The Life Stylist

I join my brother Kyle Kingsbury for a raw conversation about the life experiences behind my new book, A Horse Named Lonesome. We trace my journey from childhood abuse and addiction to recovery and spiritual awakening, exploring how shame, trauma, and the illusion of separation can keep us disconnected from ourselves and others. We also get into forgiveness, ego death, 5-MeO-DMT, and the hard-earn...

In this Lonesome Conversation, Dr. Lipton and I explore his striking claim that loneliness runs against a law of biology—that no organism, from an ant to a bee to a human, survives outside its community. He walks through why we've been programmed to feel separate by religion, politics, nationality, and sex, and who actually benefits when we're isolated and disempowered. A bracing reframe of the lo...

Can a natural drug get you off drugs? Co-founder of Ambio Life Sciences and one of the leading voices on ibogaine, Jonathan has spent over 15 years inside the clinical, traditional, and research sides of this medicine. Being handed a Zoloft prescription after a nine-item questionnaire became his first real entry into altered states, a lens on the world that also left him feeling trapped. Harm redu...

In this Lonesome Conversation, Joel and I explore his reframe that "aloneness can become all oneness" — that you can learn to connect with the earth and sun so deeply you're never truly alone, even in solitude. He shares the story of a teacher who spent 18 years alone doing shamanic practice, and makes the case that intentional solitude, far from something to fear, can be an actual lifeline. A gro...

This conversation with Ross Rosenberg goes straight into the heart of my recovery story—from childhood trauma, shame, addiction, and compulsive behavior to the lifelong process of learning how to genuinely love and accept myself. We explore loneliness as an underlying driver of addiction, why our attempts to fill that void often create even more separation, and how healing can transform suffering...

We’ve been ingesting microplastics, and no one is talking about it. That result is what first got David Roberts, co-founder and managing partner of Mara Labs, interested in microplastics. Most broccoli supplements don't contain what their labels claim. One doctor even teared up in front of him at a conference when they realized what they'd been recommending for years. The GLP-1 side effect story i...

In this Lonesome Conversation, Cal and I discuss a kind of loneliness that has nothing to do with being alone — the "island in your own home" feeling that comes from not sharing what you're struggling with, even with a partner who'd drop everything for you. Cal is disarmingly honest about how pride and shame, usually around money, keep him from letting his wife in, and how every time he finally do...

What if mental illness is actually a spiritual battle? My guest today is Skai Delacroix, a healer and teacher who spent three years in near-total silence and now works with people through his ZeroPoint method. What happened to him after that first year of samadhi is the part nobody talks about: the long collapse into psychiatric diagnoses, suicidal planning, and a body he could barely move. At one...

In the first Lonesome Conversation I ever recorded, I speak with Jeffrey and Clayten, the two men behind Focused Life-Force Energy, to open on a paradox: how can we be more digitally connected than any humans in history, yet lonelier than ever? Clayten remembers pandemic Zoom dinners and the front porch he misses, while Jeffrey names the "field effect" between two people in a room — an intimate, s...

Forty years into a nicotine habit, I tried to quit cold turkey, and it nearly broke me. Alyson was on the beach communing with grasshoppers and golden orb weavers while I was under the covers in a dark hole, trying to white-knuckle my way off nicotine, mambé, and Ambil after finishing my book. Same place, drastically different trips. We get into what happens when a habit doesn't wreck your life bu...

Mark Sisson ran for decades in cushioned shoes and paid for it with a hip replacement he believes was preventable. Seven Gs of force hit your hip with every step in cushioned shoes, versus one or two when your feet can feel the ground. That number reframed everything I thought I knew about footwear. Mark is the forefather of the primal movement, founder of Primal Kitchen and Peluva, and he’s spent...

In this Lonesome Conversation, Alex and I sit down to name a paradox a lot of seekers know intimately — that the closer you draw to God or consciousness, the fewer people tend to be standing there beside you. Drawing on his favorite philosopher, Manly P. Hall, Alex explains why real spiritual growth doesn't make life easier but instead "quickens the wheel of karma," ushering in a season of trial r...

