The Humans We Are

In this episode, we dive into the topics of change, discomfort, and the human experience. I want you to know that if you can dream of a different life, you can create it. Belief in its possibility is key. It's a lifelong journey, a thrilling adventure where you're constantly evolving. But I won't sugarcoat it; change is tough. You may oscillate between deserving and doubting, and that's okay. Chan...

In this episode, we explore how we need to create safety if we want to slow down, as childhood norms may disconnect us. Challenge these patterns, recalibrate danger perception, and embrace a journey to slow down. Prioritize screen-free, nurturing moments for nervous system regulation. Release the idea of earning rest and challenge fear-based stories. Reconnect with your body, emotions, and environ...

In this episode, I explore the complex journey of being there for loved ones who are entrenched in their pain. "Witnessing Others' Suffering Without Fixing" delves into the struggle of wanting to help while respecting their autonomy to heal on their own terms. I discuss how our own growth might tempt us to guide them, but genuine support lies in being present without imposing solutions. It's about...

In this episode we explore the importance of reattuning to your body's biological wisdom to experience a more fulfilling life.  We discuss the need to embrace both pleasant and unpleasant sensations in our bodies to break free from numbing and avoidance. By building somatic capacity, we can navigate discomfort and become bold in pursuing our desires while enjoying the rewards.   We talk abou the c...

*TRIGGER WARNING: Sexual abuse and body image issues are mentioned in this episode, although not graphicly depicted* In this heartfelt episode, I bravely share personal experiences and explore the importance of reattuning to our bodies' biological wisdom. Our modern, fast-paced lives often disconnect us from our natural signals, leading to a loss of connection with ourselves. I encourage listeners...

Hey, amazing humans! In this episode of "The Humans We Are," I'm delving deep into the world of anxiety. Ever feel constantly on edge, even when everything seems fine? I get it! I'll share why our brains act like detectives, seeking danger everywhere, and how old survival patterns can still haunt us. But don't fret! I've got some nifty tricks to break free from that anxiety and find that inner pea...

This week I noticed a common pattern among my clients that I just had to share with you. It's all about reconnecting with our self-sufficiency and how it can free us from fear of losing our job, that can often make you stay in unpleasant circumstances and conditions. I had clients who were feeling unsupported at work and allowing their boundaries to be crossed because they were afraid of losing th...

In this episode, I dive into something that so many of us can relate to: wanting to help our loved ones who are going through tough times. I've been there myself, wanting to share all the amazing things I've learned about personal growth and mindset. But here's the thing, it's not always easy to get them to listen or make changes. I share key insights on how to navigate this situation with love an...

In this episode, I want to share something important with you: you don't need to find fancy hacks or tricks to be more motivated and feel good about yourself at the end of the day. We often fall into the motivation trap, believing that we must constantly be productive to feel good about ourselves. But what if I told you that your worth isn't tied to your accomplishments? Instead, I'll explore the...

In this episode, I share a powerful insight that came from a coaching session with a former client. We delve into the dynamics of relationships and how we often find ourselves taking on the role of the peacekeeper, sacrificing our own emotional needs to maintain harmony. But there comes a point when resentment starts to build, and we question whether our needs matter. We explore the concept of Emo...

In this episode, I share a conversation I had with a coach friend who has been diligently planting seeds in her business, expecting them to bear fruit. As I reflect on my own coaching company, I realize how often I find myself waiting for future outcomes and expecting that I will feel happy and fulfilled then,  instead of fully appreciating the present achievements. It's a common habit among my cl...

In this episode, we dive into the power of asking and answering our own questions, and how it can awaken our inner guide. Drawing inspiration from Tony Robbins' insight that "the quality of our life depends on the quality of our questions", we explore how our internal dialogue shapes our perception of ourselves and the world. By replacing negative self-interrogation with empowering questions, we c...

