The One Inside: An Internal Family Systems (IFS) podcast

On today's episode, I chat with Dorothea Hrossowyc and Ingrid Helander.  Ingrid and Dorothea along with Tyler Haaren, Joya Lonsdale, Julia Sullivan, and Paula Shulman led a workshop on "Healing Racism From the Inside Out, Unburdening our Parts around Race and Racism", at the 2016 IFS Annual Conference,  and were a part of the plenary session, along with Tyler, Joya and Donna Dellal-Ferme at the 20...

On today's episode, I chat with Joan Ryan, an internationally recognized Enneagram expert and Leadership coach. Fortunately for our community, Joan is also Level One Trained in IFS.  I have been looking for someone to talk to me about IFS and the Enneagram and was beyond thrilled when I found Joan.  Joan is a type 9 and I am a type 3 so we talk about these types a lot. We also talk a bit about typ...

On today's episode I talk with Jenna Riemersma, author of the book, "Altogether You: Experiencing personal and spiritual transformation with Internal Family Systems Therapy." Jenna states, "IFS helps deliver what my faith tradition promises."  I love the concept of the "Spiritualizing part" who uses God language but has a feeling of moving away and not moving towards. We talk about Self being the...

On today's episode I share my experiences with my own system on a tough day. You will hear from my parts who like to be dramatic and exaggerate. You will hear from the parts who respond to this with eye rolling and twitching. And, you will hear how sometimes just sitting in the middle of a sidewalk is the best choice. You will hear my dog's squeaky toy in the background over and over again. You do...

On today's episode I speak with lead trainer with the IFS Institute, Susan McConnell. Susan recently published a new book on Somatic IFS and it may be my new favorite IFS book. Here is an outline (all of the times are 'ish') Check in- Meditation- 11-16:00 Reconnecting Mind and Body, what disconnects us? - 25:00  Importance of Embodying Self- 33:00 Witnessing through the Body- 38:00 Body Systems- 4...

Here is a little gift! A meditation pulled from the full Somatic IFS episode which will be released in a few days. Enjoy!  

On today's episode I chat with IFS Practitioner Milena Worsham as she shares her incredible story of growing up biracial in Texas. Milena is a master story teller and I was drawn in from the beginning. I had this sensation of leaning in close as she spoke. She states, "I grew up believing I was white.... This is a protection for the family... White is a protection. It is safe." The first half of t...

On today's episode I chat with Paul Neustadt, a lead trainer with the IFS Institute. Paul has such a warm, engaging teaching style and I just loved our conversation. Paul's answer to the last question, "What would you do instead?" may be my new life goal or at least a daily intention. Here is a bit of an outline: 1. Create our own inner circle - when you have a hard time accessing compassion (or S...

On today's episode I chat with Laura Schmidt who bravely shares her story of a "life changing event" with openness and vulnerability. It is heartbreaking and inspiring. It is a story of acceptance and hope, of yielding and the need for patience. There are many parallels between the lessons she learned over the past decade and many of our own struggles with the Covid Pandemic. Put your pens down on...

On today's episode, I chat with Derek Scott about "What is IFS?" Do you want the people in your life to know what this 'IFS thing' is all about? Well, here you go! I am THRILLED to give this to you, and hope it is a gift you give to your friends, family, co-workers, and strangers on the street. Derek teaches with humor and wisdom and warmth. I interrupt a lot so that is fun. We also talk about how...

On today's episode I chat with Patricia Rich about Self Led Sexuality. Patricia is a certified IFS Therapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor. She brings her expertise, her vulnerability, and her warmth to teach us about this new model based on IFS. I had to get a few of my parts to settle down before this episode. I speak for some of them at the beginning, like my giggling Middle...

On today's episode, Leslie Petruk, Assistant Trainer with the IFS Institute and I get real and honest about parenting. Leslie is a parenting EXPERT- I'm thrilled to have her on the show!  I don't know anyone who is not struggling in this area right now and am just so thankful to Leslie for sharing her Self and her wisdom. I hope you walk away feeling hopeful and empowered. Let me know what your pa...

Marushka Glissen, an assistant trainer with the IFS Institute is returning to the podcast to talk about one of her other passions, marriage (See episode 33 for our first chat about Legacy Burdens). Here is a bit of an outline of the show: 1. Gratitude towards partner (esp during Covid) 2. Appreciation of partner (again, Covid) 3. Complications in 2nd marriages and blended families 4. Adult childre...

