The Other Side of the Struggle (Healing from Betrayal Trauma)

Send us Fan Mail When you're dealing with trauma, it's hard to feel like you have control over your life. In fact, it is really easy to feel like you're spiraling out of control. So, how do we get that back?  How do we get back in the drivers seat? Lara Johnson (Mom on Purpose Podcast) and I discuss how to give credit to the trauma, understand what's really happening, and then...

Send us Fan Mail Things are a little different this week!!! Kyson asked me to come onto his podcast as a guest speaker to talk about my story a little bit, but also discuss how to love and forgive yourself as well.  This is such a powerful topic... because even though we may be the victim of betrayal... often times so much shame and guilt are heaped on our shoulders in response to the betrayal.  I...

Send us Fan Mail Forgiveness can sometimes be a tough topic.  Especially when society tells us that it is a type of self-betrayal. This is something I've had to do SOOOO much work on honestly, but as my good friend Daniel Adams tells us in today's episode, forgiveness is freedom. We truly can be free of the pain and anger that betrayal causes, without betraying ourselves in the process!...

Send us Fan Mail Divorce, no matter how it happens, is something that is going to leave scars on a heart. Often times, we wonder how we can ever love, trust, and find supportive and fulfilling relationships again. Author, Coree Sullivan, "Destiny After Divorce", joins me in today's podcast to talk about how to take back your confidence, courage, and life after Divorce, and how to op...

Send us Fan Mail Living a life of intention means being able to make some solid decisions and create some solid boundaries. Doing those things takes a fair amount of organization and for this reason I couldn't think of anyone better than the fabulous Jenny Layton to come back and be a guest on our show. As you know, Jenny is THE organization coach and she knows what it takes to just start on...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever considered the fact that you're a miracle? Think about it for a moment.  God is loving, wonderful, perfection, and full of truth. He doesn't make mistakes.  And if you're his greatest creation, what does that say about you? We often forget this, or sometimes we don't think about it because we're too busy thinking about the things that we&apos...

Send us Fan Mail Love is one of those things that can be hard to trust or even believe in when you've experienced deep trauma.  Yet... it is also one of the things that is necessary for healing and health. So, how do you balance these two things when they seem at odds with each other? Kyson Kidd (The Kyson Kidd Podcast) and I team up to chat about this concept this week and what we believe lo...

Send us Fan Mail Last week we chatted about seeing yourself as the ideal self, but giving yourself the things you would need and have if you were already there is a HUGE part of feeling confident and like you can trust yourself and your decisions. My good friend Bronwen Oehlschlager and I chat about some things you can do to start really giving yourself some time, attention, and love! Loving yours...

Send us Fan Mail With trauma, it's really hard to see yourself and focus on yourself... but focusing on where you want to go and where you want to be as a person is one of the KEY ingredients to finding a lasting joy that no trauma can trump.  Who are you? What amazing things do you get to create? What would make you in awe of yourself? Ask yourself these questions as you tune in today! See y...

Send us Fan Mail In my healing journey, there have been a lot of people that have impressed upon me the importance of affirmations.  But, the more I used them, and the more I've seen them prescribed, the more I'm convinced they don't work. In today's episode I get into why they don't work and what to use instead. Take a listen! Support the show If you would like to book a...

Send us Fan Mail Did you know that Trauma teaches you things that are simply not true... but, because life has taught us to believe these things, we adopt them and buy into them as being true. But that doesn't give us a happy and fulfilled life! Nor does that give us the safety and confidence that we are looking for in this life. Today, I discuss those 10 untruth's that trauma teaches yo...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever heard someone say, "Choose your word for this year." There are over 150,000 words in the English language, and that doesn't include the almost 50,000 that are obsolete...  so how do you choose just one word to go off of? How do you choose a word that will help you heal your heart, mind, soul, and body from trauma? Well, it comes down to the characteris...

