The Ladies' Couch with Mary KOBAH-Koate

Agree, people will always offend you,that's life. It's how you choose to respond to it that matters. Since offense cannot be eradicated from human existence, we should therefore have premeditated responses for when the offense finally happens. I shared few tips on this episode.

It's the season to be jolly and one amazing thing to d as we go through this season is to be intentional about the memories we want to create. Who do we want to be with and How do we wanna celebrate. Do well also to capture these moment.

God's Love for us is a constant in our lives. His love for You isn't fickle, He's consistent in loving you, loyal in loving you irrespective of your state; What you have and don't have, what you've done, you're doing or will do. He Loved you even before You knew Him.

Tenacity is great strength. The ability to stay on one thing, grow yourself and knowledge in a particular area tends to distinguish you from the crowd especially in an Era of mediocrity. However, people tend to give up easily when they see that their efforts are seemingly not birthing fast and immediate result.

Mentorship is one avenue that has been created to shorten time on paths of individuals. In many of life's endeavors, it's easier when you climb on the shoulders of people who have gone ahead of you. In our Nigeria parlance, it's said "Follow who know road"

Our society has allowed pain to be subtly glorified and accommodated in our daily lives and affairs. "Everybody has certain level of pain or suffering they are going through so you should be 'grateful' that yours is 'small'". Pain isn't something that we should be comfortable with and we shouldn't have to suffer before getting things. Our society has just painted wrong pictures and in this Episode...

Packaging is so important in every area, the way we present this things and people that have been given to us. However, there should be more beyond the 'packaging', the content should be much more valuable.

Hey, take it a step or steps at a time, enjoy each moment and phase, relish every relationship and treasure each season. Stop waiting for the perfect time, or season.

Firstly, If there are people you submit to, which I believe you should, then it's an act of honor on your part to seek their opinions when making major life changing decisions. Secondly, Honor the opinions and boundaries of other people even if you do not agree with them.

I once heard, " You love with your heart but you Honor with your Substance". One way of showing honor is by giving to those we honor. From intangible gifts of our time which money can't buy to tangible gifts that money can. Don't visit a person you honour without taking something in your hands for them, no matter how 'little'

Many years ago, I heard "We don't treat people with honor just because they are honorable or deserving of Honor, we treat people with Honor because WE in OURSELVES are Honorable people". It has never left me since then.

Honor is such a vital trait in every human. We should have Honor for people, irrespective of age, class, race and differences. We should have Honor for things, tangible or intangibles,and importantly too, we should have honor for ourselves. On this series, I'd be taking us on various phases of Honor.

Bringing up the past of a person at every given opportunity when there's an issue isn't necessary. Change is a process and most people are sincerely going through it. Be the voice of upliftment to them even if/when they fall again. Give the opportunity to actually change.

Some things might be "Old-school" but still make the core of our personalities and makes us standout in the crowd. Let's not lose the attributes in us that makes those around us and our society better.

"Is there more to me?" "What else can I do/offer?" "Abeg, I've reached my wit's end, I can't do anymore" In thoughts and actions, we've limited ourselves. The worlds systems have tried to put us in a box and often Times, we've limited ourselves to those four corners. On this episode, I'd be affirming the fact that you are indeed capable of much more than you can fathom!

There would always be legit reasons why we shouldn't step out and do those things we've got in our hearts to do. We can make all the excuse we want, however, those excuses would hold us in a place. Take courage. Step out. Drown the excuses!

The choices of others should be respected even when we do not agree with those choices. Not everyone would follow or thread same path as you, we should however learn to cover people with love and support "The Person" irrespective of the choices they've made. Be there for them.

Don't hide that wonderful personality of Yours behind walls just because someone at some point caused You Hurt

Routines are good. Know what goes well with you, gives you stability and helps your achieve daily goals and confidence is important. Knowing exactly what works for you makes life easier for you!

When most people are down, they often box their feelings of sadness or disappointments and just act fine even when there's no need to act it. It's okay not to be Okay, it's okay to have down feelings however, what's not okay is wallowing in them

For every relationship, every group, every setting, there are rules and etiquettes that are expected from those within that circle. You have to know the rules and ascertain if you can meet up to them.

Life brings us opportunities where we'd have to break into circles, create new relationships, and become part of new groups. This episode talks about what is expected of us as we try to become part of these circles.

In this Era of "Wokeness" and "Savage" responses, it seems empathy is on the low. We've been called to go around with gracious words. Before saying words to people, do put your self in their places, understand them and their situations, then weigh if your words are seasoned with grace enough before letting them out.

Our environment influences us greatly therefore, we have to be deliberate about the environment we find ourselves in and create for ourselves. Do not be afraid to unlearn and relearn things that do not suit you and your purpose.

We've heard that the mind is a battlefield but we often forget that we are in a battle to retain the right thoughts and resist the foul and untrue ones. Any thought that isn't in line with your Blood-bought reality must be resisted and it's your place to consistently and vehemently wear out those thoughts and it's minions.