The life of a Third Culture Kid therapist

Do you know what your comfort zone is? Third Culture Kid comfort zones can look very different from other people's... and what about if you have never had one at all? Rachel ponders all this, and also how we distinguish comfort from something a lot of us dread... stuckness. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode invites you to shed any shame you are holding for your past chapters and let go of any sense of needing to earn better chapters to come... You don't have to earn a good story - YOU are the good story. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This is a tool that Rachel frequently recommends - it offers a place to integrate identities, express commitment to self and grounds us in our own thoughts and feelings. Will you build your own sacred space today? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What can a tantrum serve? Well, for many TCKs it can be a healthy, albeit uncomfortable, moment where we are struggling with 'sameness' in our lives. It was for me this week and in this episode I'm talking about how sameness can trigger "I want to stop everything" feelings, and how we can move through these. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are we risk takers as TCKs? What is safety to us, and what feels like adventure? Our anxieties and needs may confuse those around us who already see us as adventurers... but what does your story have to say about it? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Something I notice in my work is how often we can land in a place of frustration just as we feel the strength and goodness of our growth journey... we feel frustrated at ourselves for not making these changes sooner. This frustration can be disheartening, so what can we do about it? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Rachel reflects on how our relationship with our inner child is impacted by our cultural experiences of childhood. How can we recognise inner child when they show up, and how can we work WITH them to meet their needs, rather than against them? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What can be so scary about feeling tired? Echoes of past physical limitations can be one reason, as can fear of not being enough... Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Uncomfortable feelings - Joy! What is it about feeling happy that can feel scary or uncomfortable? Turns out a lot of Third Culture Kids have ambivalent feelings about joy, and Rachel unpacks this in today's episode. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What is it about independence that makes us feel safe? Given that so many of us avoid being 'needy' (or dependent), is there an alternative? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A fair amount has been discussed about raising TCKs but what about being a TCK and raising a non-TCK child? Rachel explores the particular challenges this can involve and how responding to these challenges can illuminate ways of being with other non-TCKs too! As ever, knowing your own story is key... Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What messages about yourself and the world are you carrying? Where did they come from? Rachel explores the "scripts" that are handed to us and how these can be constraining. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What's the deal with continuity? In this episode Rachel ponders what it can offer us in times of change, and why Third Culture Kids can feel ambivalent about it! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Continuing with the series 'Uncomfortable Feelings', Rachel explores how we can reframe our relationship with anxiety. Can we accept anxiety as a predictable indicator of growth, or doing something difficult, without loading shame and fear onto ourselves? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Here Rachel explores why it can be hard to feel good about being a 'tourist' but how this can help us re-engage with our passport environments. Can we holiday local, with a sense of delight?  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Parenting/Loving the Young TCKs in our Lives: Why do our stories matter so much when we support and nurture young TCKs? Here I explore what you can offer young TCKs in your life, by better understanding your own TCK experience. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This started off about decluttering and then a conversation about why I don't want to! Why does 'stuff' matter so much to me... to you?  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why does sadness make us uncomfortable? What have we been taught about this feeling? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's coming up to holiday season! What we look for in a holiday can give us some great hints about what we need in our everyday lives... what do you favourite holidays tell you about your needs?  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let's explore how our experiences with the children in our lives are impacted by our own TCK stories... Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What does money have to do with our TCK experiences? Quite a lot, I think...  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This is the beginning of a short series that walks through Rachel's latest transition - home buying! The kind of commitment home ownership entails throws up some great questions for TCKs - this week about how we make decisions. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week is the first of a series I'm starting on Uncomfortable Feelings and we are kicking off with Anger! Let's explore our experiences so far with anger and how we respond to anger in others. And then what healthy anger could do for us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Places get infused with so many of our experiences that revisiting them can flood us with memories - sometimes painful ones. How can we revisit our past places, encounter our past selves and integrate these to our present? Some ponderings here... Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How many of us have loved languages, lost languages or carry shame around fluency? If this is you, you are not alone...  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.