The Huddle Wisdom Podcast with Dr Davin Tan

I was the naughty and loud kid at school...believe it or not. But I had a teacher who valued me - or at least I felt it. She empathised with me and I found a place in her class. I felt like I belonged because of her. You can hear more about that story her but I also talk about why empathy is so crucial for kids and how you can develop your empathic skills the Huddle Wisdom way, and make it your ow...

We talk about how we can give others the benefit of the doubt while we attempt to understand their perspectives; so we are more reflective rather than reactive.    It's not easy, especially if you sense there is a deliberateness behind your interlocutor's invalidation. BUt hold the line. Do your best to empathise; it is worth it. Remember empathy does not mean you agree; it is simply a w...

Nothing in life that wasn't already given to us is free. We have to wake up every day and get after what we want. How do we impart such a way of living? Do we even want that for our kids? Well, I tell you know, it starts with you. Come hang out and I'll tell you more. Also - please go check out the Practice of Empathic Discipline. It has launched. It's awesome. It's an audio course for parents and...

While not an exhaustive list; these are 5 of the most common characteristics I come across in practice. And a few things that help find equilibrium. If you're not wired this way. It's all good, there are mental models that can help you cultivate the sort of 'sensitivity' that empaths have. To start learning a bit more about that, check out the free resource here: www.huddlewisdom.com/jedimind #hud...

Golden rules to help you avoid jerkdom! Tune in now and start winning.

Sometimes we get it wrong because we're in a rush to solve a problem for our loved ones. The problem is that sometimes we don't wait long enough to understand what it is they are trying to convey and we then put our connection at risk, and that means we don't get to help them solve their problem. So, let me talk you through how to empathise properly so that you can then help your loved one solve a...

No matter how hard we try to censor and filter things out for them, kids are like sponges, picking up on everything we say and do even if they don't fully understand the meaning of the information they've absorbed. It's part of our job to help them make sense of that information. In my view, the best times to impart our values is when we capitalise on so called teachable moments. It is in the act...

****WARNING**** This episode contains some material that might be distressing to some listeners. It contains recent news about the tragedy in Uvalde, Texas I share my thoughts about how we might process this and find some way of preventing such tragedy in the future. I hope it helps. Peace to you.

Directing our intent is a much more powerful way of transforming our lives than goal setting. Intrigued? Let me explain. Tune in to the episode and let's hang out!

Praise and complimenting children can be a 2-edged sword. You have to know the pros and cons. Tune in to the episode and I'll give you the heads up. Go to www.huddlewisdom.com/gettools to get the FREE mini course ' Toolkit for Emotional Storms'

Jealousy is normal, but if mismanaged it can lead to problems that we don't want down the road. Let's talk about how we prevent that. Check out the FREE mini-training resource here for empathic connection: huddlewisdom.com/jedimind Music by Infraction

There's a misconception that people with ASD can't empathise. That's not true, and I'll tell you why. What is empathy anyway? In this episode, I explore some of the ways we can help each other improve our social reading skills; irrespective of whether you have ASD or not.  Get the FREE Toolkit for Emotional Storms/Meltdowns/Tantrums here :   Emotional Storm Toolkit FREE Bust Unhelpful Th...

I don't know about you but I'm notoriously bad at following my own advice. This week, I explore ideas around saying sorry. This episode is just as much for me as it is for anyone else who struggles to let go of hurt and offense. I hope it helps to lighten your spirits. Go well my friends.   I dive into this a little on the Huddle Wisdom blog.  Say sorry more   Get the FREE Toolkit f...

The key to being influential is connection. You need to be able to connect with someone before they will trust you. This is a critical skill for any business person, teacher, parent, doctor, human being. Let me tell you about 3 ideas which I think is going to help you out. Let's huddle!    

Social anxiety is normal. But if it gets in the way of our goals, then that's something worthy of intervention. So how do we start helping our kids with this? Let's huddle! Get the FREE Toolkit for Emotional Storms/Meltdowns/Tantrums here:   Emotional Storm Toolkit FREE Bust Unhelpful Thought Patterns now with this cheatsheet:  Bust Unhelpful Thoughts

If you're frustrated that you're not making any progress. Let me see if I can help you out with a couple of mental models to see if we can move the needle. I want to share a mental concept from my blog that I use when I'm feeling as though life is getting a bit wobbly and when it feels as though we're not on solid footing. I think that this idea along provides a powerful framework for keeping...

Hey friends. I hope you are doing well. Join me on this episode as I spend a bit of time going over some key ideas that I think will help you manage the imposter syndrome. I've expanded on what I'd said in the first episode of the podcast, and I think you might find it helpful. Get the FREE Toolkit for Emotional Storms/Meltdowns/Tantrums here:   Emotional Storm Toolkit FREE Bust Unhelpful Tho...

How satisfying it is sometimes to find a scapegoat for bad outcomes, but how easily we change our tune when a good outcome happens! Let's see if we can play by a different set of rules and live without needing to blame each other for stuff that just happens in life. Life would be so much better! Attributing outcomes to individual strength or flaws is problematic if we don't learn to...

Backchatting can be really hard to deal with. It pushes our buttons doesn't it? But here are some ideas to help us cope, manage and teach our kids better ways of dealing with stress and conflict. Take care my friendly friends.    Read the blog here where we talk about 3 tips to help you cope with this.  Backchatting - how to deal with this?   Get the FREE Toolkit for...

There are times when bad decisions get made during emotional upheaval. We need our wizard brain to do the thinking. What's that? Let's discuss this a bit.    I write a little more about this on the Huddle Wisdom blog:  Lizards and Wizards   Get the FREE Toolkit for Emotional Storms/Meltdowns/Tantrums here:   Emotional Storm Toolkit FREE Bust Unhelpful Thought Patterns...

Hey friends. Join me on another work commute! A little streams of consciousness here but I hope it makes sense, and I hope this episode encourages you and enriches you today. Sometimes we can block ourselves from enjoying the life we have now, inspite of circumstances. We all struggle. I've got a few concepts and frameworks which I think you might find useful.  If you'd like to support the sh...

My morning musings today after hearing first hand accounts from a Victoria University professor talking about young males who were part of the COVID19 mandate protests in Wellington attempt to set fire to a building with cloth doused with accelerant. Some observations from me here. Get the FREE Toolkit for Emotional Storms/Meltdowns/Tantrums here:   Emotional Storm Toolkit FREE Bust Unhelpful...

These can be stressful, disorientating and confusing to deal with. Where do we begin? Have we got the time to figure this out? A framework would be really useful! Come join us for this episode. I know you'll find it helpful. The website ( www.huddlewisdom.com ) is under construction, but it's coming soon, I swear!  Get the FREE Toolkit for Emotional Storms/Meltdowns/Tantrums here:  ...

Join me on my drive to work! As I do my best not to do any road ragey things! Fundamental Attribution Bias/error is the culprit. How do we stop it and allow us to have a much more pleasant drive to wherever we need to be?   Get the FREE Toolkit for Emotional Storms/Meltdowns/Tantrums here:   Emotional Storm Toolkit FREE Bust Unhelpful Thought Patterns now with this cheatsheet:  Bust...

This is a follow up to last week's episode (Tackling the Imposter Syndrome) where we explore the power of self inquiry; asking ourselves good questions. How do we construct good questions that allow us to find the answers we need to help bust unhelpful thought patterns? Huddle up and let's get into it!   Get the FREE Toolkit for Emotional Storms/Meltdowns/Tantrums here:   Emotional Storm...