The Manspace

Send us Fan Mail On today's episode, we step back in time a few weeks to talk about our experiences watching It's a Wonderful Life. Turns out, despite having seen it multiple times, it can still hit a nerve. Matt, Mike, and Rob talk about misconceptions about men and their reactions.  Things can get tricky for men when they bottle emotions too long and they come out poorly. Then we get a...

Send us Fan Mail Yes, it's Man Nugget Monday!! Bite-sized nuggets of relationship advice to keep you and your relationship on track. Today, we talk about ways to make mental space for your partner. We've all got a lot on our minds, and mental space is a precious commodity. When we make room to think about what is going on for our partner, we are much more likely to take advantage of smal...

Send us Fan Mail Want more intimacy in your life? You should. Not just sexual intimacy, all forms of intimacy. On today's episode, Matt, Mike, and Rob break down how to be more deliberate about creating the kind of intimacy you want. We discuss:  Making time to do it, even scheduling.  Sharing more of your experience, rather than the details.  High fiving more.  That last one isn't discu...

Send us Fan Mail It's a little annoying how often therapists recommend having a conversation with your partner. As though everything can be solved by talking to each other. But honestly, there are enormous benefits to having a conversation. Some of the biggest benefits include:   Increased understanding of the issues Improved perspective and empathy More maneuverability in the relationship  S...

Send us Fan Mail Many men feel like they can't bring things up in their relationship. Either because they "don't care," or because there's no point anyway. Unfortunately, that's bad for men and bad for relationships. Well don't worry. Manspace will save you.  On today's episode, Matt and Rob (Mike was mysteriously missing) discuss 5 tips to bringing things u...

Send us Fan Mail Is there a danger in always giving ourselves what we want? Should we practice more self control and deprive ourselves of things? On today's episode, we highlight some of the benefits of going without. Depriving ourselves of things can create more appreciation, different perspective, and greater tolerance for difficulty.  Matt, Mike, and Rob break down the pros and cons of int...

Send us Fan Mail On this week's episode, Matt and Rob get real lonely without Mike. I mean, it's not like Mike's gone from the show or anything, but he did move and he wasn't on the episode. We had to go eat at a mediocre sandwich shop in Houston without him. It was rough.  Luckily, today's episode is packed with tips to help men overcome, or at least work productively on,...

Send us Fan Mail Spacemen, settle in. On today's episode, we talk about some healthy ways to manage intense emotions and stress. Matt hits the weights and we talk about if that's a good idea or just toxic masculinity. I mean really, at this point, isn't everything a man does considered toxic? Honestly. I don't know how we get through a day.  But we also talk about Mike moving....

Send us Fan Mail I'm not going to lie, you're going to get really annoyed at the suit metaphor in this episode. Just go watch The Bear and you'll love it. On today's episode, we talk about how couples manage when one person changes in a 'dramatic' way. All people change over time and every couple has to adjust, but sometimes, one person makes a departure from shared b...

Send us Fan Mail When was the last time you let your kid fall out of a tree? Wait, maybe just climb a tree? Or when was the last time you let your kid drive alone across the country? Never you say? Sounds like someone might be overparenting.  You might know it as helicopter parenting when parents are constantly hovering over their kids to make sure they never get hurt. It's been increasing in...

Send us Fan Mail Ever worry that you and your partner have nothing in common? What about you and your kids? What do you do if you have no overlapping interests.  The answer is to be more like Matt—a renaissance man. Get interested in EVERYTHING. The key is not sleeping. Like, ever. Learn to master all things and then you can make sure you and your other will for SURE have something in common.  Mat...

Send us Fan Mail Do you remember the rules for I before E? Me neither. Like right there? How come it's neither, but it's also achieve? I'll tell you why. And it's not because English makes no sense. It's because we all need a little balance in our lives. Like, sometimes, imma put that I before the E. Sometimes I'm not. Sometimes, I'm just going to spell it wrong....

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever noticed how much wisdom is packed into a Seinfeld episode? Or perhaps how much Brian Regan resemble Gandalf the White? Me neither. But perhaps they have some input on why men don't talk the same way women do.  Let's be honest, we're not the best at sharing stuff with each other. So, on today's episode, we attempt to reconcile that. Men need to be...

