The New Man

Do you ever feel stuck about what to do with your life, relationship, or career? What’s really going on when we say, “I don’t know what to do”? And how do we move forward without a clear vision or plan? Today, Alyson and I discuss feeling stuck and uncertain about what to do next. We explore what fuel anxiety, why comfort is different than peace, as well as some ways we can move from uncertainty i...

Do you talk to AI like it’s your therapist? Is it wrong to prefer interactions with a machine over a human? And how is our pursuit of comfort killing our sense of confidence and meaning? Today, Alyson and I discuss the rise of AI as a substitute for friendships and emotional support. We explore why people are forming real bonds with artificial companions, how these tools can actually help, and wha...

Why do some guys crave women who aren’t good for them? Is the “nice girl” always boring — and the “bad girl” more fun? And do we really need to put on an act just to make a relationship work? Today, Alyson and I talk about something a lot of people wrestle with — feeling torn between who we’re attracted to and who’s actually a better fit. We explore why we often contort ourselves to be accepted, h...

Do you get drained by small talk? Does it feel like no one else likes to talk about the things you love? And how can you have deeper conversations even if you don’t see eye to eye? Today Alyson and I discuss some ways to have deeper and more meaningful conversations — even when interests don’t align. Whether you’re chatting with strangers or deepening bonds in a long-term relationship, we share a...

Should you settle in your relationship? Do you ever wonder if there’s someone out there who’s a better fit? And could raising the bar too high leave you alone forever? Today, Alyson and I dig into the idea of “settling” in relationships. We talk about what it really means to raise your standards, how we sabotage relationships, and why it’s tempting to focus on someone else’s flaws instead of facin...

Do you ever fantasize about escaping your current life? Is fear the one setting your goals and expectations? And do you have any idea what would truly bring you peace of mind? Today, Alyson and I try to help a listener who is tired of the grind and wants to hit the eject button. We discuss how to know if you’re on the right track, why we pile on the pressure to succeed, and accessing our deeper se...

Is it easier to do a cold plunge than to deal with your partner’s emotions? If your partner’s in a bad mood, should you just be their punching bag? And do you spend more time focusing on solutions or who’s to blame? Today Alyson and I explore navigating big emotions in a partnership. We explore how to deal with intensity while also setting boundaries against aggression and good old-fashioned drama...

What does it mean to 10X your life? Why are we so afraid to go “backwards” financially? And what’s really driving our desire for more, more, more? Today, Alyson and I talk about developing a healthy high achiever mindset. We explore scarcity, motivation, and what really drives us to be “set for life.” https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/03/set-for-life COACHING - To learn more about coaching wit...

If your partner cheats on you, can the relationship be repaired? Is it your fault if your partner cheats? And how do men respond differently to being cheated on? Adam Nisenson is the author of A Man’s Guide to Partner Betrayal — a book specifically for men whose partners have cheated on them. We discuss why he calls infidelity a “death experience,” why it’s such a blow to our self esteem, and what...

Is sex a source of frustration with your partner? Do you feel sexually rejected by them? And if you don’t push for sex, will your partner ever initiate it? Many folks — too many folks — are unsatisfied with their sex lives. This can be a huge source of frustration and resentment between partners, which can ultimately lead to affairs or divorce. But does it have to be this way? Ruth Ramsay is a sex...

Do you struggle with spirituality? If you stay off the naughty list, does the Universe give you what you want like Santa Claus? And why can spirituality feel so threatening to some folks? Today Alyson and I discuss some of the ways folks relate to the unseen, mysterious world of spirituality. We explore how this relates to our fear of uncertainty, our need for control, and why some people — includ...

Do you believe you need alcohol or some other crutch to function at your best? Do fears like imposter syndrome or stage fright ever completely go away? And is it still worthwhile to be generous and kind? Randy Blythe is best known as the vocalist for the metal band, lamb of god. He’s spent decades making records and playing to massive audiences all around the world. He’s also just another guy you...

