The Huddle Wisdom Podcast with Dr Davin Tan

Another drive home episode here. A brief word about non-verbal communication. Kids might not always use words but they say a lot with body language...learn to keep track of this. I'll tell you how you can start to speak 'non-verbalnese'

Hey my friends. Welcome to 2023.  Is this the year that you become influential? In your life, in the life of others you love and care about? I say yes...and I will show you how! I invite you to join me. This episode is a special one for me. I'm podcasting from Kuching, Sarawak (my hometown) and although I indulge myself in a bit of intellectualising; I've marked the section here in case you w...

It's been a minute hasn't it? I summarise my favourite themes for the year from the podcast. Hope you'll join me for it. And hang out for the discount code for the empathic discipline course if you want 'stress-less' parenting and living! C'mon! www.huddlewisdom.com/practice

In this episode I share my thoughts about what is wrong with psychiatry and what is right about it.  I hope it helps prospective students and trainees who want to pursue a career in psychiatry.  By the way...stay till the end to get the discount code for our first audio course 'The Practice of Empathic Discipline' - how to raise great kids with less stress! www.huddlewisdom.com/practice...

These thoughts are my own. They are my opinion and doesn't constitute medical advice. I share my biased opinion here to generate discussion.   Who gets to make decisions about healthcare?...should it not be patients ? Who gets to inform us of treatment options for medical treatment?...should it not be doctors? What if parents disagree with doctors about what treatment they want for their chil...

Simplicity is not basic, but it's basically how we get to awesomeness. Any high level activity or skill requires a deep understanding of fundamental ideas that must be grasped at an advanced level in order to gain mastery...but many people fail to do the work because they think simple is boring...believe me it's not. Stay with me till the end for a gift to you from me...which i think you'll really...

Another one from my drive home.  This time, decision fatigue... You feel exhausted and you don't know why. Well you probably do but some people actually don't know.  What are the signs of decision fatigue? How do you tackle it?   www.huddlewisdom.com/practice  (a simple method to minimise your parenting and child rearing stress!)

The process of learning is not straight forward. I'm sure anyone reading this who has any experience working on skill acquisition will know the frustration of hitting walls and plateaus in training or learning. The way to deal with this, is to not care...and just keep training! but pull back on the intensity if you're feeling burnt out...just take it down a notch. Take stock. Think about where you...

Me answering parent questions...this time...what if your kids ask you something you can't answer? also...check out...our course which helps you use what you've got to improve your kids emotional discipline www.huddlewisdom.com/practice

How do we not spoil our kids? Join me in this conversation with Evana Lithgow - a psychologist and who I consider an expert in helping families with the job of transferring and transition of wealth. Who better than to ask than Evana? Check out an article here which is really helpful www.w.campdenfb.com/article/did-great-great-great-grandpa-have-ipad-how-teach-your-children-wealth-responsibility Ev...

Another drive to work episode.  Thoughts about what it means to be happy.  It's not just about the absence of unhappiness.  I talk about external vs internal loci of control; reversion to the mean; values; and things that light us up.  I hope you get something out of this my friends.  www.huddlewisdom.com/gettools

What is my value? What is my worth? If you're interested, come and hang out with me on my drive to work (not literally) and I hope that the things I say on this episode will help you work through these important questions. By the way. Here is the link to the toolkit for emotional storms that I mentioned www.huddlewisdom.com/gettools

Zombies and Bayes Theorem. What?! Okay, bear with me. Sometimes, our intuition leads us into perilous situations. Our brains try to be helpful...but because of mental shortcuts...it doesn't always work out so well for us... So...we have to pause...think and rationalise. Although we cannot predict the outcomes of a bad event. We can increase the probability of a favourable outcome if we learn how t...

Anxiety affects us all. Adults, teachers, parents and kids. How do we help our anxious kids? especially when we're feeling awful ourselves or struggling with our own emotions. Join me and tune in to my conversation with clinical psychologist Tanzi Bennison. She also has a wonderful programme for schools and families which you should definitely check out! www.chillax.org.nz I ask Tanzi some of the...

We can all feel bad when we're trying to set boundaries; sometimes we carry our baggage from the past with us into the present. It doesn't have to be that way. Sometimes our kids push back...that's normal...but it still feels hard. I'll help you take the guilt out of setting boundaries. Jump in and i'll explain. Here's the link to the emotional storm toolkit which i think will help take the anxiet...

Just adding a little bit more knowledge for you knowledge-philes. I'll drip feed bits every so often to help us 'round' out our understanding of how ADHD affects kids and adults and that'll point us towards more individualised solutions for people I believe. By the way here's the link to the lecture I gave a month ago to a bunch of parents and teachers about how to teach kids to be more compassion...

Sorry for last week's dog's breakfast of an episode. Coughing and spluttering is not really great to listen to. This is episode 32a. In the audio I said 31a, that's wrong. It's 32a. Sorry...again. You can listen to episode 32 which does contain some good stuff if you can forgive me for the coughing but this one consolidates all that stuff into one basic principle. I also mentioned my interview wit...

Humans like to split people and lump people into groups. You're in or you're out. How do we talk to our kids and teach them to see people as individuals so they don't breed unhelpful bias or prejudice in their thinking lives? Jump in and let's talk about it.

Our perceptions of things in life is not going to change reality, but it can change how we feel about ourselves, others and the future. In this episode I talk about the idea of how we can catch unhelpful thoughts that cause us to feel awful about things, and turn it around for ourselves... To find out more go to www.huddlewisdom.com/blog/poo Music by Infraction

Personal reflections from yours truly about feeling like a failure and what I've been thinking about to get through it. Hope it helps.

In this episode I talk briefly about how I like to conceptualise ADHD. It's a helpful way of 'seeing' ADHD and it helps us find creative ways to intervene and help those who have difficulties.

The solution to other people's problems are not always easy to find. Sometimes it's not always what is needed in a moment of crisis. In this episode, I share my perspectives on depression and share some ideas as to how you might want to approach it if you come across someone who's struggling with depression. Just note that the information in this episode is not medical advice or psychiatric advice...

My friends! Do you want your kids to know how to win friends and influence people? Here. Get some pearls of wisdom. You are welcome. Here are some of my favourite tips to help you teach your children to empathise well! It's not just for kids of course - adults will benefit too. Enjoy. Davin ps...check out www.huddlewisdom.com/jedimind (to learn more!)

School refusal is tough to deal with, but it is not impossible. Come hang out and we'll discuss it. Also check out the FREE resource to help you make roadmaps to navigate difficult emotions: www.huddlewisdom.com/gettools