The INFJ Whisperer

When I make new friends, I'm always afraid that they will reject me, so I would reject them first in the past. BUT now I try to remember that not everyone will reject me, even though many have in the past. And I go in believing that people will accept and love me as I would accept and love them. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you c...

If you are living with a narcissist, you might be at your wit's end on how to deal with them. But moving out and cutting them out of your life isn't the only option here (although if you can do this, it would be great for your mental sanity). Listen to this episode for some tips on how to deal with narcissists in your home. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community cal...

I have had to develop some interesting techniques to ensure that I stick to my yoga, meditation, and walking habits. Otherwise, I would deteriorate very fast into doing nothing and complaining about doing nothing (like I used to do before). Listen to this episode to learn more about the tricks I use to convince myself to stay consistent with important habits. Thank you for listening!  I have...

INFJs spend a long time pondering and thinking and analyzing before getting into a relationship. And once it fails, we spend even more time thinking over what we learned from the relationship and what we can do to not repeat our mistakes. That's how it is, so you better prepare yourself, if you want to date us. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vita...

INFJs are not easy to date. Neither are we easy when we are in relationships. It's difficult all around. That's why if you want to be with an INFJ, you better prepare your heart, soul and body for the long haul. Seriously! Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Ch...

INFJs love being romantic and romanced, but we would never say that out loud because it's somehow shameful for us to admit that. We want to be practical and pragmatic. Not romantic and irrational. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at  https:...

INFJs do really well in one-on-one situations. We shine like diamonds and we are charming AF. But in group situations, we falter due to all the emotions coming at us and we get confused about what to say or what to do. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check...

INFJs feel like outsiders and aliens because they think differently from the way the rest of the world thinks. So we are constantly trying to understand the world and our place in it. It's one of our main missions in life. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Ch...

INFJs have this tendency to stay calm and aloof in the moment of crisis and then go into their room or cave to process emotions. We also emotionally numb ourselves because we need to stay strong and perfect for the sake of family and friends. Do you do this? Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, an...

INFJs forget to eat and then get too thin. And then they go into spirals of overeating and sadness and gain a bunch of weight. We oscillate back and forth between these two extremes. Or at least I know many INFJs do this. Do you? Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly pr...

INFJs end up in a lot of non-discussions where the person is arguing just for the sake of arguing, because they like the sound of their voice or because they think they are smarter than they actually are (or smarter than us - big mistake!). What do you do in such situations? I'll tell you what I do. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where y...

INFJs love being direct and honest. But we also love harmony. What should we do then? Sometimes we have to discard harmony in favor of telling the truth and other times we discard the truth to keep the harmony. It's a fine balance, indeed. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low...

INFJs have this thing about conflicts - we are afraid of them, we like to maintain harmony in our relationships and lives and conflicts are the absolute opposite of that. But conflicts are a necessary part of relationship growth and conscious healing. Don't run away from them. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my...

INFJs don't think much of it when they go cold with a person or go warm with another, but it is extremely baffling to a person who's experiencing it from the outside. It isn't that complex to an INFJ, but it seems like that to others. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low month...

INFJs hate making mistakes of any kind. Because of our perfectionism streak, we have a tendency to fall into shame spirals quite easily and that's not good. Check out Brene Brown's teachings on shame and vulnerability for more wisdom on this subject. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos...

It's not a nice thing to do, but it's something INFJs do to make sure the people in their lives are trustworthy and worth getting into a relationship with, be it a friendship, or a partner relationship. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at ...

Why can't everyone be nice and just get along? That's the ideal world INFJs dream of. But the real world is not like that. People will be mean and take advantage of us, and we will have to show them up by standing for justice and smacking them down. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos...

Being an empath is touted as being such a gracious, divine, and beautiful gift. And it is. But it also has its shadow side, where it's exhausting, demeaning, degrading, and debilitating. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at  https://bit.ly/s...

Non-INFJs dating INFJs have a tendency to blame themselves when an INFJ goes cold or aloof or into their cave. But it has nothing to do with anyone else. It just has to do with the INFJ taking time to rejuvenate and recuperate themselves. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low m...

INFJs use a tier system to describe their friendship circle, and it's quite fascinating to anyone who listens in from the outside. It's not typically how people view friendships, and it can definitely be confusing for a non-INFJ. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly pr...

INFJs will feel lost, empty, desolate, and completely out of touch with themselves and the world if they don't have a mission in life that they are working towards. It's a serious affliction for us. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at  http...

It's easy to keep postponing taking care of yourself because you are busy taking care of other people. But be careful, because you might go into empath burnout mode and feel so empty and exhausted, that you might not be able to give to others for a long while to come. Which is a terrible place to be in for an INFJ. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul...

If you think you will be all set and ready to date an INFJ in a matter of days or weeks, stop kidding yourself. INFJs move at glacial speeds when it comes to dating and relationships. We might be fast at other things, but we are slowpokes at relationships. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and...

It's so tempting to stay within negative self-talk mode because we think we did something wrong and deserve to be punished. But it's debilitating, and degrading, and you shouldn't do that yourself, INFJs. Not even for one minute. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly pr...

INFJs worry about committing to a relationship, because they worry about overwhelm. They worry about being overwhelmed by the emotions of the other person, the time and energy drain on them, and more. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at  ht...