The Hey, Girlfriend Podcast

If you’ve been going back and forth in your head trying to figure out if what you’re feeling is valid — this video is for you. You don’t need receipts. You don’t need a list of things he did wrong. You don’t need to be able to explain it to your friends or make it make sense to him. A feeling is data. And it is enough. In this video we’re talking about why so many women intellectualize their way t...

If you want to stop chasing men and start attracting healthier love, this episode is for you. In today’s episode, we’re talking about why making men the center of your life often keeps you stuck in unhealthy dating patterns—and why the women who seem to attract healthy, committed relationships usually have one thing in common: their lives don’t revolve around being chosen. We’ll discuss why center...

If you’ve been loving harder, explaining more, forgiving faster, and doing everything you can to keep the relationship together, this episode is for you. So many women believe the answer to feeling appreciated is giving more. But what if the very thing preventing someone from appreciating you is that they’ve never had to experience life without your constant presence? In this episode, we’re talkin...

In this episode, we’re exploring the neuroscience behind relationship anxiety, attachment wounds, and why so many women lose themselves around men they deeply care about. We’ll talk about: ✨ Why your nervous system mistakes attachment for safety ✨ The hidden fear underneath relationship anxiety ✨ Why rejection feels so painful ✨ How childhood and past relationships shape your attachment patter...

Trying to love an unhealed man can slowly make you question your worth, your emotions, and even the way you love. In this video, we’re talking about emotional unavailability, ego, intimacy, self-worth, and the hidden damage women experience when they pour love into men who have not healed emotionally. This conversation is not about blaming women for loving deeply — it’s about helping women underst...

Your attachment made him feel more important than he actually was. In this video, we’re talking about anxious attachment, emotionally unavailable men, boundaries, fear of abandonment, and why healing sometimes means letting go of people who were never aligned with you to begin with. Make him come correct—or leave you alone. 💜1:1 coaching & BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebee...

A lot of women are not afraid of being “mean” to men. They’re afraid of being abandoned, misunderstood, punished, or losing someone they’ve already become emotionally attached to. In this video, we’re talking about: * anxious attachment in dating * fear of running men off * why boundaries feel “mean” * attachment to emotionally unavailable men * people pleasing in relationships * fear of male reta...

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If you’ve ever felt like you had to beg a man to show up, explain your needs over and over, or chase consistency… this is the truth most people won’t say out loud. Men don’t step up because of what you say. They step up because of what your presence requires. In this episode, we’re talking about why over-explaining, overgiving, and overextending actually keeps you stuck in the cycle of inconsisten...

You didn’t just want love… you wanted to be chosen. And without realizing it, that need can turn into something deeper—an identity. In this video, we’re talking about what happens when your sense of self becomes tied to who chooses you… and why rejection feels so personal, why you stay longer than you should, and why it’s so hard to let go—even when you know something isn’t right. Because this isn...

You keep telling yourself it’s love. That if you just give it more time, more patience, more understanding… it will finally feel the way it’s supposed to. But what if the reason you’re still there isn’t love? What if it’s familiarity? In this video, I’m breaking down the truth behind staying in relationships that drain you—and why it can feel so hard to leave even when you know something isn’t rig...

How do you know if a guy actually has good intentions — before you’re already attached? In this video, I’m breaking down 8 subtle but powerful signs that reveal a man’s true character early in dating. These aren’t the obvious things. These are the quiet, easy-to-miss behaviors that separate the men who are serious from the ones who are just skilled at seeming like it. If you’re tired of second-gue...

Many women say they want an emotionally available man. But what happens when you finally meet one? In this video, I talk about something that doesn’t get discussed enough: how toxic or emotionally unavailable relationships can condition you to respond to healthy love in unhealthy ways. I share my personal experience of learning how to communicate, unlearn survival tactics, and grow inside a relati...