Is there a voice in your head that says you need to make a change? Do you experience scarcity if you’re not always making more money? And what can you do if the things that used to light you up feel empty now? Today Alyson and I discuss what we can do when we feel out of alignment with our lives. We talk about why we don’t need to beat ourselves up, what really holds us back from making a change,...

Does it feel like your life is on hold until you figure out your purpose? What’s the real reason many folks are driven to be wealthy? And why do so many “successful” people feel burned out and empty? Dr Jordan Grumet returns to The New Man to discuss what many believe is the key to their fulfillment — purpose. He’s got a unique experience of being a doctor who helps people at the end of their live...

Is it normal for you to forget things until someone nags you about it? Do you ever wonder why your relationships seem shallow or you miss out on career opportunities? And what does this all have to do with brown M&M’s? Today Alyson and I talk about people pleasing, nice guy syndrome, and how being checked out is killing your sex life and career. We discuss the dangers of transactional relating, wh...

Are you devoted to anything other than money, security, or status? Does living with an open heart make you weak? And how is staying guarded killing aliveness? I grew up guarded and armored. For many years, I thought it was necessary and strong to cut myself off from emotional vulnerability. The truth is that I was fragile and incapable of being in emotionally challenging situations. That way of li...

Are you the best lover your partner has ever had? How could you ever be sure? What if they preferred having sex with someone else more than you? And is sex a place where you strive to prove that you’re good enough? Today we talk about feeling jealous about our partner’s sexual history. We explore what drives that insecurity, how neediness is repulsive, and why trying to prove you’re a rockstar in...

Is a lack of confidence your worst enemy? What does it mean to develop mental, emotional, and spiritual strength? And how does accepting death make you stronger? Jiu Jitsu legend Rickson Gracie returns to The New Man, and we dive into the deeper topics from his new book with Peter Maguire called, Comfort in Darkness. Rickson wasn’t just a devastating opponent in the ring, he’s also a teacher that...

Do obstacles mean you're on the wrong path, or are they simply part of the journey? Is the universe conspiring against your dreams, or is it just your own fear holding you back? And what can you do if you’re struggling to find motivation or inspiration? Whether you're questioning your career path, second-guessing a major life decision, or simply feeling stuck, you’re bound to experience doubt and...

What’s the common link between workaholism, greed, and love addiction? Does your sense of self worth go up and down like a rollercoaster? And is there more to life than protecting our egos? If you’re like everyone else on the planet, then you’ve probably struggled with feeling “enough.” Today Alyson and I dive under the hood to discuss Terry Real’s unhealthy forms of self-esteem so that we can all...

If you’re angry, is it better to bottle it up or lash out in retaliation? Do you get stuck in a loop thinking of things you should say to that jerk who pissed you off? And how is emotional constipation draining our aliveness and motivation? In this conversation, Alyson and I discuss the problems that arise with anger. For many, we feel stuck — if we say something with anger it might make the situa...

Is our drive for more money, more status, or more stuff really just an attempt to fill a God-sized hole in our lives? Do you ever feel awkward when expressing love to others? And how does our need for safety block us from having satisfying relationships? Today Alyson and I try to understand why love can be so challenging to receive. We discuss the ways we armor ourselves to avoid vulnerability and...

Are you with someone because you really want them or because you’re more afraid to be alone? Are you settling for junk food relationships that never satisfy and leave you feeling empty? And how does loneliness drive us to choose lousy partners? Relationships are hard and the only way to learn is to get in the mix. Today Alyson and I find some friction when it comes to dating and playing the field....

Has therapy ever been frustrating for you? Is the purpose of therapy to just dig up junk from your past? And is it possible to find healers that can really help you move forward? Today Alyson and I talk about why many folks — including therapists we know and love — find the conventional form of therapy to be limiting. We discuss why she forged her own path instead of continuing as a licensed thera...

Can a neutered nerd become a stud? Is your inner critic an enemy or an ally? And is self rejection fueling your ambition to be better? Today Alyson and I react to a movie called The Hitman and the topic of reinventing ourselves. This leads us to discuss pickup artists, neutered men, and facing our inner critic. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/07/reinvent-yourself COACHING - To learn more abo...