The Messy Inbetween

One of the most requested episodes! Dating is already ghetto hood but having a child in the process adds another complexity. Murugi was a single mum for a while and Lydia was raised by a single mum. We each shared our views from those perspectives. How long should you wait to date? When is it okay to introduce someone to your kids? What are the great parts about dating as a single mum? Single mums...

Deal breakers in relationships! I think it’s always very easy to say what would make you walk away until you’re faced with it. However, it’s good to have some sure limits in mind to safe guard you. Cheating? Substance abuse? Intentionally leaking your nudes ? Tell me when it’s the one.😄 Everyone has their own and we are not judging. Most people proclaim their deal breakers publicly but kwa ground...

The hype of the new year is over and maybe the year so isn’t as life changing as you hoped it would be. But it’s not over. it’s only just beginning. If you’re in a rut, the idea is to hit refresh instead of giving up. We can all get a little run down but to ace the whole year, you need to pause, breathe and try again. Are you in rut? how’s your year so far? Let’s chat in the comments. Enjoy the li...

This episode is sponsored by Netflix. Watch Bridgerton season 2 out now! Bridgeton has the teaaaaa! Although it’s set hundreds of years ago we can see so many themes that still exist today which we definitely have an opinion about. From how there is still a double standard on hoeing - men are almost encouraged but woman are forbidden… have you seen that anywhere else!👀 Or how women have an e...

Let’s chat about it sis!  Men being vulnerable with us and the world is not the norm. Partly because of their own struggles but also we might play a part. If your man cries to you, how do you feel ? How do you react ? Do you hold space for him ? When he shows anger, how do you respond?  The same way we say that we love it when our men hold space for us, men just might want the same hun....

Relationships are made a lot harder by the amount of misconceptions we are fed. Every relationship is different so how are all the rules the same ?👀 We have probably left whole relationships because they didn’t match these “lies”. So let’s unpack.. is there “the one?”, it real love easy? Is fighting wrong?? Sis, Issa lot. What we choose to believe definitely shape how you’re showing up to your re...

It’s you we are talking to. Come back here!😂 Sex should be free and exactly how you want it to be but we can all agree that that there are some things that no partner is really enjoying. Eg - just laying there inactive. We wanted to share some DON’Ts during sex to remind us that we are active participants. We admit that we are guilty of some of these things ourselves but we are striving to do bet...

It’s our birthday week! Murugi turns 32 today and Lydia turns 31 tomorrow. As we celebrate our birthdays with excitement and positive anticipation, we know that’s not always the case when you’re turning a year older. Sometimes birthdays can be a loud reminder of your shortcomings, they can reflect your loneliness or lack of fulfillment. Other times it’s just pure dread. We wanted to unpack age anx...

This episode is inspired by a video we came across on Instagram.  There are so many of these “facts“ that are shared about women or relationships that usually go without comment but this one really inspired conversation. These facts are designed to be some guide for women to understand men while dealing with them but are they actually true, let alone “facts“? Will men do anything for the woma...

Our first Q&A episode!🥳 We arr always chatting on DMs but we wnates do so an episode answering all your questions. We loved  them all! Are we dating? Do we fight? What is the age difference between us and our partners? We also loved the personal dilemmas. We hope this helped you get to know us a little better.  Enjoy the listen and follow us for more content! Youtube:  TMI Podc...

Ladies! 🗣Single is the default. Our society is so obsessed with relationships to the point that you are made to feel weird when you're single. Although we are both in partnerships, we had a fantastic time single. We enjoyed our season of single and lived it to the fullest. We always say that if you're not happy single, that's the you you’re taking into a relationship. So here are some things we di...

The Alpha female. Who is she? What defines her? There’s so much conversation around what it means to be an alpha female and we wanted to sit down and unpack it all. We both fit the definition of the alpha female and we invited Kitt Kiarie who is also an alpha to share our experiences walking in these shoes. Do we like it? What are the challenges? What are the misconception? It was an enlightening...

