The Ladies' Couch with Mary KOBAH-Koate

Motives; that underling reason for every action we take. Many times, it's difficult to process our WHYs, but, at every point, we must try to scrutinize the reasons behind our actions.

These days, it feels like loyalty is becoming a lost art. More and more, people seem driven by self-interest, often abandoning loyalty along the way. But the truth is, loyalty remains one of the most powerful and defining character traits a person can have...

Most fortunate are you when you've got people who hold you by hand and correct you. No, not every correction is criticism and many times, those who love you just want the best for you.

Loss and grief are part of life and when those seasons come, God in his wisdom and manifold kindness has given us inbuilt shock-absorber. it's our duty receive and rely on His provision as we go through such seasons.

why sit on The Fence when you've got the power to choose? Be bold about your choices and be comfortable with it's outcomes.

"I'm not desperate, I just have an honest desire!!!" I've heard this countless times and most people have had to put down their desires in other not to look desperate and then there are those who do not even know the difference. On this episode, I talked about owning your desires and shinning Desperation.

Often Times, we tend to block out the feeling of hurt. And then create a wall around our emotions and disposition to people and events. But Hey, there's a better way!

Life will life, that's certain. Therefore we all have to decide on what our responses would be when life happens. In this episode, I talked about the certainty of the uncertainty of life and how we can posture ourselves for when life happens.

Oftentimes, most ladies are faced with this big question, "Marriage or Career?" In this episode, I gave my perspective in response to this. Listen. Share. Leave a comment!

Isolation starts from our thoughts and then we a lured into becoming physically isolated. We are rational beings and being isolated causes more harm than we imagine.

Owning up to faults doesn't make you less or weak, rather consistently blaming People, situations or circumstances does. It takes power from You.

Most people feel accountability is akin to monitoring but being accountable is simply having a 'why' for your actions. It's more of a personal discipline system that helps you think and plan through your actions so you can defend them whenever the need arises and it's a great tool that helps relationships thrive.

I do not know how we've subconsciously segmented people into those who we expect to be perfect and those who aren't. People aren't perfect, They are humans and are going through growth processes. So, if you have those you look up to and then they 'goof' remember, they are humans and they are allowed to have flaws.

When faced with hurt or painful situations, especially with our emotions, we tend to make suble decisions on those moments that can mar our disposition to life and its happenings

Fears are real. The last thing you need is another person putting their fears on You, Resist it! Be confident in yourself and your dreams. Don't let anyone trade their fears on You.

We've been told, oftentimes, to focus on Ourselves, but we ain't just individuals but have dear relationships that our decisions might affect. Oftentimes, we need to go beyond ourselves to put these dear ones in perspective!

It's often said, "It's a small world." We might get hurt or feel cheated in some way by a person or an organization and may be tempted to hurt them while severing our relationship with them. However, when we get to the point of "Burning bridges," let's try not to burn the person or people along.

Honor is an integral part of our attitude. However, many lack it in present times, and it's sad because whatever, whoever you do not honor, you can't have and be.

Assumptions tends to cost us alot and yet we don't pay much attention to it. Why stay in a state of assumption when You can directly ask questions and gain clarity regarding issues happening in Your life or around You? Get rid of Assumptions and ask Questions!

What's your heart's stance on situations? What do you really believe when no one can see or hear? Not just what you say but those beliefs that's have gained ground in You heart and are influencing the situation around you? In this episode, I bring your attention to actually check what you've believed so far, the realities and effects of it.

There's a self isolation theory subtly flying around, making it look like human relationships aren't important. Truth be told, people, human relationships are an integral part of existence. Don't joke with it. Invest in people.

Ever heard someone say "I'm very different from what I post, I don't even believe or fancy them. All na cruise". Well, that's totally not true and it's exactly what is talked about on this episode...

We all have been influenced by the various environments we've interacted with from birth till certain ages, and most of us are still being influenced. When about to go into or already in a relationship with a person do not rule out their environment and how it has influenced them because this makes up a core of their ideologies.

There's a subtle belief or perspective that being isolated is safer than getting involved and building relationships. Social Capital is an asset, being part of a community has its Perks. Humans were not created to be in Isolation...

We all need Help in one way or another. We need people's support. Most people believe they can do it alone, but it's easier with the right help at hand. As much as You can, ask for help in areas where you need them!