The Later Dater Today

I'm offering an online talk and workshop: "How To Date Humans" (Later in Life) at the Omega Institute on 03.19.25  Click on the link to sign up!  And if you want to take the word "baggage" out of your vocabulary of think of a better way to talk about your past and dig into someone else's consider this episode in the LDT catalog.  Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and cultur...

Romantic Hope - NOT hopeless romantic - It might be one of the most important ideas developed by Lakshmi and The Later Dater today as we enter a new era in dating and relationships. People aren't just deleting the apps, they are beginning to torch the idea of romantic possibilities. So what is romantic hope and how and why is it actually a form of resilience?  Tune into the first of several episod...

Season 3 Premiere:  There's something beyond the idea of playing the field or going on a bunch of dates that "don't' go anywhere." What if you're just in the process of opening up again? What if these are 'open ' relationships? Join Lakshmi as she returns to her lifelong mission to improve dating culture and change the conversation around dating later in life.    Referenced in this episode: "Can N...

To listen to full episodes of Jennifer, Ranjani and Bryan check out episodes 14,51 and 54!  Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067   Help keep the The Later Dater Today podcast ad-free. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_...

Dead inside? Emotionally Unavailable? Let's take a closer look at what people. especially Later Dater Men might actually mean when they claim emotional unavailability.  The piece I co-authored with exceptional futurists from The Institute for The Future! https://medium.com/foresight-matters/who-is-controlling-our-romantic-futures-and-what-your-heart-can-do-about-it-the-perils-and-promise-7f44a7444...

What if being single wasn't about NOT having a relationship or even looking for one, but feeling like your truest, best self is expressed when you are single? With more and more people actively choosing to be single, this is a great question and topic for Later Daters to ponder. Listen in as Lakshmi discusses another group that is overlooked; people for whom their Later Dater years are THE best ye...

To reunion or not to reunion? Reunions can feel like a different sort of decision as a later dater. For some reunions are exciting for others the thought can be excruciating. In this episode Lakshmi  explores the value of going to reunions for Later Daters Today and why reunions in general are really important as we get older. This IS NOT about a new way to source relationship leads this is about...

Glad to be divorced but sad about being single? YYes, you can be glad about something behind you and sad about something in front of you. Listen in as Lakshmi reacts and reflects on Ranjani's story of being at a dinner party as a newly divorced woman in a sea of couples. This episode explores the journey from divorcee to single and how each represents a different part in the dating journey.  Laksh...

Is It Better to Stay Single or Date and Find a Relationship? - Celebrating Our 50th Episode! In this episode, we dive into a thought-provoking question from Paul, a 49-year-old listener who wants to know: Is it better to stay single or seek out a relationship? It's a question that hits different during the Later Dater window when there is no longer societal pressure to pair up. Listen in as Lakshm...

Episodes mentioned in this episode The Afterlife Set-Up (a true story of two 80 year olds who reconnected and fell in love during the pandemic.  Lakshmi's LinkedIn post on Long Distance Relationships and Remote Work  Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot...

There's more to the "Let's Be Friends" transition in modern dating and it's often overlooked. The order of how relationships progress has changed and this switch in order explains a lot. This is a critical thing for Later Daters to consider. Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/...

What is dating was sport rather than a game? How would that change things and what kind of athlete are you? Lakshmi explores and develops and analogy that could change your "game". Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067   Help kee...

Season 2 Premiere: Is there another way to talk about and navigate money as a topic? Could we even turn it into another way to connect? Well, yes we can. There are so many different ways to think about and explore whether you have compatible ideas around the idea of money. Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https:...

A preview of forthcoming episodes, the tone of Season 2 and what we are researching now. Expect a season full of "How To" episodes now that the foundation has been set.  Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067   Help keep...

If you have found value in The Later Dater Today podcast and if you believe that we need fun, relatable and useful content for dating during this part of life, please consider supporting Lakshmi and the show by buying her a coffee via the link below.  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_Lakshmi Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher &am...

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Lakshmi is taking a one month hiatus. Want to support her milestone of 45 episodes and keep The Later Dater Today ad-free? Consider throwing her a few bucks.  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_Lakshmi Stay tuned for a Bonus Episode with the meditation pulled out for easy use.  Later Dater today episodes referenced in this meditation Everyone's a Museum and Most of Us Stay in the Lobby Rethinking...

We assign moral judgment to ideas of how long or short a relationship goal is.  But what if distance has nothing to do with whether or not a trip is worth it? A great companion episode to this is "Longer Doesn't Always Mean Stronger."  Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/be...

The companion episode to this is Episode 19: The Death of The Crush  Crushes are an incredibly important part our heart's history. As a Later Dater you may not have looked closely at people at moments where you developed a crush. It's worth taking a minute to look closely as these as you embark or keep on keeping on in your dating journey. Ditch the vision board and try looking at the people and m...

This episode includes tips on how to help the people who want to set you up, describe you in way that is about more than simply how great you are. One that paints a picture that might stick with someone long before they meet you.  For more detail and color on crafting a set up story listen to Lakshmi's interview on the Pivot Podcast!  Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and c...

It's understandable that we make lists to keep us organized and focused on what we want. But where does that kind of approach actually help and where is it actually inefficient?  References in this episode Episode 39: Finding Connection In Contrast   Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.co...

After 20 years of marriage, Gabe, 57 is a year into his dating journey and he's wondering if he'll ever feel "that way" again.  Let's get clear on all the kinds of experiences, moments and feelings that you have to look forward to as a Later Dater. Breaking these down and getting clear can change how you date.  Mentioned in this episode: "I haven't dated since 1999"  Lakshmi was named among the "B...

Share this with anyone who thinks that they "must" date someone who has the same relationship history as them (divorced, kids, didn't marry, widowed) etc. The best part about Later Daters today is the diversity of choices that were made by people. Listen in as Lakshmi  walks you through how you think about connecting even if you lived very different lives.  Mentioned in this episode - a whole new...

Be sure to follow on Instagram as we begin bringing concepts from the podcast to life. https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today In this episode we'll walk you through a plan for how to ask for focus - which might actually make more sense in today's world where our attention can be splintered across devices, screens, thoughts and yes, people.    Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 20...

A much longer format and style than the Later Dater Today podcast, we bring you the true story of two 80 somethings who reconnected and fell in love during the pandemic after 40 years apart. This is more "Golden" than "Later" but a true and hopeful story has no age. Enjoy!  To read more about the precursor podcast to The Later Dater Today, read Vanity Fair's review of Paired By The People.  Lakshm...