Welcome back! Here we are - season 2. On today's episode, I chat with Leon Silvers, founder of Drag Therapy and STAR of Drag Heals (well, he is the star of epi 2, season 2). I'm curious how your parts reacted to the title of this episode. I imagine some of your parts are like, 'What is that?' And some are like, 'Oh, gosh.' And some are like, 'How fun!' I hope you can be with all those parts, those...

On today's episode, I talk with Tom Holmes. He and his wife, Lauri wrote the book, "Parts Work: An Illustrated Guide to Your Inner Life." Sharon Eckstein created incredible illustrations which are in the book and the Inner Active cards. The book and the Parts Work Inner Active cards are some of my favorite IFS tools. I can't express how much I love- and use- the parts cards! Tom has been around th...

On today's episode, the final for honoring minority mental health month, I talk with Nydia Guity, an IFS therapist, podcaster, writer, and natural hair enthusiast. I had no idea ("but didn't I?," says a part) the 'emotional baggage that comes with hair,' whatever your race, culture, or background. Nydia shares her story- her parents are originally from Honduras and celebrate the Garifuna culture,...

On today's episode I speak with Radhalisa Zarzuela and Deran Young. Radha and Deran met at a level one IFS training in Harlem, NY. Radha shares her story with us which is touching and courageous. I felt inspired by her and think you will too. We talk about 'rules' which may come from our cultures and the legacy burdens we carry. We talk about "code switching" as a person of color. We talk about th...

On today's episode I speak with Requina and Deran who share their different stories and life experiences. Requina is the friend Deran mentions in our first podcast so I am excited she was able to join today. Requina Barnes, LICSW specializes in relationships, attachment and trauma. Through her Boston, MA private practice, she works primarily with men, women, and couples of color. Requina is a memb...

On today's episode, I speak with Deran Young, President and CEO of Black Therapists Rock and the IFS Institute's Online Ambassador. We met to record this at the beginning of May. We were still feeling the isolation and challenge of Covid-19 and George Floyd was still alive. We had no idea what was to come. I'm thrilled and honored to give you the first of four episodes devoted to Minority Mental H...

Dr. Ed Yeats and I chat about IFS, Shamanism, and Tibetan Buddhism. Weaved into our conversation from beginning to end is attunement and synchronicity. We attune to our parts, to one another, to nature, to our own spiritual journey. Synchronicity is an interesting and fascinating part of our journey. This is a long one so here is a bit of an outline: 1. Tuning in, like to stations of a radio 2. "I...

I'm soooo excited about this episode where I chat with Dr. Angela Huebner, a triple threat therapist, writer, speaker. She is very smart and very warm, two attributes I greatly admire. We talk about the 'why' behind all the weird questions we ask in IFS. My only regret is I didn't ask her more about this! We shift over to talk about Lifeforce Yoga and 'breathing to shift emotion' at about the 40 m...

On today's episode, I chat with Shelly Johnson, author of the fantastic book, "The Parts Inside of Me." Shelly and I spend about half the episode talking about the power of Self and half walking through her book. Shelly shares her powerful story in between.  Shelly begins her book with these two meaningful quotes: "If you love what's in your way, they will transform." - Dick Schwartz "I believe th...

On today's episode- the 50th! episode - I get to chat with Anne Hallward founder and host of Safe Space Radio. Anne is passionate about helping others who have suffered the "repetition of traumatic silence." Not only have they experienced a horrible trauma, they have to be silent about it for fear of backlash. Silence following a trauma perpetuates shame and blame. Anne refers to this as the "woun...

On today's episode, Marilyn and I chat about AM-IFS. Marilyn has held workshops for several years at the IFS annual conference and in her hometown of Sudbury, Massachusetts. AM-IFS is based on the work of Janet Adler and Mary Stark Whitehouse which Marilyn has integrated with IFS. It is like a moving meditation where you connect with parts and feel witnessed by another. One goal of AM is to help p...

On today's episode, Jennifer Farley and I chat about how the body can help us connect to parts and Self. We also talk about Shamanism and its connection to IFS. I found this conversation fascinating and I cannot wait to have Jenn on again! Here are a few of the highlights: - Use of movement as a psychological treatment intervention. - How you move and hold yourself reflects how you feel about your...