The INFJ Whisperer

INFJs don't understand if you are flirting with them and they don't know how to flirt back. If you are trying to send them subtle hints that you like them, don't. Just be honest and direct about it. Be upfront and stop wasting the INFJ's time. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a...

Interestingly enough, lots of INFJs have been telling me that the fact that the lockdown has given them a lot of time on their own has actually positively impacted all of their relationships, romantic or not. Has that been the case for you as well? Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos f...

This is the simplest rule you will ever need to be with an INFJ. If they are still around, they still care about you. That's all. Period. No need to think any further about this at all. An INFJ shows love through giving their time. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly...

INFJs think of their time to be as precious as gold or diamonds. If you end up wasting their time, it's a huge show of disrespect to them. If you want to stay in their good books, don't waste their time, ever! Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at...

INFJs have a tendency to keep their various circles separate and they are quite fastidious about it - kind of like a person who likes to keep their different foods separate on their plate. Funny, but true! Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at&nbs...

I get asked this question a lot by non-INFJs who want to date an INFJ. INFJs tend to go into their caves unannounced, and that causes non-INFJs to fret, worry, and overthink, maybe the INFJ doesn't love them anymore? Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it...

There are four tells that INFJs have when they like someone romantically. Usually, INFJs keep these kinds of things close to their chest, but sometimes they can't help expose their heart's true feelings. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at ...

INFJs tend to be tough love junkies - we want to show love and empathy, but we end up being a bit mean about it, unintentionally. We might come across as cold, but we aren't on the inside. I promise you. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at ...

One of the most frequent questions I get from non-INFJs is about the hot and cold nature of INFJs. Why do we do this? What is the reason behind this mysterious swinging of behavior? Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at  https://bit.ly/soulvi...

INFJs have this weird delusion that if they suffer, they will somehow be able to balance out the world a bit. No, that's not true. And you need to stop doing that to yourself, INFJs. Your suffering doesn't make the world a better place or balance it somehow. Stop doing that! Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my c...

INFJs pendulate back and forth between being as warm as freshly-baked apple pie, to being as cold as the frigid Arctic winters. That confuses the people around us, and I get asked this question of why do INFJs do this, the most by non-INFJs. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a lo...

INFJs dislike clingy people because clinginess is a shadow of theirs. The same applies to anything else that we dislike - if you hate something, it's in you as well. That's the basic of shadow work, which I highly recommend to everyone as a daily self-improvement practice! Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my cou...

Everyone is imperfect, but INFJs have this fear of being labeled as imperfect not only by others but by themselves. We want to do our best, and our best is too high on the pedestal to even reach. Therefore, we never end up finishing anything or doing anything. What a curse it is! Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of...

There are so many people in our circles and around us that are weirder than us, that INFJs wonder why they are always labeled as the weird ones. Oddballs, kooky, quirky, crazy, different, unique - all of these names have been given to INFJs throughout their lives. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, boo...

The world can be chaotic, and INFJs like balance, harmony, and peace, as much as possible. So, we tend to run to our abodes, our caves, our inner sanctuaries, to hide from the madness of the world. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at  https...

INFJs have this tendency to go over and beyond in things or to not give a rat's ass at all. There's no middle ground. We are at either extreme and we swing back and forth like a pendulum. Back and forth all of our lives. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Chec...

There is this idea we have as INFJs that we need to fix everyone around us. The Fixer INFJ, as we are called sometimes. But most people do not want to be fixed, or improved, or changed. They want to remain the same. So why are we banging our heads against the wall? Why?? Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my cours...

Opening up our hearts after walling ourselves up for years and years is quite hard, INFJs. I get it. I have been in the same boat as you. It's been tough and crazy, but it is possible. If I can do it, so can you. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out...

Don't wall yourself off from others, INFJs - the reason we are lonely, alone, and depressed, is because of this behavior of ours. We close ourselves and then we wonder why we have no one. It's not a big mystery - we created the situation. And we can change it. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books,...

The top four things we care about as INFJs have been outlined in this article as beauty, independence, continual learning, and impact. What do you think? Do you resonate with these? https://introvertdear.com/news/infj-needs-dont-ignore/ Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low mon...

Choosing between love and family - INFJs are all about harmony in all of their relationships, which means that if it ever came down to choosing between one or the other, we would be stymied. Such a difficult choice to make! Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. C...

External vs internal validation or appreciation - INFJs want to be appreciated, I get that. I'm like that, too. But with or without external appreciation, we need to keep on doing what we love. Sometimes, we stop doing what we love because we aren't getting external appreciation and that sucks only for us. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins...

We can see both sides of the coin, that's why INFJs can be terrible at giving MBTI tests or giving any kind of personality test. We can see ourselves in both situations that the test asks for, and that confuses us. No wonder we are always confused about what our MBTI type would be. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all...

Are you straightforward, my dear INFJs? Are you also really rude about it?? Can you try a different way? Can you be straightforward and also nice? Is that possible? Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at  https://bit.ly/soulvitamins2   If...

Fear of failure holds us back - INFJs have a tendency to be a jack or jill of all trades, rather than specialize in something and become an expert in it. Is it because of fear of failure? Is fear holding us back? Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out...