The self love trend is here. But what does it even mean to love yourself? Do I love myself because I love the soft life? There’s just so many narratives around self love so we wanted to have a conversation about what it really means to love yourself, how we can practice self love and the things that hold us back from truly loving ourselves.  Enjoy the listen and follow us for more content! Yo...

New year, new things, new journeys!  As long as you’re willing to try new things you are likely to stumble on rejection. A new relationship, a new job, a new friendship - they can all come with a “NO!” Naturally, rejection feels awful but we can’t allow it to determine our forever. On today’s episode we share our experiences with rejection, how we navigated through it and tips on how you can...

We are starting a new year and if you listened to us and left that dusty man in 2021, then you may just be ready for your first date!😁  If we are honest, a lot of our ghetto relationships were probably giving us signs from the first date. So this episode is all about the etiquette to make sure you are putting your best foot forward but also making sure you’re not being sold short!  From...

Hey inbetweeners! Happy New Year! Welcome to our first episode of the year! We're chatting about things we want for the new year and our resolutions to help us get there! Most resolutions are broken before February but that has never stopped us. Starting the year with intention can be very powerful in helping you clarify how you want to direct your year. We shared our love, self, health, wealth, c...

And just like that, 2021 is coming to an end. As we start a new one we wanted to share what we are leaving in 2021. From songs, to habits to trends. We want 2022 to be fresh and new so some of things just can't come with us. Some people and places can't come with you either sis. Maybe your man can't either hun. Only you know what kind of 2022 you want so check in and see what needs to be dropped.&...

What a year it’s been? The year we started TMI, first and foremost!😄  It’s also been a year of many highs but also some lows. We wanted to have a sit down to have a frank conversation of how the year went. From family to health to relationships. Sometimes our minds only remembers the extremes, so sitting down to review each area of life to see what was great and what wasn’t allows you to act...

It’s not break up season we swear!! But since we talked about how to know when it’s over, we thought we offer some support on what to do if you do break up. We have all been through a break up. They suck. Nothing will change that! But there are some things you can do to make the ghetto a little less ghetto!  Enjoy the listen and follow us for more content! Youtube:  TMI Podcast KE - http...

Before accepting that your relationship is over…it takes time. But whether you like it or not, eventually there comes a point of no return and you are left with no option. We thought we share our personal non negotiables. The things that we believe are obvious signs that the relationship is over or at least it needs to be. What are some things that let you know that it’s time to break up? Let us k...

One of the most overused word in 2021 but a necessary one. We have touched on boundaries before we wanted to do a full episode so we ca share our personal experiences with boundaries and the long ghetto road to learning how to enforce them. Boundaries also have a very bad reputation as most people see them as barriers. We wanted to change that narrative into a positive one. Boundaries are for you...

Money money moooneeyyyy! We are always talking about securing the bag but what happens after the you secure it? What are our money habits and are they they helping us get and stay rich? On this week's episode we share how we are TRYING to have better money habits and the things that have helped. Major disclaimer... we are also very much students in this game so we are also learning. From learning...

We are always complaining about how our partners are... what our exes did...how hard done by we have been... what about us? Are we present in our relationships? Are we putting in effort to to be the best partners we can be? This episode is an honest conversation about how we have learnt to be better partners. We also share the ways we weren't at some point. Being unkind, not taking accountability...

After last week's very triggering episode (check out "Episode 16 - How to know your partner is cheating" if you haven't), we are on the other side of the spectrum this week. How to know you have found or you are with 'the one'. We appreciate that 'the one' means different things to everyone. We also know that the one may not be this 'soul mate' but it is the one who aligns with you in a healthy wa...

Disclaimer - Each of these things separately aren't necessarily red flags but a couple of them together probably are.   Cheating is a constant conversation and a lot of the times the person who is being cheated on is the last to know. We have both been cheated on and we have both cheated so we know what it's like from both sides. It is obviously devastating to be cheated on but better to know...