The Other Side of the Struggle (Healing from Betrayal Trauma)

Send us Fan Mail What if the biggest boundary you need isn't with someone else? What if it's with yourself? In this episode, I share the foundational boundary that has transformed my life,  healing, relationships, and the lives of countless women I work with every day: I will be my own best friend. Many women struggling with betrayal, people-pleasing, self-doubt, or unhealthy relationshi...

Send us Fan Mail What if healing isn't about becoming fearless? What if it's about becoming you again? So many women believe that healing means reaching a point where they never feel afraid, never doubt themselves, never get triggered, and never struggle. But what if that's not the goal at all? In this episode, Erin explores a powerful truth: healing isn't the absence of fear—i...

Send us Fan Mail What if one of the biggest obstacles to healing isn't what happened to you... but what you started believing about yourself because it happened? In this deeply personal episode, Erin explores the powerful difference between reality and truth. Reality is what happened. Reality is betrayal, heartbreak, rejection, abandonment, disappointment, and pain. But truth? Truth is who Go...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever smiled through a conversation while secretly feeling like you were falling apart inside? In this episode of The Other Side of the Struggle , we’re talking about the silent exhaustion so many women carry while still showing up for everyone around them. The meals still get made. The bills still get paid. The kids are still cared for. The smile is still there. But under...

Send us Fan Mail What does emotionally safe love actually feel like? If you’ve ever found yourself walking on eggshells, overthinking someone’s tone, craving consistency, or wondering why chaos feels more familiar than peace… this episode is for you. In this deeply honest conversation, Erin Anderson breaks down the difference between emotionally unsafe love and emotionally safe love, how trauma ca...

Send us Fan Mail If you’ve ever laid awake at night wondering how you’re going to provide for yourself or your family…  this episode is for you. Today, we’re talking about money from a completely different perspective. Not hustle culture. Not ‘just work harder.’ Not shame. We’re talking about how our money stories are often our self-love stories, and how the way we experience love is usually the w...

Send us Fan Mail Sometimes the hardest part about boundaries isn’t knowing what to say… it’s actually holding the boundary once guilt, fear, anxiety, or pressure shows up. In this episode, we’re diving deep into why boundaries can feel so difficult to hold — especially for women who have spent years people-pleasing, over-explaining, rescuing others, or abandoning themselves to keep the peace. Beca...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever prayed about something over and over again… only to find that the fear, pain, anxiety, insecurity, or struggle still hasn’t left? In this episode, we’re having a real conversation about surrender, healing, faith, and why some struggles don’t disappear the moment we “give them to God.” Because maybe healing was never meant to be self-abandonment.  Maybe God isn’t aski...

Send us Fan Mail Oooo! This is a big one guys! I know when I asked myself this question it hit hard... and had me getting really honest with myself. But that honesty turned into using my voice and creating self-trust. If you're ready to trust God AND yourself... then this episode is for you! Support the show If you would like to book a free coaching call click on this link to schedule a time:...

Send us Fan Mail What is a boundary anyway and why do we want them? Somehow we know that they are foundational to our healing... but they're not well defined. In today's episode, I talk about what boundaries are and how we can actually use them to heal... and create the life and relationships that we actually want. Support the show If you would like to book a free coaching call click on...

Send us Fan Mail One of the things that can cause recurring trauma in our nervous systems is the idea that we aren't heard, appreciate, seen, or supported. AND, sometimes it's absolutely true that we're not! Sometimes what we have to say or what we think may feel inconvenient to someone else. So, what do we do to feel heard, appreciated, seen, and supported? That's what we get...

Send us Fan Mail One of the things that REALLY bothers me in the mental health field is this idea of "coping" with trauma. When I was trying to heal the layers and layers of trauma surrounding my heart and nervous system... this was what was being taught. It wasn't the therapist's fault.. they were there to help. But I didn't want to know how to "cope" with my tr...

