The INFJ Whisperer

This question was asked by a viewer - How can I stop caring about what other people think of me? And I thought to myself, is that ever really possible, to completely truly stop caring about what other people think of you? I wanted to share a couple of techniques I use in order to help me with this exact issue. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitam...

INFJs are cruel in a relationship. We are usually only in a relationship because we find the other person mysterious or interesting or an enigma in some way and we want to solve that puzzle piece. Once the puzzle has been solved, we are done, and we move on.  Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, boo...

INFJs love to people watch. We absolutely adore it. But why? Doesn’t it seem like a waste of time? And don’t we hate wasting our time? I think we love to people watch, because it teaches a lot about this mysterious thing called community, and people, and human beings. All of which is a complete mystery to us.  Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul...

An INFJs’ haven is sacred to them. We create these spaces knowing that we will need to escape into them, and we know that it is important not to be tainted by negative energies. So that’s why we really hate inviting random people into that space. We try not to, unless absolutely necessary. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can acc...

Can INFJs fall in love at first sight? Can we really? I have always wondered about this because it has been actually impossible for me to fall in love with someone just by looking at their face. I wish it were possible for me because it seems like a really romantic idea. But it hasn’t been so far. What about you guys? Have you ever fallen in love at first sight? Thank you for listening!  I ha...

INFJs don’t really care about being the leader. We are not attached to the idea of power or being in a powerful position. We don’t think it suits us, and we don’t like it. So if someone else around us really, really wants to be a leader, we are happy to give up the leadership role to them. More power to them, to be honest! Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community call...

INFJs love music (most of us, anyway), and we are always gravitating towards certain kinds of music, depending on our moods. I suggest in this video that we can use our music choices as a sort of weathervane - to intuit where our own emotions lie.  Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and vid...

INFJs are human lie detectors. It’s a skill that we have that can actually be a noose around our neck sometimes. Because we always know when someone’s lying, we always know if we can actually trust someone or not, which means, we end up not giving second chances. Our friendships can fail in an instant if someone lies to us because we care about that stuff a lot. Thank you for listening!  I ha...

Some viewers asked me if INFJs are sociophobic, meaning whether we are deathly afraid of social situations, to the point of avoiding them completely. And I thought about it, and I don’t think that’s actually the case. We don’t like being social, true. But that’s not because we are afraid of the social part of it, we are actually afraid of the exhaustion and energy-tampering part of it. Thank you f...

When I was younger, I had a really hard time sharing any of my random quirky obsessions with anyone around me. I was so ashamed that I had such random interests, and I would keep it all to myself. Nowadays, I am forcing myself to happily share my obsessions with the world, and it’s been a miracle in action.  Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vi...

INFJs, as they move through this vast world, are always gathering information, and data about everything that is going on around them. Not only are we gathering info on all of the people around us, but also the birds, the insects, the trees, the breeze, the planes, the buildings, and everything else. That’s a lot of information to process, and therefore we seem distracted all of the time. Thank yo...

A lot of INFJs message me asking me if it is possible for INFJs to be in a relationship even though we like to be alone a lot of the time. And considering many INFJs in this community are in happy, successful, harmonious relationships, I would say, ‘Yes, it is absolutely possible for an INFJ to be in a relationship.’ Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Sou...

INFJs always prefer writing to all other forms of communication. And this especially applies to highly charged emotional conversations that happen a lot in a relationship. That’s why I recommend all non-INFJs interested in an INFJ to focus on writing as their major form of communication especially for situations where emotions are high and tensions are stretched thin.  Thank you for listening...

INFJs find extremely extroverted situations, events, and people sometimes physically painful to be around, because it sucks so much of our energy up and can actually cause us to go into early burnout mode.  Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out...

INFJs are skeptical of everything that everyone around them says. We are suspicious to the core. We don’t trust as easily as others do, and we always take everything said with a grain of salt, believing most of it to be B.S. rather than actual truth. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos...

INFJs are unmoved by salespeople and sales pitches. We know that they are trying to sell us something, and because we are kind, we are going to stick around, but we also want them to get to the point, so we can just say that we are not interested. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos fo...

INFJs hate saying goodbyes with a passion. Either we know we are going to miss you and we don’t want to talk about it. Or we are not going to miss you as much as you are going to miss us, and so we don’t want to talk about that.  Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low month...

An INFJ has the capability of going automagically into a chameleon mode, where we mirror other’s emotions and actions. But sometimes that can be a pain because we can slip into it before we even realize we are in it, and that can throw us off sometimes. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and vid...

INFJs know what they want, and they know how to get it. Once we decide on something, we are stubborn AF, and we will go on our path, no matter what everyone else is telling us to do. And if you tell us to do something, that we were going to do anyway, we will not do it, because we don’t like being told what to do. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul V...

INFJs have a tendency to stay in their heads all of the time. Even when we are walking around in the real world, we spend all of our time in our heads. This means, that we are not actually paying attention to what’s going on around us, and we stumble, fall, and hurt ourselves often. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all...

INFJs have this inherent need and desire to be good and kind to the people around us. But of course, this can be a cruel world we live in, and thus, how can we deal with all of these acts of cruelty and ruthlessness that are going on around us all the time? How? Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books...

INFJs have the potential to become extremely good at manipulating the people and situations around them, because of the vast amount of knowledge and information that our introverted intuition brings into us on a moment-by-moment basis. But do we actually take that path? Or do we stay on the side of good? Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins wh...

INFJs come across to people around them as child-like, much younger than what their actual age might be. Sometimes, that ends up meaning that we are not treated as seriously as someone else who looks their age. But to me, this is always an advantage.  Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and...

I think the reason I speak very fast and type even faster is two-fold. First of all, I am deathly afraid of being interrupted and ignored. Second of all, my mind works so fast that I need to speak and type fast to move at the same pace as my brain. I think most INFJs are like this. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all...

A viewer asked me whether being an INFJ is a blessing or a curse. I thought that was a weird question, because isn’t everything always both things, both good and bad, and at the same time, neither good nor bad because it just is. Just as we are INFJs, that’s all there is to it. We can’t change it, so let’s just accept it, and rejoice in it.  Thank you for listening!  I have just started...