The INFJ Whisperer

This is one of my main problems with being an INFJ. I am obsessed with perfectionism in all things. I share a story about a pair of rollerblades I wanted to find in this episode - it still pains me to think of that time of my life. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly...

Some INFJs will doorslam their ex and pretend they don't know they exist. And others will stay friends with them. I have a tendency towards the latter. And you? Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at  https://bit.ly/soulvitamins2   If you...

INFJs have the tendency to oscillate between buying nothing for a long time and then spending their money as if it were water for another period. Why do we do this to ourselves? Because balance is definitely not our middle name. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly pri...

INFJs like to be minimalists, not because of any other reason except it saves them time, energy, and effort. We like to conserve all three of these to the max, whenever possible, as you might already know. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at&nbs...

INFJs have a hard time trusting that other people will do things as perfectly as they themselves will. So we end up not delegating and doing everything ourselves, which burns us out. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at  https://bit.ly/soulv...

Even though we are terrible at using dating apps, INFJs keep on trying with them, because we also don't want to be alone for the rest of our lives. We don't want to be perpetually single. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at  https://bit.ly/...

INFJs are great at solving other people's problems, and more than that, we are obsessed with solving other people's problems. So please let us!! Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at  https://bit.ly/soulvitamins2   If you want to connect...

INFJs have very set routines and schedules, and we despise it when someone else comes in and starts disrupting it and putting their own agenda on our plates. We will hate you for it, I'm warning you all. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at ...

INFJs can be quite stubborn and set in the way they think. But we can change. It just takes us time. A long time, in certain cases. So much time that you might think we never change our mind. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at  https://bit...

There is a tendency to use the label of healthy versus unhealthy INFJ in the online world. But I think developed versus developing describes it much better, because it makes us realize that it's all about time, patience, and self-development. One group isn't better than the other. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all o...

As INFJs, we spend a lot of our time in our heads, in our daydream lands, in our imaginary worlds. That's why some INFJs worry that it would be unsafe for them to travel around the world. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at  https://bit.ly/...

The constant back-and-forth tires others out, INFJs. We might be comfortable going into our caves and then into love mode, but the other people around us don't get us and get this motion at all. Maybe explain yourself more, INFJs. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly p...

How to set healthy boundaries with friends - this is something that INFJs have a hard time with, because once we like someone as a friend, we give our all to them. Stop that INFJs! Set healthy boundaries with everyone around you. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly pr...

Difference between healthy and unhealthy INFJs - I get asked this question a lot. I think there are three main differences that I highlight in this video. Do you agree with my list? Add to it, if you don't. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at&nb...

Becoming friends before dating - INFJs take a long time to get comfortable with people, so we usually are friends before we become lovers. Do you do this as well? Friend zoning might upset others, but it's a crucial step in our dating process. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a...

If you grasp at sand too tightly, it slips away faster. The looser your hold, the easier to hold sand. The same applies to INFJs. The tighter you grasp at an INFJ, the further we slip away from you. Don't cling at us too tightly. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly pr...

Do you show love by improving others? INFJs do. It seems counterintuitive to others, but it makes sense to us. We are not trying to change you, but we want to show you what you are capable of. We see your potential and we want you to grow into it. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos fo...

How do introverts deal with marriage? Just being in this lockdown and stuck with family for a few months has made me realize I could never ever be with someone 24/7. Maybe it's just me. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at  https://bit.ly/so...

Why are you not living up to your potential, INFJs? I have been thinking about this, for myself, and I find there are two particular reasons for it. Fear of failure and fear of success. Maybe even fear of rejection. What do you think?? Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low mont...

Work from home is really great for introverts - because it ensures that our social battery doesn't run out, and we can socialize on our own schedule, rather than on the 9-5 schedule, which might not work for us. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out...

Stop being so cruel to the people who like you, INFJs. You are not going to shrivel up and die, if you are nice to them, or if you give them kind attention. I am so sad whenever I hear ENFPs and ENTPs upset because the INFJ they love is being cruel to them. It breaks my heart! Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my...

INFJs have a tendency to overthink, and included with that is holding onto embarrassing things they have done from years and years ago. We never let go. Like an elephant never forgets, we never ever forget either, much to our detriment. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low mon...

INFJs assume that just because we are mind readers, that everyone else must be so as well. Well, that's not how it works. People need to be told that they are tired and going home to rest. So stop freezing them out and leaving without another word. That's how relationships break. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of...

INFJs have a fault social program in their heads, which causes them to be socially awkward and say silly things that anyone else would deem inappropriate and nix instantly. For some reason, we are just no good at social situations, unless we try really hard at it - which we usually don't. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can acce...

INFJs have been in many situations where they just said one word like 'Hello' to the person and instantly, the person opened up to them about all of their childhood traumas and abuse. That's why INFJs are careful about making eye contact with strangers as they get older. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my cours...