Send us Fan Mail This is an episode I've been looking forward to creating for such a long time now! Ever since I scheduled it, I've been excited for it.  Kushla Chadwick and Daniel Adams return to our podcast today to talk about how drawing upon the greatest gift ever given, Christ, has helped them step into the creator that they are now. This is HUGE because when we're feeling like...

Send us Fan Mail One of the things that SO MANY people are searching for in their lives is joy! But, what is that? AND, why do we feel it's unattainable sometimes.  We know that if we have it, we have fuel to move forward with our goals and dreams in life... but trauma seems to tell us that joy doesn't exist except for in fairy tales.  I want to tell you though, that it IS possible to li...

Send us Fan Mail This is SUCH a great question, and one that I really felt deserved some attention in today's podcast.  Kyson and I talk about times in our lives when we felt really empty and what we did to change that.  Just because your bucket feels empty right now, doesn't mean it has to stay that way.  Support the show If you would like to book a free coaching call click on this link...

Send us Fan Mail One of the things I see people struggle with so much, is actually something that they think should be easy.  Being generous with yourself, especially when you are a victim of trauma, can be difficult sometimes because of untruth's that we have adopted from the trauma. Today, I dive into how to be generous with yourself, why you're worth it all, and why it's actually...

Send us Fan Mail Often times we think that if we find ways to be grateful for the things that we wish we weren't going through, it may somehow cause those things to grow bigger. The truth is though, that gratitude always makes us grow... not the other way around. I talk about how gratitude is literally the miracle to our grow in this week's episode. Take a listen! If you would like to bo...

Send us Fan Mail One of the best definitions I've ever heard on gratitude is "being full of greatness". As I've put gratitude to use in my life, I can honestly say that I've found that definition to be true. When you are in gratitude, you are truly filling yourself with your worth and your greatness. It is your miracle grow! That matters when you are healing from trauma as...

Send us Fan Mail How we think about our situations really determines what we can create from them. We can't create a miracle if all we see is doom and trial. In this episode, I talk about the things we can choose to think, or ask, in order to get into a creative mindset when facing trauma. Take a listen! If you would like to book a call with me to help you live your dream life, free of trauma...

Send us Fan Mail I love talking about Miracles and Gratitude in November because it is a month to be grateful for so much! But miracles lead into gratitude so easily and it is often that I see someone needing a miracle. Talking about what one is, may help to focus on the ones that are already being created in your life. I loved talking about the miracles that I have seen created in my own personal...

Send us Fan Mail Creation is something that we are all wanting to do more of. We want to create a life without trauma, but what does that life without trauma actually look like for you? Kelly King is a master at getting clear on this concept and has created some beautiful and amazing things in her life, even though she has experienced deep trauma. I couldn't think of anyone better to chat wit...

Send us Fan Mail Ok! So this is a long podcast! LOL! But, I love these discussions with Kyson so much, that I just had to include all of you in it as well. One thing that is on trauma victims and porn victims minds alike, is "How do I change this?" Well, would you believe it if I told you that the same cycle that you use to heal trauma is the very same cycle that you use to heal addictio...

Send us Fan Mail When your neck deep in trauma, creating a life that you're proud of and dream about can feel like a far cry off. But, the self boundaries are actually tools and filters that you can use to start getting clear about what you want to create and how you want to create those things. Each one of the self boundaries act as a filter that we can push our dream through to help cleanse...

Send us Fan Mail Can I just say how excited I am about having Jenny Layton on this podcast today??!!?? This is an episode that was SOOO amazing for me to record and to talk with Jenny about. Jenny is an organization coach that helps women go from overwhelm to organized, and this is a HUGE issue when it comes to betrayal trauma. Trauma can often lead us to feeling overwhelmed and out of control. Ho...

Send us Fan Mail Trauma has the ability to rob us of the life that we loved before the trauma. My clients tell me all the time that they just want to "find themselves again". Even though life will never be the same as it was before the trauma, it can be better than it was before. But, we have to get really intentional with what we actually do want instead of focusing on what we don'...