The Hey, Girlfriend Podcast

Why you keep getting blindsided: Reason 3-You lack confidence in yourself, your intuition & what you feel you deserve. So, you’re at any man’s will. I will guide you in where you’re going wrong & how to build your confidence so that you can have better dating experiences & never settle again.

Why you keep getting blindsided: Reason 2- You are not adjusting your standards & non-negotiables accordingly. You’re comparing each new man you date to your ex instead of comparing new men to a new list of your requirements. This episode will help you to recognize this pattern & give you steps on how to change it.

You’re trying to see the best in him. Reason 1-you are not a good judgement of character or you refuse to judge him period. You find yourself trying to see the best in him & give him the benefit of the doubt (when you should be doubting him). This episode I dive into how to break out of the habit of “trying to see the best” in a man & see him for who he’s really showing you. 💜💜💜I was re...

You know your worth, you’re just taking it personal that he doesn’t. Don’t. Why want a man who doesn’t value all of who you are? ivebeenthatgirl.net

It’s time to center yourself & de-center men for good. It doesn’t mean you hate men or never want a man again, it just means you’re not losing yourself in a man or a relationship. Ivebeenthatgirl.net

I’ve recently been in my disciplined, go get it girl era & I feel sooo much better about myself & my life! Being more disciplined works y’all lol. If I had known the other side felt like this, I would’ve been started. So, I’m sharing how I got unstuck & just got up! A major part was getting out my damn feelings & helpless state. I hope this episode is the mindset shift you need to GET UP 👏🏽 Bonu...

Detached dating doesn’t mean you’re aloof or cold & not wanting love, it means you’re detached until you have the proper information about that man to know it’s safe to securely attach. This episodes dives more into what detached dating is & how it can benefit your dating life. ivebeenthatgirltoo.com BONUS EPISODE on how men can fake being emotionally available just to get you attached here: https...

Setting boundaries with family can be the hardest because you love them. and not to mention they sometimes equate you setting boundaries with them as disloyalty or disrespect.

Greenflags he has good intentions and truly wants to get to know you. ivebeenthatgirl.com

Prepare to be called out--but in a loving, empathetic way. I've been this girl too--feeling stuck or feeling behind in life. I share some of my "tools" or mindset shifts I've learned to use when these feelings come up. ivebeenthatgirl.net

You can't always vet that a man is going to betray you... BUT, here are a few covert things that can help you to be on the lookout for when dating. ivebeenthatgirl.net

You gotta know when to get in and get out. ivebeenthatgirl.net

A man once loving you and then discarding you like you meant nothing to him hurts to the CORE. Let's talk about it and heal through it.

Self trust builds confidence and self esteem. It is just as important as having self love.

If you're trying to love yourself, then you already do. Your self love is there, in you already--its just waiting for you to embrace it and expand into it.

So, you think you can fix him, huh? You need proof that you give good love and you think that will be made evident in loving a man into changing for you? You think love has to be earned? You feel you can heal a man? If any of these things apply to you, this is the episode for you. I use to be this girl. I help you understand why you do this and how you can change it.

No, the answer is not becoming an emotionless savage that hates love (but if you do, that's yo business). If you still want love and want a relationship, the answer is taking the lessons from previous hurts and applying them moving forward. The answer is not losing yourself in a man. I go over 7 points here that could help you to ground yourself so you're not losing yourself in the next relationsh...

a man competing with your alone time and good life that you've made for yourself is better than him competing with a roster of men that aren't even in alignment with what you want anyway. Think about it. It's okay if you prefer to talk to and date one man at a time and it may just be better for you. In this episode I dive into how and why it could better and how to NOT worry so much ab...

What's stopping you from being confident? For me, it was the fear of being "fraudulent," meaning I didn't want to be one of those "delusional" people that thought too highly of herself and her capabilities...just for others to think I'm "crazy" for thinking that way about myself. BUT...what if we were more "delusional" about ourselves? Could that build our confidence?

Understand that that can be your LAST toxic, traumatic relationship and last time coming undone and hitting rock bottom over a man. You don't have to be afraid of trying love again. These 5 steps can help with that.

Our voids, codependency and attachment issues can really play min tricks on us like we need inconsistent, unavailable, bread crumbing ass men. Let go, girl. YOU need you. ivebeenthatgirl.net

Comparing yourself to others is literally a thief a joy and not only that, you're simultaneously diminishing who you are and your self worth. On this episode, I talk about how, I, myself got caught up and depressed comparing myself to someone else and what my resolve was to get back to me. I offer mindset shifts and ways to self soothe whenever you catch yourself comparing.

I don't like how men with mics claim that the reason for their bad behavior and mistreatment of women is because of the woman not requiring more from them. It's like only women are supposed to hold themselves accountable and the men are just supposed to keep being shitty until every woman in the world decides to stop "enabling" them. but I digress because my fight isn't to make them hear me--im no...

Take away their potential and what are you left with?? 1:1 coaching, books ivebeenthatgirl.net

I get it, you're an empath and "love hard," but girlfriend, you can't be so understanding that you tolerate disrespect and being treated less than you deserve. In this episode I talk about WHY you may be so understanding and how to stop it and how understanding you should be. There are levels to this understanding thing and I tackle all of them.