Send us Fan Mail On todays episode, Rob goes on a bit of a rant. I know, you're not surprised. Here's the thing--in media, we tend to neglect meaningful relationships between men that aren't sexualized.  So what Rob?  Shouldn't we also have good examples of romantic relationships between men?  Yes, we should. But does it have to be one or the other? Unfortunately, good examples...

Send us Fan Mail We've talked before about how it can be hard to like your kids. But, let's be honest--our generation was the last good one. All the ones below ours are just wastes of space with weird ideas and lazy attitudes.  Have you ever considered that that is a common refrain for EVERY generation? We all think the ones below us are doomed. Yet, somehow they keep progressing. So, on...

Send us Fan Mail Turns out, we did not cure loneliness with our last episode on loneliness. So this time, Matt, Mike, and Rob REALLY look at it. Not like before when we only sort of looked at it.  Like, we work to define it so you know if you're lonely or not. In case you couldn't tell before and you need the Manspace to tell you how you feel. And of course we figure out how to overcome...

Send us Fan Mail Sup my fellow Kens. Let me start by saying, you are Kenough. Also,  The Barbie Movie was super good. If you haven't seen it, shame on you. You call yourself an enlightened man and you haven't even seen Barbie? Do you even fight the patriarchy bro?  I know, Barbie movie is so last month. And I know Barbie movie has been a little controversial. But we here at the Manspace...

Send us Fan Mail Do I love Ted Lasso too much? I mean, how do we define too much? And really, how do we define love? Or even Ted Lasso? He makes us feel good. He makes us better men. Don’t believe me? Watch season 2 episode 8. Seriously. Go watch it right now.  Today, Mike and Rob question their existence without Matt as we talk about S2 E8 of Ted Lasso. There are some strong themes for men in thi...

Send us Fan Mail All the single ladies, all the single ladies. So put your hands up. Are those the lyrics? I was never a big beyonce fan. But don't tell her. I hear she has a very fragile ego.  If you're still reading, today's episode is another one explaining why men do stuff. Why they golf? Why they blow stuff up? Mostly, Rob wonders why dudes do this sort of stuff. It's more...

Send us Fan Mail Seriously? I'm right all the time anyway. She should just admit, you are always right. I can see you thought this through and whatever conclusion you've come to deserves my admiration and respect.  Spacemen, just read that paragraph above to your wife. Problem sol...what? It didn't work? Huh. That's weird. I thought this through. Why won't you just agree w...

Send us Fan Mail Yes, this episode is just as riveting as the title implies. Actually, if you're really into personality tests and knowing which Hogwarts house you belong to, this episode is for you. Matt, Mike, and Rob share their results from a few different personality and relational assessments. In a shocking turn of events, Rob doesn't like standardized assessments. Honestly, at thi...

Send us Fan Mail I was going to call this "How to win friends and influence people," but I bet that's already the title of something. On today's episode, Matt, Mike, and Rob break down how to influence the people in your life to shape behaviors and outcomes. Spoiler alert: you should manipulate. Kidding. Don't do that. Even though it says MAN in it, don't do it. You s...

Send us Fan Mail Sup bruhs? Who's ready for another episode? Well buckle up. Today, Mike and Rob try to fill the void of Matt and talk about being a father after divorce. Rob gives a LOT of disclaimers. Here's one more: divorce is really freaking hard. In no way are we speaking FOR all men, nor TO all men. We hope this episode will help any man, divorced or not, consider the kind of fath...

Send us Fan Mail Ever feel like men look like idiots in media? Like in commercials we're just bumbling buffoons who can't do anything right (except in Cialis commercials)? Well we challenge that idea on today's episode. Mike quizzes Matt and Rob about how fathers are perceived and we talk about how to shift those perceptions.  Head over to our social TikTok and join the conversation...

Send us Fan Mail It's our birthday....sort of. For our 100th episode, we just wanted to pet dogs. But since a centenarian recently did that and stole our thunder, we'll settle for a look back at what we've learned. And we throw out some sweet resources to help you be a better man--which we always do, but not always on the 100th episode. This one's special.  Spread the word! The...