I've been reflecting a lot on the blue pill / red pill concept from The Matrix. You know, that choice between staying in a comfortable illusion or facing the truth, even if it's uncomfortable. Lately, I've noticed a common thread among my coaching clients – they're being really mean to themselves in their own minds. We're talking negative self-talk, self-judgment, and all that jazz. I want to expl...

In this thought-provoking episode, we explore the universal story of a client facing a dilemma at work.  Struggling with an unsupportive boss and an overwhelming workload, she fears repeating past patterns of dissatisfaction. We debunk the myth of returning to undesired situations, emphasizing that while circumstances may appear similar, we are never the same person and each experience brings grow...

Today, I want to share a personal story with you. Surprisingly, I found myself in a church recently, attending a mass at my son's school. Now, if you know me, you'd be surprised because I'm not a religious person. I consider myself more spiritual, with unconventional beliefs that go beyond traditional religions. It's unexpected for those close to my husband and me to know that we send our kids to...

As a coach, I often see people feeling emotionally and mentally drained due to their jobs or relationships. Recently, a physician client of mine shared how she was taking on her patients' emotions, which was affecting her overall wellbeing. This happens in many professions, especially for empathetic individuals. It's crucial to protect your mental and emotional health by setting boundaries and com...

This week has been challenging for me. I've been feeling off and not quite like myself. I've noticed that in the mornings, I've been feeling anxious and rushed, even when I'm not running late. This has affected my interactions with my kids, making me more irritable and short-tempered with them. Even during lunch with my husband, I've been impatient and wanting him to finish quickly. Negative thoug...

How do you treat yourself when things don't go according to plan? What is your internal dialogue like? Do you have an inner critic that's constantly telling you you're not good enough or that you can't have what you want? It's easy to fall into the trap of believing negative thoughts about ourselves, especially when others are saying hurtful things or questioning our integrity. But it's important...

Understanding how the nervous system works in general, and getting to know YOUR nervous system and how it has adapted throughout your life, how your PERSONAL Nervous System’s responses of fight, flight, freeze, and fawn, are calibrated, is probably the most important thing you can do to support yourself in your day to day, and also to move towards any goal.  The reason this is SO important is that...

Frustration wants you to stop. Because it’s safe and familiar to not do something new.  So if you stop, Frustration wins.  Don't let it win.  In this episode, I share how I helped my daughter overcome frustration with a simply strategy that will help you too. Support the show Find me on Instagram @fuertescarola. And please Subscribe and Share, I appreciate it more than you know!

If you’ve been considering changing jobs or even careers. If you’re not sure about your relationship If you are considering an investment that you aren’t sure about Maybe you want to make a trip Whatever it is…  It’s so easy to let yourself coast with the inertia of life… and sometimes, in the back of our minds, we just want to wait and let things resolve themselves. And sometimes that works. But,...

If you’ve ever felt relief when someone else had a similar painful experience as you did, like for example they too, were fired, they too, were passed on for a promotion, they too were complained about, they too were accused of something they didn’t do, they too were misjudged, misrepresented, they too were cheated on, they too made a big mistake… And if a part of you feels shame and judges you fo...

I was sitting on the couch in the living room, and my kids were there with me, we were all cozy with our blankets, and on the screen… one of the Minions movies. I had decided that I wanted to spend more time with the kids. I really wanted to be more present in their day-to-day lives. Especially because over the pandemic, and since I work from home, they had gotten used to me being NI the house, bu...

This week I share with you the story of how one of my clients shifted her thinking about asking for a raise, which took her from frustrated and resentful, to empowered and in control. Support the show Find me on Instagram @fuertescarola. And please Subscribe and Share, I appreciate it more than you know!

Pain is unavoidable in human life, but suffering is optional.  If like I did, you are unconsciously believing this thought, you are creating unnecessary suffering in your life.  Listen in to figure out if you do, and what to do about it! Support the show Find me on Instagram @fuertescarola. And please Subscribe and Share, I appreciate it more than you know!