The Huddle Wisdom Podcast with Dr Davin Tan

In this enlightening episode, I sit down with my friend and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu coach, Professor Felipe Santos. A champion in many respects, Felipe is a kind, passionate family man and an all-round good sort. I’ve learned a lot from him over the years. Our conversation evolves naturally, flowing with the go, as Master Rickson Gracie would say. We cover a lot of ground, discussing topics such as: R...

Welcome to this episode of "The Power of Self-Reflection: A Guide for Parents of Anxious Children". In this episode, we delve into the challenges parents face when their children experience anxiety and explore the transformative power of self-reflection as a tool to navigate these challenges. We discuss the difference between reactive and self-reflective practices, highlighting how easy it is to r...

Parents are the answer to the mental health crisis. How? Tune in. For resources on how you can be the linchpin in your kid's lives. www.huddlewisdom.com/connections

  Introduction: Welcome to another episode of Parenting with Huddle Wisdom . Today we’re diving into a common yet challenging scenario: anxious mornings with our little ones. As parents, we’ve all been there—rushing to get everyone ready for the day while managing our own stress. But how can we co-regulate with our anxious child, validate their feelings, and provide comfort when we’re feeling...

Welcome to our podcast, where we delve into the personal journey of a forensic psychiatrist and father who faced his own demons. This is a story of a man who, despite his professional expertise in human behavior, found himself in a situation that shook him to his core and led him to introspect deeply about his life and priorities. In this podcast, we explore a haunting incident - a day when he lef...

In this podcast episode, we delve into the rising rates of anxiety in children and explore strategies to counteract these challenges. We discuss the impact of technology, academic pressure, parenting styles, and social comparisons. Our focus is on fostering empathy, active listening, and emotional intelligence. We share practical tips for creating a safe space, promoting social connections, and te...

Parenting is a journey filled with unique challenges, one of which is dealing with the silent treatment from our children. This can be a frustrating situation, but it’s important to remember that it’s not about us, even if it feels personal. It’s about their emotions—they might be overwhelmed, frustrated, or misunderstood, possibly lacking the words to articulate their feelings. A Simple Framework...

Parenting is a beautiful journey, but let’s face it—sometimes it feels like an uphill battle. Whether you’re dealing with tantrums, sleepless nights, or teenage rebellion, there are moments when you wonder if you’re equipped to handle it all. Fear not! Our episode today sheds light on essential principles and practical pillars that can be your guiding stars when the going gets tough. Here is the l...

As a parent, you want your kids to grow up to be confident, resilient, and successful. You want to challenge them to learn new skills, overcome obstacles, and pursue their goals. But you also want to protect them from unnecessary pressure, anxiety, and burnout. How do you find the right balance between pushing and pausing? How do you know when to encourage your kids to step out of their comfort zo...

In this insightful podcast episode, we delve into the topic of parenting ruts. We discuss the ‘shackles’ that hold parents back and the ‘slippery slopes’ or thinking errors that can lead us astray. We explore the barriers that parents often face and the phenomenon of the ‘tall poppy syndrome’ that can hinder progress. The episode emphasizes the importance of having a clear vision of where you want...

Connecting or reconnecting with your children while they are in the middle of an emotional storm or meltdown is challenging, especially when your cup is near empty.  So is it possible to connect with them? Of course it is...but it's not easy.  The concepts we discuss will help, but like with most things in life worth doing, it's important to incorporate these practices into daily routine...

If you're struggling to understand why our kids have meltdowns check this episode out. Working out the reasons why an emotional storm happens is part of the work but it's critical to understand so that we can address the frictional forces that produced the emotional storm in the first place.   If you want to dig deeper into how you navigate through an emotional storm then watch the on-demand...

Sometimes it feels like life holds us to ransom. You no longer have to feel that way. We make the hard choices and tough decisions for the betterment of our kids, but risk rupture in relationship too. If however, we know to return, reconnect and fix the rupture...this can turn a hard choice into opportunity for strengthening our relationships with our children! Learn more inside this episode. And...

Learn how to praise your kids in a way that isn't contrived or cringey.  At the same time build their sense of agency without giving them an inflated ego or a need for constant approval.

Read this before leaving work. https://mentalhealth.bmj.com/content/25/3/117 In brief blanket strategies like mindfulness programs don't work for everyone. Why? Because if you fail to connect with someone first, your intervention won't be too flash Learn to make strong connections here FREE www.huddlewisdom.com/connections  

Parenting children through their opposition and defiance can be tough because it pushes our buttons. It can be difficult not to take their resistance personally. But keep the following principles in mind and you'll find your efforts to discipline your children a little less challenging: Here are the 5 themes: - Connect first, fix second - Parental self-regulation is important - Don't forget to min...

Sometimes we try to keep to the plan but life has it's own ideas.  How do we increase our chances of a plan working out in our favour in the face of changing circumstances? Tune in here.    Waitlist for Foundations of Emotional Connection www.huddlewisdom.com/foundations   Buy me a coffee if you want to support the show! www.buymeacoffee.com/huddlewisdom  

If you want to help keep the show going please consider contributing. www.buymeacoffee.com/huddlewisdom   If you'd like to get on the waitlist for the Foundations of Emotional Connection course then go to www.huddlewisdom.com/foundations  

School refusal is a hard problem for kids, parents and teachers. Failure is common. Is there a mental model or approach we can adopt to deal with this? Join me for this week's episode and I think you might find it useful. Link to get FREE framework for navigating emotional storms Emotional Storm Toolkit FREE

Join us for another riveting episode as Davin drives home from work...trying to figure out what cognitive error sports parent Karens make. And what you can do to make sure you don't become one.

Thinking errors are normal but we have to know they exist so we don't let them ruin our relationships with our kids.

Once a parent, always a parent.  Likewise, you're always going to be a child to someone no matter how old you are... but, it can be incredibly challenging knowing how best to help an adult child who is going off the rails.  How do you preserve your self while doing what's best for them? It's all so tricky.  I hope that the points I make in this episode offers you some assistance my...

  Why do young people do such naughty things like ram raids? And what can we do as parents to help stop that behaviour? Tune in.     Link to Connection Kickstarter - FREE training www.huddlewisdom.com/jedimind     Link to the Nutters Club Radio show https://www.newstalkzb.co.nz/on-air/nutters-club/davin-tan-a-psychiatrists-look-at-parenting/

It's really stressful when you find out your child is being a bully, or is being bullied. There's plenty of conflicting advice you might be given which only adds to the stress.  Don't worry, here's some anchor points from us at Huddle Wisdom to steady your nerves.  Tune in, and it'll help you out I'm sure.    .... FREE TRAINING ... if you're interested...👇👨‍🎓 It's really tou...