Is manifestation just a scam? Frank Elaridi is a four-time Emmy-winning journalist turned energy healer whose YouTube work on spirituality has pulled 40M+ views. This is the clearest window I've had into what happens after peak experiences stop mattering. A client came to him convinced she was channeling angels because her vision was fluttering. Frank told her: “Your retina is detaching; see a doc...

Salim and I spend this Lonesome Conversation on that specific ache of standing in a crowded room and feeling a total dissonance with everything around you. He describes how that used to tip him into depression as a teenager, and how he's since come to read it as a signal rather than a verdict — a cue to go inward and actually feel what the moment is asking to be felt. An honest reframe of isolatio...

Dr. Motley says most detox protocols end up poisoning the person doing them, and almost nobody talks about why. Dr. Chris Motley is a Chinese medicine practitioner, kinesiologist, and frequency medicine expert who's spent 22 years watching organs, emotions, and infections behave as one connected system. We start with poop. Then it gets weirder: childhood staph infections, parasites hiding in biofi...

"By Any Means Necessary": How Loneliness Sent Him to Prison | Mansal Denton Mansal Denton joins me for this Lonesome Conversation to trace a hard truth back to its root — that the choices which landed him in prison in his 20s were, underneath everything, a misfired hunt for connection. He talks about placing his entire sense of worth in a woman overseas, the "by any means necessary" logic that sho...

My ego freaked out when I read the manuscript of my book. Today, Alyson joins me for another Field Reveal Friday and Ask Me Anything. A listener asked where I get my clothes now, which sounds light until it opens a door into identity, self-worth, and the years I dressed to hide from a room that I thought was staring at me. There's also a question on rewriting beliefs that sent me back to the night...

In this Lonesome Conversation, Adam and I explore his conviction that separation is a trick of perspective — that whether you zoom in with a microscope or out with a telescope, you're looking at the same unbroken whole, and that "there is God, and we're it." We trace how entomology, the world's religions, and psychedelics converged for him into one felt truth rather than a hopeful idea: that we're...

Time doesn't heal trauma. The damage accumulates until your body pays the price. Dr. Aimie Apigian is a Preventive and Addiction Medicine physician and bestselling author of The Biology of Trauma. Her path in this work involved a failed adoption and an autoimmune diagnosis. We talk about why fear stored in the body creates the sickness you're trying to biohack your way out of. Aimie breaks down th...

For this Lonesome Conversation, Tim Corcoran joins me to pull apart two very different kinds of loneliness: the interpersonal ache of having no one around, and the existential kind where you feel alone in the universe even in a crowded room. We get into why the wild speaks to that deeper loneliness, why middle-aged men are statistically the loneliest among us, and why "just go find community" so o...

I'm excited to announce the Lonesome Conversations Limited Series! Lonesome Conversations is a special series from The Life Stylist, built around my new book, A Horse Named Lonesome (out November 17, 2026). Loneliness is something almost everyone goes through, and almost nobody talks about honestly. So I sat down with psychologists, philosophers, trauma therapists, teachers, and friends to find th...

Why do you keep falling in love with the same toxic person, just wearing a different face? I sat down with Ross Rosenberg, MEd, the author of the bestselling book Human Magnet Syndrome, and a psychotherapist whose work has reached over 34 million YouTube views and sold 200K books in 12 languages. Ross has spent decades untangling the real roots of codependency and reframed it as what he calls Self...

Can one molecule almost double our lifespan? Chris Burres is the founder and chief scientist at MyVitalC, the oldest and longest manufacturer of the Nobel Prize-winning ESS60 molecule. He came here to explain why almost nobody has heard of it. The story gets stranger the further in we go. Rice University scientists discovered this ball-shaped carbon molecule in 1985. It performs better than most e...

Jack Storms lost sight in one eye after an accident with the craft he'd spent nearly two decades mastering, then had to relearn his work from scratch. Jack is a glass sculptor whose cold-worked, Fibonacci-driven pieces live inside Marvel films and private collections. His story lives somewhere between engineering, physical trauma, and the question of what art is truly for. We got into what happene...

My book is officially done, and something else is officially beginning. Alyson is a bestselling author, shamanic teacher, and host of the Ceremony Circle Podcast, and she's launching something called The Field Reveal, an unscripted love series and live events for spiritually-minded singles who refuse to settle. She reads the first-ever Field Reveal Report, a kind of consciousness weather forecast...