; they are there to clear your path. Even if you try hard to find the eye of the storm, the storm still exists. If you try to BE the eye of the storm, the storm still exists. I You have a choice to control the storm and exhaust yourself or to prepare yourself for what comes.  In the calm after the storm, you can overlook what seemed chaotic but is clearing your...

What would you do if you could take all the gems of your life so far, learn from them and implement them in a new life chapter you are creating? Starting from scratch?  What are you waiting for? The perfect timing? That doesn't exist....  What perfect circumstances do you want to create? They are never ready..... Nienke's grandmother Emma started her new life at the age of 90 because the...

Feeling disappointed and acting based on that is a human thing.  We can only be disappointed if we expect something upfront.  Rarely do we speak about our expectations. We only act on them.  In this episode, Nienke speaks about the opportunity she got to build another relationship with feelings of disappointment.  It is sobering to learn from nature. Nienke shares what the Valley of the Fallen Her...

If a trigger is a mental, emotional or physical response about an event that happened in your life in the past, a shiny object can become an addiction. The  drive to fill the uncomfortable feeling that was created in your past.  But a glimmer, that unexpected spake of beauty, joy, hope, ease, and peace, can become your self-supportive nutrition to counterbalance an overdrive of stress-related trig...

When we compare our successes or choices with our outside world and see a gap in feelings or failure, shame can sneak into us. Once shame gets hold of us, it starts to design our lives. We can drift off in directions that are not serving us at all.  If we start to grow our shame under our invisible carpet, it can become a hurdle that is hard to resolve.  Shame eats us, because it likes the secrets...

How many certifications or diplomas degrees do you need to become who you are? How do you show up, and what do you think your identity is?  Who are you? Who are you if life kicks in and all you thought you created as results don't count any longer? You are not your results of collected degrees but how you show up.  Where are you compromising to make an ideal match for your family, parents, ch...