He knew your worth. He just didn’t think you’d leave. In this episode, we’re talking about why men take good women for granted — and what actually makes a man realize he fumbled you. Spoiler: it’s not begging, over-explaining, or proving your value. ✨ Let’s connect: 💜1:1 coaching & BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl 💜books, coaching and more: https://linktr.ee/iv...

He wasn’t even that special… he was just fine. And he wanted you. In this video, we’re talking about why we fall for emotionally unavailable men, why love bombing works on self-aware women, and the truth about validation, attention, and our inner teen. Sometimes it’s not a soul tie. Sometimes it’s not destiny. Sometimes it’s just the first time a man we actually find attractive chooses us — and we...

You gotta make him feel stupid for trying you—and the way you do that isn’t revenge, yelling, or explaining. It’s walking away for good. In this video, we talk about why continuing to engage with a man who already showed you who he is only feeds his ego—and leaves you feeling drained, embarrassed, and stuck. If you’ve ever found yourself missing him, wanting to text him, or struggling not to fold...

If a man doesn’t have a healthy obsession with you, the relationship will slowly make you anxious, insecure, and self-doubting. Women are constantly told they’re “clingy,” “too emotional,” or “asking for too much”—when in reality, they’re responding to emotional inconsistency and lack of presence. In this video, I break down: • What “healthy obsession” actually means (and what it doesn’t) • Why wo...

Why do some men say they want marriage—but never seem able to sustain it? In this video, I talk about why liking your partner matters more than people admit, and why some men will never be marriage material—not because they don’t want love, but because they don’t truly appreciate women as people. Inspired by a conversation about long-term marriage, this discussion breaks down unrealistic expectati...

There comes a point in a woman’s dating life where nothing about a man matters if he doesn’t treat her right. Not his looks. Not his money. Not his charm. Not his potential. In this episode, we talk about why so many women are conditioned to be impressed by the wrong things—and what shifts when you finally heal enough to make treatment the standard. This conversation is for women who are tired of...

If you keep attracting emotionally unavailable men, you’ve probably been told that it must mean you are emotionally unavailable too. But what if that explanation doesn’t tell the full story? In this video, I break down the psychology behind why emotionally available women can still find themselves drawn to emotionally unavailable partners—and why this pattern often has less to do with a lack of vu...

“Lovergirl, I know you want love real bad… but please don’t settle for half-love.” This video is for the women who love deeply, who feel everything, and who keep trying to make it work with men who can’t meet them. If you’re a lovergirl who gives your whole heart, this message is going to hit home. I talk about why longing can trick you into staying, how self-abandonment sneaks in disguised as “pa...

If you keep losing yourself the moment you like someone… this video will change your dating life. Today we’re talking about how to decenter men while dating and in a relationship — so you can stop worrying about whether he likes you and start focusing on whether he’s aligned with you. In this video, we cover: ✨ What it really means to “center a man” ✨ Why women lose themselves when they catch fe...

You’ve probably heard the phrase “decenter men” — but what does that really mean? In this video, I break down what decentering men actually looks like in real life — and why it’s not about hating men or avoiding relationships. It’s about re-centering yourself. We’ll talk about: ✨ The real definition of “decentering men” and who coined the phrase (Charlie Taylor) ✨ Why it’s a lifestyle, not a tem...

So let’s talk about the real reason you can’t let go. It’s not because he’s your soulmate. It’s not because the connection was “too strong to walk away from.” You’re scared of detaching because detachment forces you to sit with the feeling of not being chosen. And that feeling is uncomfortable. It’s vulnerable. It’s raw. But that feeling isn’t proof that you’re unlovable. It’s just proof that you...

When a man only starts acting right once you’re done, that’s not love, that’s panic. He’s not afraid of losing you, he’s afraid of losing access to you. Because if he truly planned to love you properly, he would’ve been doing it all along. This video is for the woman who’s finally realizing that his “change” isn’t growth, it’s fear. Fear of losing control. Fear of losing the version of you that to...