The INFJ Whisperer

INFJs are weird with money. I have done other videos on this topic. But one of our things about spending money on ourselves is that we won’t do it until we have some sort of written or verbal permission from someone else to do so. It might be a partner, or a family member, or a parent. Anyone will do, as long as we feel that we are being given permission from an authority outside of ourselves.&nbs...

One of INFJ’s main personality traits is loyalty. We are loyal to a fault. Once we decide that you are in our circle, that we love you, adore you, admire you, we are going to be loyal to you until the day we die. Or until the day you do something to betray our trust.  Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my cou...

INFJs have this weird thing about being late. They hate it. They don’t want to ever waste someone else’s time, because they were being careless. Thus, they end up being at least 15-30 minutes early to any or all events. Just by default. Sometimes even earlier! Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books,...

INFJs never fit into any group perfectly. It just never works out for them. We might dip a toe into a group, or even perhaps an entire leg, but we are never going to be able to wedge our round peg into those square holes. It just ain’t happening. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for...

INFJs have a tendency to plan out everything. We plan out our meals, our sleep, our food intake, our relationships, our kombucha consumption, our clothing habits, our travel, and everything else. We plan it all, and we love it! Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly pric...

INFJs have a tendency to attribute all of the information that comes into their heads to intuition. This is great, if we have no trauma present in our bodies and minds, causing us to become distracted, and misclassify information. Sometimes, information that we think is coming from intuition, is actually coming from past trauma. And we need to learn the difference, asap. Thank you for listening!&n...

INFJs hate waste of any kind. They especially hate wasting their precious time on this planet. And one of the biggest time wasters, according to INFJs, is getting trapped or pulled into the drama of any kind. Please do that to us. Leave us be. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a...

I have noticed that I have all of these weird random quirks when it comes to wearing clothing, buying clothing, and being around clothing. I wanted to share them with you to see if any other INFJs out there share these random quirks with me. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a lo...

INFJs have a terrible sense of grounding, they just don’t spend any time in their physical bodies. Instead, they spend all of their time in their imagination, and in out-of-body experiences, while dreaming, and being in their heads. That’s why they always feel like they are floating out of their bodies, far away from their physical selves. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an onli...

INFJs are not interested in competing overpower anyone else. We are just not interested in having power over others. It seems like such a waste of time, energy, and money to run after power, the way so many people on this planet do. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly...

INFJs get absolutely paralyzed when it comes down to spending money. It’s not even like the amount has to be really big. It can be a teeny-tiny amount of money, and we will still analyze our decision to death. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at...

This is a phrase that I stole from a psychologist friend of mine who goes to a lot of autism conferences, where a particular speaker says this quite often. “If you’ve met one Aspy, you’ve met one Aspy.” Reminds me of our situation as INFJs.  Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for...

This is one of the reasons why an INFJ has such poor boundaries as an adult. We don’t know what’s normal and what’s not, with regards to crossed boundaries, because we had our boundaries crossed repeatedly when we were children.  Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low month...

INFJs have this weird thing where we live at extremes. We have only two speeds that we go at. Either we stop and do nothing at all. Or we overwork ourselves, going at a breakneck speed that no one on this planet could handle. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price....

Several INFJs have asked me my thoughts on money and how INFJs deal with money in general. Are we good with it? Do we like to save it? Do we hate it? Are we impulsive with it? Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at  https://bit.ly/soulvitamins...

INFJs always, forever and always, feel unworthy. We try very hard to hide it or run away from that feeling. We fluctuate in that feeling, but it's something that stays with us for the better part of our life. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at&...

Burnout is one of the commonest ways an INFJ is unable to fulfill its purpose on this planet. We spend so much time being in burnout mode that we don’t have any energy to do anything else. I describe some ways to avoid burnout by building some self-care stuff into your daily routine. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access al...

INFJs come across as cold, unemotional, and robotic. We are actually quite warm-hearted, and cozy people. But we only show this warm-hearted side of ours to specific people that we trust. We are afraid to show our true selves to everyone because we have had bad experiences with it in the past. Thus, we are often labeled, ice queens, ice princesses, ice princes, and ice kings.  Thank you for l...

INFJs are empaths, major ones. Which means that we are filters for our environments. Like a regular air filter, that filters out the bad by absorbing it or sucking the bad particles into itself, we do the same. We suck in all of the bad, and hold onto it, with our hearts, minds, and souls. And we release only the good back out into the ether. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an o...

INFJs are afraid of themselves when they start becoming too talkative. We have this tendency to be afraid of our tongues becoming too loose. Because then all of these secrets spill out, and we can’t do anything to hide ever again. Everyone will know who we are, and that’s our biggest fear. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can acc...

Whenever a person who claims they are an INFJ displays homophobia, I instantly start getting the fake vibes from them. For a group of people, who have had to deal with being ostracized and misunderstood all of their lives, who are pushed to the side, and who are always dealing with loneliness and misery, how can we subjugate some other minority group to such similar torture?? It doesn’t make any s...

At least half a dozen people have asked me about long-distance relationships and how to make it work with an INFJ, if they are far away from them, especially since our primary love language is quality time. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses, books, and videos for a low monthly price. Check it out at&nb...

I have noticed this about myself. Whenever I am around anyone with a strange accent or any kind of accent at all, I have a tendency to start mimicking them and they always end up thinking that either I am making fun of them or that I am from the same country as them. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community called Soul Vitamins where you can access all of my courses,...

A viewer asked me about regret, and how she feels like even though she’s fine being single right now, she wonders if she would regret that decision in the future when she might end alone and lonely in her old age. Or she might regret not having a romantic relationship of some sort, or a partner to share this journey with. Thank you for listening!  I have just started an online community calle...

This viewer asked me about connecting with their old self. They felt like they were disconnected from their old self, and they wanted to go back to it. I thought it was the wrong question to ask because I don’t think they necessarily want to connect to their old self, but in fact, they wish to connect with their true self. Or at least what’s I think. Thank you for listening!  I have just star...