Send us Fan Mail One of the things that I see in society today... almost across all countries... is trauma around our bodies. Men and women alike are struggling to accept themselves the way they are. Now, that doesn't mean that we don't strive for health... but if we're judging ourselves against society's standards... we're doing ourselves a big disservice. Here's wha...

Send us Fan Mail We all know the pain of betrayal... but nothing is as hard as experiencing it over and over again. But, it was a really hard reality when I realized that was something I was allowing... and how my boundaries stopped it. In today's episode, we talk about what boundaries REALLY are... and how they stop constant betrayal for good! Support the show If you would like to book a fre...

Send us Fan Mail Trauma can get us to believe a lot of things that aren't true... especially about ourselves. One of the lies that it often teaches us... is we are way more limited than what we really are. So how do we undo these lies so that way we can live in truth? I talk about this in today's episode.  Support the show If you would like to book a free coaching call click on this link...

Send us Fan Mail Oh boy! This can seem like a big problem can't it?  One of the questions that we ask ourselves after trauma is "How can I feel safe again?" When I say that we cannot heal what doesn't feel safe, well, that can feel a little hopeless. But we have far more power than we think we do... and we have the ability to create safety... by creating unbreakable boundaries....

Send us Fan Mail Ugh! If only we could get ourselves to cooperate with our goals right??? But here's the thing...  I've noticed in the years that I've been coaching and studying trauma... what is stopping people from reaching their goals... the things we technically call blocks... are actually a trauma program running in your nervous system. Because your nervous system is designed t...

Send us Fan Mail Whenever we have been hurt or betrayed by someone we love... or even when we're wise enough to understand that we have betrayed ourselves... we always ask how we can trust again. And it makes sense! Trust helps us feel safer. But, often, we think that it's only our job to regain trust. In today's episode, I talk about how you can find what to trust and how to regain...

Send us Fan Mail A lot of times we think that trauma is an event that happened to us somewhere in our past. But, in truth, trauma isn't the event. Even though the entire world could tell us what happened was traumatic... it's the thoughts that get stored in our nervous system that cause the trauma. This is why it's so important to do thought work as well as nervous system work when...

Send us Fan Mail One of the things that I have found SO fascinating when it comes to healing trauma... is how it shows up as clutter in our physical spaces. Often, I can tell what a person's trauma is and with whom depending on where and what clutter is in their space. So in today's episode, I talk about how decluttering your spaces also helps you declutter your nervous system. Support t...

Send us Fan Mail We don't have to allow someone else's thoughts, feelings, or actions to rule and dictate our lives. But what does that take and how do we actually get there? In today's podcast, I outline how we can be the master of our own results... and leave toxicity in the dust. Support the show If you would like to book a free coaching call click on this link to schedule a time...

Send us Fan Mail I'M BAACK!!! Did you miss me?? I totally missed you! And to celebrate our first episode back, I decided to talk about how important it is to have a relationship with yourself. If you're still healing from trauma... this is probably one of the biggest things you're struggling with. Trauma teaches us that our voice, opinion, and person aren't important enough. It...

Send us Fan Mail Healing from betrayal trauma and reclaiming your joy starts here. Join me, Erin Anderson, in this transformative episode of "The Other Side of the Struggle" podcast as I unveil the exciting transition to our new "Boundary Boss Babes" podcast. Discover the empowering steps to achieve financial independence, especially for women navigating betrayal or abusive sit...

Send us Fan Mail Can betrayal trauma become a bridge to discovering your true self? Join us as we explore this profound question with Erin Anderson, who reveals how she helps individuals reclaim joy and identity amidst the chaos of betrayal. Erin shares her unique perspective on the healing journey, emphasizing the power of mindset and practical tools. Alongside her guest Stephanie, Erin contrasts...

Send us Fan Mail Ever wondered why you keep attracting narcissistic partners, despite the pain they inflict? Discover the hidden allure of narcissists and unmask their manipulative charm as we dissect the painful yet enlightening journey of betrayal trauma. Join me, Erin Anderson, as we unpack the complexities of healing from these toxic relationships and reclaiming your identity and joy. Learn ho...