The Kink Perspective

On this episode, I have begun the discussion of what we do on an emotional level, when a dynamic ends. This is quite a large discussion, and I am going to break this up in up into at least 2 episodes, with the second part focusing on when a partner passes away. These are sensitive subjects with deep emotional ramifications. If you have discussed or worked this into your dynamic, please let me know...

On this episode, I discuss the subject of aftercare for Dominants. When we think about aftercare, what normally springs to mind is Dominants caring for, nurturing their submissives after a scene or play session. What about Dominants though? I discuss what we need to be on the look out for, some things we can do to conduct aftercare if you are a submissive for your Dominant and much more... If you...

On this episode, I discuss the dilemma with the self-professed Kink Educators within the community, the stories that are becoming more prevalent about abuse of power, manipulation and emotional and physical abuse, and talk about the subjectivity of BDSM. I also suggest new terminology we could consider when looking at "Kink Educators," and more... If you are looking for a therapist that is knowled...

On this episode, I discuss the vanilla influx of people that have swarmed the scene over the last two decades. The effects it has had on newcomers into the community as they mask who they are with a stolen lexicon of terminology and creating issues in the local scene. Conversely, I also discuss the response by BDSM practitioners offering helpful suggestions that are shut down for trying to help wi...

On this episode, I discuss the current relationship climate newer generations have found themselves in, the Disposable one. I talk about what led us here, my thoughts about how this may go in the future. I discuss the signs to look out for, to discover if you are involved in a disposable relationship. I discuss ways you avoid your relationship from becoming one, and so much more. If you are lookin...

On this episode, I talk about Auralism. It is being sexually aroused by sound. That sound can differ from person to person, from crumpling paper to the sounds of passion, many of us are affected by sounds. Some people, are sexually aroused by non-erotic sounds. I discuss different ways we can explore and enhance this fetish, and even if you are not within the realm of the BDSM or Fetish community,...

On this episode, I talk about the signs that our relationship dynamics are beginning to fade. Those subtle tells that let us know that we are not evolving along the same path anymore. How to identify, talk about and resolve these issues before they lead to more problems. While we all hit those marks of time with our partner, keeping that romantic and emotional intimacy moving forward is crucial to...

On this episode, I discuss consent violations. What they are, how we perceive them and their effects on the community. It is an important topic that we have to be aware of and discuss, to keep a healthy dialogue going on, as to further evolve how we address when a consent violation happens. It is not an easy subject, but it is a necessary one for the community. If you are looking for a lifestyle t...

On this episode, I look beyond the shiny Veneer of open marriages and how happy they want everyone to believe they are. I look at all of the issues that people in an open marriage face, the mental health ramifications of them, financial strain, priorities, and more. I am not here to bash on what works for a small percentage of people, more so, to discuss the things that people do not consider or t...

On this episode, I had a chance to reflect on many of the things I have talked about, the few people I have had wonderful conversations with, and things I have learned by doing this podcast over this past year. I talk about some questions that I have been asked and what is coming up next. I want this to remain informative and fun. A place that those in the community benefit from and learn about ne...

On this episode, I had the opportunity to sit down with Brooke_ish and discuss the fetish of Lactation. This was an insight into a kink that is far more intimate, effort driven, and bonding, than I first realized. We discussed the process of induction, the commitment to maintaining this and so much more. This was such an enlightening conversation and glad I had the opportunity to learn more. If yo...

On this episode, I talk about feeling empowered versus feeling disempowered. What these terms even mean. How are sexual identities in a social media age can lead to feelings empowerment online. To the pitfalls of exposing our inner sexual desires online and dealing with negative reactions which lead to a disempowerment. What we experience once we are connected to someone else and so much more on t...

On this episode, I had a chance to sit down with Scorpio1375, a rising male influencer on Fetlife. We talked about what brought him to the lifestyle, his struggles with mental health and how he is vocal advocate for men's mental health, his views on what he is looking for in the lifestyle and so much more. Was an absolute pleasure to have this conversation and I look forward to the next one. If yo...

On this episode, I discuss the interrogation scene and what is becoming a prevalent style of play, Waterboard. I go over the evolution of a typical interrogation scene and how that can be psychologically fulfilling, while weighing the heavier risks of waterboarding, that in my opinion, have no business being involved in the BDSM community. I discuss the origins of waterboarding, some of the effect...

On this episode, I discuss what happens in our brain when we meet someone. When we develop attraction for someone. The neurochemicals that are produced, the effects of their scent on us and during long term relationships, the process of chemical bonding. I discuss the reactions of missing someone's smell and why it is so powerful and much more... If you are looking for a lifestyle therapist, pleas...

On this episode I talk about this question that was posed last night online on social media. I want to thank Brooke for this really in-depth question. The question is  between Transcendence and Euphoria versus Connection to the scene and being grounded. Do we feel these things, are we in our own head space or do we just count the lashes as we go and more are discussed on this episode... If yo...

On this episode I talk about the Ross and Rachel Effect. What happens when we breakup or are on a separation and our partner cheats? How do we reconcile our feelings? How do we work through those issues? Were we actually on a break. I discuss what we do in a therapeutic agreement and so much more on this episode... If you are looking for a therapist with lifestyle experience and would like to talk...

On this episode, I discuss the lifestyle and BDSM community resiliency to rejection. in every aspect of what we do, from negotiations, to meeting people, to discussing likes and dislikes, there is always the element of rejection. It is not personal nor a slight, and from that we learn to grow and evolve into our dynamics. We learn over time, that because these rejections on any level is not person...

On this episode, I delve into the subject that I have seen floating around social that a Dominant needs to take on and be the emotional balance, anchor and center for a submissive in a D/s relationship. That a submissive needs a Dominant to define their self-worth and value, instead of figuring that out for themselves. This creates dependency and an unhealthy relationship dynamic that would be des...

On this episode, I talk about the seemingly growing trend of people exposing their kink, the lifestyle or themselves to unsuspecting, non-consenting people. How this trend shapes the behaviors and views of the general public towards those in the lifestyle community, and more. If you are looking for a therapist and would like to speak with me, please contact me at www.enhanced-mind.com

On this episode, I discuss a subject that should always be discussed. I talk about the difference between Hurt vs. Harm and their meanings. How do we differentiate when the play is hurtful in a good way, versus harmful in a bad and long lasting way. I also discuss the differences of the types of harm people can encounter and more. If you are looking for a counselor to speak with, that also has BDS...

On this episode, I look into the difference. The questions came from someone that wanted to know more. There are a lot of similarities between being a sadist and someone suffering from the disorder. One of the main caveats we all know, consent or violating it. I discuss the characteristics of the disorder as well as treatments and more. If you are looking for a psychotherapist, please free to reac...

On this episode, I talk about how our emotional responses are formed, how they vary in difference between men and women, and how Dominants and submissives both respond to emotional vulnerability. If you would like to speak with me privately, please contact me at www.enhanced-mind.com

On this episode, I discuss what we should actually be on the lookout for in a healthy relationship. Those things that signify we have found a good person, how they help lay the foundation for a trusting relationship dynamic and so much more. We spend so much time focusing on the bad, we often miss the good. If you would like to speak with me privately or have any general questions, please feel fre...

On this episode, I discuss the issues surrounding Diversity, Inclusion and Equity, or D.I.E. philosophy, in BDSM. What I see that these people who follow this mantra really want and demand. While dismissing meritocracy in the name of inclusivity and diversity and equity, because conformity is what they are after while suppressing types of speech. This is not inclusive, and goes against some of the...