The Kinky Coffee Break

We welcome Bear Phillips back to The Kinky Coffee Break for this episode on Big/little dynamics.    We cover quite some ground here, starting with what these dynamics are about and some of the common misconceptions around them. We discuss the benefits of age play for both the little and the Big, and what’s needed to support this kind of play in terms of skills, boundaries, and integration. I am ve...

I was definitely scratching an itch of my own curiosity this month when I invited DK Green to chat with me about the Leather Community!    DK gives us a peek into life as part of a leather family, including the dynamics and values that it's built around. From the subculture’s roots in gay community, we will hear what's changed and what's drawing a diverse range of people to leather today.    Pop t...

This month, I’m joined on the podcast by the sexy polymath that is Alison Pilling to talk about the long journey of erotic discovery.    Ali shares what’s been helpful, what got in the way, and what advice she would go back and give to her younger self.    This was such an affirming conversation that is full of helpful insights for those of you who are seeking to discover more about yourself throu...

This month, we have our first returning guest on the podcast - Christian Red - to talk about the most common issues in bondage.    Shibari has exploded in popularity in recent years. And, whilst it’s great to see so many people exploring this as an art, form of intimacy, and technical challenge, it comes with some pretty significant risks that may not be obvious at first.    In true Christian styl...

This month, we are joined by the pioneer that is Dr Betty Martin as we explore The Wheel of Consent. Betty shares how The Wheel originated in kink, how it’s both simple and very much not simple in practice, how it can give us insights into what’s happening in relationships, and the impact other forms of power have on how we negotiate. AND we both share how The Wheel can be a helpful way in to expl...

Join me and my special guest, Dr Liam Wignall, as we take a deep dive into the kinky subculture that is Pup Play.    You’ll learn what it enTAILS(!), who typically engages in this type of play, and some of the many benefits people say they get from immersing themselves in this world. We also touch upon academic research on kink more broadly, neurodivergence and kink, and lots more. This conversati...

We are back with Series 2 of The Kinky Coffee Break and this month we are joined by special guest Daniel Morrison for a suuuuuper interesting conversation about queering sex!    We covered some realy juicy topics in our chat from energy genitals to multiplicity, and how we can access polarity beyond the binary genders. Whether you identify as queer or not, there’s a lot of food for thought in this...

This month, I’m joined on The Kinky Coffee Break by the fabulous Mark Cusack, author of the recently published book: Fluid: A Guide for People with Flexible Sexuality. Fluidity feels like such a core part of my own identity and personal journey but it’s a topic that’s rarely spoken about or visible, even within LGBTQ+ communities, so I was delighted to bring Mark on to the podcast to shed some lig...

This month, I’m joined on The Kinky Coffee Break by “the Nigella of parenting’, Roma Norriss!   I learnt why it’s essential that parents DON’T shut down their sexuality, in a permissive, perspective-shifting conversation that highlights the ways in which over-serving parenting isn’t actually making us the best parents for our kids.    We covered a lot of ground in this conversation - from the surp...

This month, I’m joined on The Kinky Coffee Break by Writer, Creative Life Coach, Performer, Book Doula, Trauma-Informed Educator & Artist, and Founder of The Creative Genius, the marvellous Heidi Hinda Chadwick.    We explored some of the overlaps between the worlds of kink and creativity - from the way in which they both tap into our sensual innocence, to the impact of shame can have on the w...

This month, I’m joined by (Feminist) Love Coach, Bear Phillips to talk about What Makes a Great Lover. We covered a lot of ground here - from the way in which men are socialised to disconnect from important parts of themselves, to the way that we can inadvertently create disconnection in our relationships when we avoid being vulnerable. And YES - we do get to hear Bear’s secret to being a great lo...

Join me and my guest, Rosy Pendlebaby, as we discuss smut and the lost art of letter writing. There can be a great vulnerability in expressing our desires and many of the obstacles we face in doing so - such as our fear of judgment, shame, and self-censorship - can be present in our other creative pursuits. What emerged from a desire to stay connected during Covid lockdowns, is an idea that I beli...

This month I’m joined on the podcast by Rope Bondage Educator and regular guest teacher at The Kinky Classoom, Christian Red. Christian is a firm favourite here at Pleasure Rebels, not only because of his technical knowledge but also his wealth of lived experience, open mind, and ability to dive into the juicy conversations about WHY we’re drawn to certain things.  This episode could have gone in...

Join me and my guest, Catherine Hale, as we discuss trauma and nervous systems and why these are important for all of us to know about!  I think one of the most undervalued skillsets in society is our ability to recognise and tend to dysregulation in our own nervous systems. And it’s pretty close to impossible not to feel dysregulated at least some of the time when we are constantly striving, work...

Join me and my guest, Æris Grace, as we discuss the presence of ageism in the world of intimacy.  It can be a big step for any individual to enter a group setting to explore topics as vulnerable as sexuality but add to that the artificial divides that can be present between age groups and it can leave older individuals feeling somehow unwelcomed or even excluded.   What struck me about this conver...

Join me and my guest, Artemisia de Vine, as we discuss the unexpected wisdom of Sexual Fantasies.  “Sex is just SO MUCH MORE than procreation and stress release and having a bit of fun. There’s so much we can discover about ourselves and each other through this lens”  Fantasies come up a LOT in my line of work and, whilst for some people they can be playful and arousing, for others they can be a s...

Join me and my guest, Sian Johnson, as we discuss why and how men can benefit from empowerment work. Within the current systems of power that we live within, men can also be disempowered. As practitioners working with men, it’s not uncommon to see this showing up as anything from them experiencing performance anxiety to a loss of libido, and from shame around what they find pleasurable to boredom...

Join me and my guest, Sasha Damjanovski, as we discuss the exhilarating world of play parties.  Many people I work with are curious about exploring these spaces, yet they can be a bit baffling - like, what's the difference between a play party, a sex party, and a temple night? What do you wear? Will I find myself in the middle of an orgy within minutes of arriving?! Sasha and I share our thoughts...

Join me and my guest, Andrew Cain, as we discuss some of the surprising overlaps between the worlds of kink and improv, as well as the misconceptions. Discover why play is so important for us as adults, and some of the ways that we can make this a part of our lives. I did NOT want to learn improv and yet the skills I developed in doing so have massively influenced how I work daily, to the extent t...