The New Man

Do challenging conversations with your wife turn into long, drawn-out arguments? Today Alyson and I discuss a simple framework for clearing up the kinds of problems that lead to nasty, draining fights. A single podcast won’t make you a pro, but our aim is to show you what’s worth working on so that you stop wasting energy fighting the same old fights. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/10/how-t...

Today Alyson and I dig into money, self worth, and identity. We explore what it means to be a provider, how we can become a burden to our wives, and why it can feel so personally devastating to stop earning money. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/09/losing-your-job COACHING - To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com - To learn more about working with Alyson...

Today Alyson and I explore the topic of resistance — the part of us that hits the brakes when it’s time to take action. We talk about the pressure to be our best version of ourselves and how we can learn to question what we ‘should’ do in order to find our own sense of authority. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/09/pushing-through-resistance COACHING - To learn more about coaching with Tripp...

Today Alyson and I talk about how sex in the real world can often become awkward or mechanical. We explore why striving to meet expectations kills the mood and why amplifying desire might require you to do the exact opposite of what you think.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/08/low-arousal   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To lear...

Today Alyson and I talk about why so many guys feel powerful at work but ultimately feel like a wet noodle when they get home. We explore why someone else’s emotions have us give up our power, the reason this is a cancer to any relationship, and why any change is going to depend more on you than her.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/08/afraid-of-her-emotions   COACHING   → To learn more abo...

How can you tell if you're too soft — or too domineering — as a man? Why are so many modern men afraid of their own masculinity? And how do we build a sense of purpose and belonging while knowing someone's really got our back? I asked Jason Lange to join me today to help me see what I'm missing about masculinity.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/07/modern-masculinity   COACHING   → To learn...

Today Alyson and I explore how the positive desire to fix and change can turn us into what scientists call The Personal Growth Junkie. Whether it’s fixing your marriage, optimizing your health, or dialing in your productivity we explore what’s really driving that need — and what it might be costing you.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/06/fix-your-life   COACHING   → To learn more about coa...

Whether it’s urinating yourself in public, surviving horrendous gas during a date, or just having spinach in your teeth during a zoom call, today Alyson and I share some true, embarrassing stories. We explore the importance of laughing at ourselves, how humor is a love language, and why our sense of humor tells us how tough we really are. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/06/humor-makes-you-st...

Alyson and I dig into the notion that being a successful woman is unattractive to quality men. We talk about why the drive that gets professional results can unintentionally kill attraction, the role of armoring, and why creating connection is just another skill to learn. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/06/men-successful-women COACHING - To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit h...

David Deida discusses how The Man of Zero differs from The Superior Man, why there’s more to life than purpose, and how meaningless is the doorway to something truly fulfilling. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/05/david-deida-man-of-zero COACHING - To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com - To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://Alyson...

Can burnout steal your life force? Jon Rose (Waves for Water) survived 47 disasters and 5 conflicts — here's how he came back stronger. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/05/jon-rose-burnout COACHING - To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com - To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com BOOK - We live in a world with more po...

Are you worn out by the circus of uncertainty and anxiety? Do you find yourself wanting to check out, numb out, or just give up? And is it possible that all of this craziness is an opportunity to go deeper into what makes life truly meaningful? Philosopher and CEO Brian Johnson returns to discuss how we can break free from the forces distorting our thinking and draining our reality. We talk about...

Are you tired of fear, scarcity, and anxiety being a normal part of your life? Do you think trauma only comes from combat or some crazy intense experience? And if you’ve got some emotional challenges, will doing magic mushrooms with a backyard shaman make them go away? Will Van Derveer MD on healing anxiety, trauma, and what actually works.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/03/psychedelic-th...

Why do so many capable people struggle to get things done? Learn to identify the roadblocks that hold us back and the necessary ingredients for getting things done.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/03/get-stuff-done   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOO...

Do you feel like your life is supposed to be bigger than it is? What would it mean if you weren’t exceptional? And why do so many successful folks still feel like they aren’t enough? Today Alyson and I explore why some people feel pressured to reach their full potential. We discuss the expectation to be exceptional, how fixating on the future kills our satisfaction, and why having what we truly wa...

Are you tired of being the one who just handles everything? Do you ever catch yourself thinking, “I shouldn’t have to ask for help”? Or are you on the other side feeling like no matter what you do, it’s never enough? Today Alyson and I discuss what’s really happening when things don’t feel fair in a relationship. We explore why score-keeping poisons a partnership, how doing whatever they want make...

Is it clear that something has to change, but you’re afraid to make a move? How do you know when it’s time to throw in the towel? And how does “hope” fuel anxiety and keep us stuck? Whether it’s our business, a relationship, or whatever, we tend to stay stuck in a painful place because we don’t want to do the hard thing. Today, Alyson and I discuss why we avoid reality, how we can reclaim our powe...

Whether it’s your looks, your job, or whatever — do you feel a lot of pressure to get it right? Do you ever beat the hell out of yourself for making a mistake? And if we all know that no one’s perfect, then why do so many of us think we should be? Today Alyson and I dig into perfectionism: how we get wired for it, why we let it abuse us, and why striving to get it right makes it harder for us to h...

Do you know what you really want in life or are you just reacting to whatever comes your way? Do you do things because they actually strengthen you or because some guy on a podcast said you should do them? And how can we get out of autopilot to begin the process of forging our own path? Today we dig into a question that scares a lot of people: What do you want? So many of us are firefighting, reac...

Do you care more about the relationship than your partner does? Does it seem like something else is getting their attention? And are your efforts to create time together actually pushing them away? Today Alyson and I talk about what it means when one partner is always busy or distracted. We explore why pushing for more connection can actually drive them away and why choosing to be busy may sometim...

Are the holidays a source of stress and dread for you? Do you feel boxed in by family obligations? And does the thought of doing things differently feel like it would blow up the whole season? Today Alyson and I dig into the pressure, guilt, and expectations that show up this time of year. We talk about why it’s so hard to break old patterns, what drives the “I have to…” mindset, and how to start...

Are you afraid of being trapped in a sexless marriage? Does your partner treat sex like it’s just another chore? And what are the ways you’re killing your sex life without even knowing it? Today Alyson and I discuss sex — or the lack of sex — in long term relationships. We identify some of the ways we unconsciously kill attraction, what might truly be in the way, and why avoiding the issue just ma...

Why does talking about money with your partner feel so loaded? Why can financial conversations turn into full-blown fights? And what if the real issue isn’t money at all? In this episode, Alyson and I explore why finances are one of the biggest sources of stress — and even breakups — in relationships. We talk about how money has tested our own marriage, the hidden meanings we attach to it, and wha...

Why do so many women chase the jerk but overlook the nice guy? Do you ever lose yourself once you’re in a relationship? And what does it mean when a man’s powerful at work but neutered in the bedroom? Today, Alyson and I dig into why so many guys struggle with relationships, power, and emotions. We breakdown what it means to be a modern integrated male as well as the ideal balance of brains, heart...

Why does trying to be a “real man” scream insecurity? Why do so many guys turn into neutered, “yes dear” pushovers? And could all this talk about masculine and feminine energy be a big distraction? Today Alyson and I break it down. What do people really mean when they talk about masculine and feminine energy? Why do some swear it’s the secret to passion, polarity, and purpose? And what if the whol...