The Later Dater Today

It's been a big week and it will be a big week.  Why might it be more important to think of reasons to root for someone rather than trying to figure out if they're right for you? It's time to mention the relationship of the year without having them be the central spectacle. There is honestly something to be learned from the unfolding of their relationship.  Mentioned in the episode: Lakshmi's inte...

Success seems like a quality we should look for in.people we date. But what is success and what if something like the quality of striving is more important now? Maybe you're wondering what striving is.  Listen in as Lakshmi talks about the difference and offers tools on how to assess the degree to which someone is striving in their life.  Mentioned in the podcast Scott Galloway and The Prof G Podc...

An important overview of what to expect as AI continues to unfold itself into modern dating culture. The Later Dater Today is about more than how to date today - it's also about understanding what's happening in dating and where it's headed so that you can navigate it all.  To hear more in depth coverage of AI and the Future of Dating check out the work of me and Sangeeta Singh-Kurtz is Episode 6...

Listen in on a new way to think about the dating goals that matter today for a Later Dater. It was way less to do with how much you date but rather how you interact with the world - keeping your interaction and connection muscles strong.  A few episodes are referenced to revisit and actually apply the lesson outlined in the episode in addition to simply listening. #3: Everyone Is A Museum And Most...

Let's discuss one dimension of "age" culture around the idea of what it means to "age yourself". Lakshmi dives into these common expressions that can feel more like we should hide our rage rather than use it as a point of connection; especially between Later Daters. And you'll hear a practical way to rewire whatever you think about your age as she offers new ways to talk about your past in way tha...

Let's dive into the gradual decline of everyday organic moments instead of any "resolution" type content, This isn't meant to be a bummer, it's meant to remind you of things we've lost along the way.  It's not just tech and the pandemic. And if we understand a bit more about what happened we can tap into some of our 20th Century wiring:)    Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech...

Conversations about modern dating can often revolve around an intense desire to "not waste time".  Let's dig into it. As we get older, we might feel like time is not on our side, but maybe it's on our side in a new way.  If you have some time to think more about time, we recommend Episode 15:   "Longer Doesn't Always Mean Stronger"    Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and c...

After many conversations with Later Daters, Lakshmi heard something to the effect of "I just can't get hurt or risk having my heartbroken as I date." We get it. So let's take a look at this common concern and talk about it before, instead of after, it happens.  Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcas...

Between the introduction of Tinder and the 2020 pandemic we have a decade of swiping behind us. Tinder made its mark because it brought an influx of singles (20 somethings) into a dating pool that nobody ever thought they'd find themselves in. Now that same demographic but a different generation is rejecting it. What can we learn about how to better accept what dating apps have to offer by taking...

Listen in as Lakshmi shares how Later Daters are rethinking and revisiting what they even think is attractive. This is about more than just exploring other "types" this is about taking a look at what might be attractive today...what attributes, traits and qualities matter to you more now? They may or may not be what they used to be.  Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and cu...

Not to knock the tradition of asking "What are you grateful for?" at Thanksgiving but with all we now know about the importance of questions there's got to be something better.  Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067   He...

Ever think: I need to come up with better date ideas?  Before you begin googling "novel date ideas" first consider the role of space and how to make the circumstances around you work for you.  In this short 9 minute episode Lakshmi discusses how environment might affect your ability to get to know people and how you can make this work for you.    Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" o...

This simple but important insight lives at the center of The Later Dater Today: It's Become Easy To Meet But Harder To Connect. Later Dater Today Host, Lakshmi walks you through the difference between meeting and connecting and how simply understand this difference can make all the difference.    Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com Follow us on Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/the_later_d...

What Happens Later Trailer, Starring Meg Ryan & David Duchovny  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zceSigCGWSQ The Afterlife Set-up: Two 80-somethings reconnect in the pandemic after being set-up by a spirit from the beyond. Hear the incredible story here: https://www.pairedbythepeople.com/featuredepisodes/project-three-x6djm-dz7lj Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life,...

Why you should listen to this episode:  Not getting married isn't and shouldn't feel like a mark against you. But it's easy to feel or think that it is. But EVERY Later Dater can potentially feel like there is a label slapped on them (divorced, never married, widowed, married multiple times). It's what we make it mean that matters.  Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in li...

Why you should listen to this episode:  Being so focused on "liking" someone might actually be getting in the way of connecting with them.  Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection...

Why you should listen to this episode:  Stigmas can be ways that we label and categorize people and ourselves in the modern dating world. But what are stigmas really and how can they be something that might even bring you closer to people you meet?  Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to da...

Why you should listen to this episode:  As a Later Dater you might be looking for different ways and words to describe where you've been and what you're looking for now. The idea of taking a look at the "shape" of your heart might actually tell you more than the standard question "what's your relationship history?"  Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like...

Why you should listen to this episode:  As a Later Dater tapping into memories of crushes can offer clues to who you were and what you found attractive before a dating culture driven by dating apps.  Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has chan...

Why you should listen to this episode:  Being a great Later Dater means way more than building a good profile. We've become a culture so obsessed with marketing ourselves that we sometimes forget what it means to actually be good at dating.  Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in to...

Why you should listen to this episode:  The idea of meeting people outside of the apps is being asked more and more while it feels like there are fewer and fewer options for it. But as Later Daters you might actually have the skill and experience to be less reliant on the apps.  Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrap...

Why you should listen to this episode:  It's worth taking the time to think about exactly what you mean by "being open" when it comes to dating. Otherwise, "being open" can turn into concessions you're willing to make rather than possibilities you're willing to invite. Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around...

Why you should listen to this episode:  Length of time doesn't always equal strength and depth. Go ahead and have a little laugh, but this is an important thing to remember as a Later Dater so that you don't project to far into the future.  Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in tod...

Why you should listen to this episode:  A tendency among Later Daters is to let numbers get in the way of moving forward. Numbers seem like facts and simple true statements until we kick them around a bit. Whether its age, height, weight or years, it's worth building a solid relationship with the numbers in your life.  Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels l...

Why you should listen to this episode:  A common thought and block among Later Daters is "Will I repeat the past?"  And while this seems like a smart high level strategy, it can actually keep you in confusion, swirl and wrap you in a nice cloak of judgmental energy.  Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around h...