The Missing Secret Podcast

In this episode, let's revisit the episode, "The $5 Million Secret – How to Rewire Your Autopilot". Do you think you can change your outcomes in life and success with just 12 minutes a day? John and Kelly are here to tell you that you can. Most people perceive that they control their daily actions, but they don’t. They only control their intentions. It is this conflict between consc...

In this episode John and Kelly talk about the impact of self talk. John recently got back from visiting in person with the mental coach for the USC football team. His name is Tim Kight. He’s probably the top sports psychologist in the country. In our last episode John explained one of Tim Kight’s concepts. That an event happens, then there’s a four step process. First you focus on the event,...

In this episode, John and Kelly talk about how the human mind works. John recently got back from visiting in person with the mental coach for the USC football team. His name is Tim Kight. He’s probably the top sports psychologist in the country. In his first year at USC he turned them around from four and eight the prior year to 11 and three. John talks about how the human mind works. And said tha...

In this episode, John and Kelly talk about how a person’s inner world determines their outer world. This topic was inspired by John listening to Tony Robbins on the impact theory podcast. In this episode John mentions that you live up or down to your identity. Most people create their identity by default. And one’s identity is determined by the stories you tell yourself. Kelly mentions that this i...

In this episode John talked about how to have a great marriage. The Einstein of marriage in the United States is John and Julie Gottman. Based on their extensive research, they truly are the top in their field of marriage and relationships. Based on their research, we all have unconscious tripwires from childhood wounds. It is critical that you know your spouse’s childhood wounds as well as your o...

In this episode John and Kelly talk about the stories we tell ourselves impact our behaviors. These stories are always playing in the background in the subconscious mind. And they drive our behaviors as well as our fears. Oftentimes we need to take a hard look at these stories and see if they are serving us. Often they are not. So you need to go back and look at what actually happened in each stor...

In this episode John talked about recently watching the movie “The Book Club”. It stars Jane Fonda, Candace Bergen, Diane Keaton and Mary Steembergen. It’s about four women who are in their 60s and 70s. The romantic and sexual side of their life has dried up. But then they read the book 50 shades of gray. It re-energizes the sensual side of each one of them. When John watched this movie, he watche...

In this episode John and Kelly talk about human nature. How humans are wired for survival, not for success. And that plays out regarding the negatives in human nature. We tend to be self focused, we tend to be reactive. As humans, we tend to be lazy. We tend to be unfocused. Easily distracted. That’s human nature. But there is some good to human nature. We have an innate desire to help other peopl...

In this episode John and Kelly talk the importance of having an intelligent plan for your life. John talked about going out to LA to see his stepson who is a musician. He is struggling to have an intelligent plan for his life regarding paying his bills. Kelly mentioned that there were times in her life where she didn’t have an intelligent plan. John said the same thing. Then John told about going...

In this episode John and Kelly talk about the benefits of aging. As Kelly is about to turn 50 in a couple months, she has spent a lot of time thinking about aging. And she really likes the wisdom that comes from aging. The increase confidence. Caring less what other people think. Then John discusses the fact that aging gives you perspective. He says that the older you get, the more you realize tha...

In this episode John and Kelly talk about the importance of having a “system” for growing. A weekly system that is both consistent as well as strategic relative to what you want to accomplish. When you have such a system, you become what they call a “conduit of learning”. Kelly talks about how every Sunday she figures out what she’s going to listen to during the coming week. And then sets it up so...

In this episode John and Kelly talk about how you answer the daily question “how are you doing “. It has a huge impact on how you influence others as well as how you influence yourself. Kelly says that when she is asked that question, her standard response is “EXCELLENT”. For John, he answers “living the dream”. Regarding influencing yourself with your answer, John says it sets the tone for your i...

In this episode John and Kelly talk about the importance of having perspective in life. John gives the example regarding the evolution over the last three years of think it be it. Initially he and Kelly thought think it be it was for everyone. Everyone wants to be successful – right? Wrong. For most people, more success is merely a preference. John says he and Kelly came to appreciate that think i...

In this episode John and Kelly talk about the importance of one’s morning routine. In fact, John says that a person’s morning routine will determine their success in life. That one thing more than anything else. And he talks about the think it be it 12 minute a day technique. John and Kelly’s morning routine is simply applying the 12 minute a day technique to their respective lives. Reading the su...

In this episode John and Kelly talk about growing intellectually. And how important it is to make your personal growth both consistent (every week) as well as strategic relative to what you want to accomplish. Kelly describes a great system she’s created for herself. Every Sunday she defines the things she’s going to listen to during the week. Listening to the content primarily when she’s exercisi...

In this episode John and Kelly talk about moments in their life where it changed their trajectory. Kelly talks about when she first became an entrepreneur in the employment field. What drove her to make the leap. And Kelly talks about the lessons she learned. John talks about when he launched into being an entrepreneur in the real estate development field when he was 30 years old. After starting o...

In this episode John and Kelly talk about how we are all in the influence business. And influence has two components to it. First, influencing yourself. That means getting yourself to do the key habits required to be successful. Having discipline. John talks about how this is leadership of self. Which means having the mindset of I can achieve anything I set my mind to. I own my results and am neve...

In this episode John and Kelly talk about how important it is to be organized if you’re a high achiever. John and Kelly have developed an organizational system (daily to do form and weekly to do form) that they think is great. There’s three components to the system. You plan your day the night before, you time block your day, and you identify your top three priorities each day. The key is to have...

In this episode John and Kelly talk about how important it is in marketing to identify the emotional hook with your customers. This is absolutely the most important thing you must do in marketing. Everything flows from there. Kelly talks about recently getting a big client. She discusses the emotional hook that landed the whale. John then talks about the emotional hook with regards to Think it Be...

In this episode John and Kelly talk about the idea of seeking to understand before you try to be understood. John mentions that this is one of the seven habits of highly successful people. He recently read that book again and this was the habit that really caught his attention. Kelly and John talk about how innately we don’t like people who think differently than we do. That happens at a subconsci...

In this episode John and Kelly talk about what it means to do your best. John explains that in his 40s, doing his best meant getting up it 5:30 AM. When he got into his 50s, he expanded his vision of doing his best. It was three things. Effort – getting up at 5:30 AM. Second, focus on what moves the needle. And then third, personal growth. With a system. And making sure the growth was consistent a...

In this episode John and Kelly talk about how success comes down to tuning into reality. What is reality telling you regarding your business, your romantic relationship, your health. What is the unvarnished results you’re getting in each area of your life. So often people want to ignore what’s really happening. John talks about listening to an episode of Impact Theory. Where the host Tom Bilyeu sa...

In this episode John and Kelly talk about how to have a great romantic relationship by rewiring your autopilot. So the right actions happen automatically without thinking. During this podcast they talk about some key behaviors that create a great romantic relationship. Such as having a weekly relationship talk with your spouse. How to make yourself “flexible, patient, and thoughtful” automatically...

Too often Up Your Success programs require a couple of hours a day to start. Be it for journaling, meditation, or whatever their method is, you don’t have that much free time. Join John and Kelly as they discuss the three components of time; quantity, efficiency, and scarcity. Listen as they discuss the impact that just 12 minutes a day had on their lives once they created the clarity they needed...

When people are introduced to a new strategy to up their success, oftentimes they think it won’t work on them, and for good reason. Nothing to that point has really worked. So why should they believe the new thing is going to work? The concepts behind the Think It Be It program and the 12 minutes a day methodology are based on science, and the fact is they can work on anyone! John and Kelly discus...