The Hello Someday Podcast For Sober Curious Women

If you’ve reached 90 or 100 days of sobriety you might be wondering what to expect between 100 days alcohol-free and 6 months sober.  Does sobriety get easier between the 3 month and 6 month mark? What are the challenges and triggers I should watch out for that might make me dive back into the drinking cycle? What are the good parts of sobriety I have to look forward to?  As a sober coach I’ve wor...

Are you tired of the endless cycle of attempting to moderate your drinking or take breaks from alcohol, only to have your resolve crumble by Friday night (or 6pm) and wake up the next morning asking yourself why you can’t drink like a “normal person”? You’re not alone. I tried to moderate my drinking for years. I made ALL the rules about when I would (or wouldn’t drink) to get a handle on it. And...

High-achieving women who struggle with alcohol are often smart, hard working and struggle with trusting in their own worth, instincts and decisions.  If this is you, you’re probably extremely capable but live with insecurity, a healthy fear of failure and a loud inner-critic.  You might look to your boss, partner, parents or friends for approval and validation of your work.  You might have a hard...

When I was in my 20s I bought into the idea that drinking in moderation was “good” for me.  And why wouldn’t I? Red wine was being marketed as a “health” food. Articles and research being circulated claimed that drinking red wine would give me health benefits ranging from lowering bad cholesterol, regulating blood sugar, reducing my risk of cancer, keeping my brain sharp, my heart healthy, my body...

This podcast episode is a deeply personal one because the work of my guest, Stefanie Wilder-Taylor, both influenced my identity as a ‘fun mom’ who loved to drink and was an inspirational guide on my journey to sobriety. When I became a mom I fell in love with my son, and was also quickly overwhelmed by the physical and emotional work of taking care of a baby. I couldn’t believe how quickly my life...

Are you a blackout drinker? Because I was.  I’ve probably forgotten more of the “big nights” of my 20s and 30s than I remember.  Actually, it’s not that I forgot them, it’s that I drank enough alcohol that my brain didn’t record any memories of large chunks of those nights.  I’ve blacked out on business trips, at weddings and on holidays and have spent more time than I’d like to admit trying to pi...

Dry January is in the news as more adults are signing up to take part in the annual challenge to go 31 days with no alcohol.  What began in 2013 as a public health campaign from Alcohol Change UK with the goal of encouraging people to take a break from alcohol so they could ditch hangovers, reduce their waistlines and save some serious money has become a global movement.  In fact, 15-20% of Americ...

What’s the best New Year’s Resolution for your health? Take a break from drinking! Taking a break from drinking, whether for Dry January, a 100-day no-alcohol challenge or giving up alcohol completely, is one of the best New Year's Resolutions you can make to improve your overall health and wellbeing.  And taking a break from drinking is one of the most popular health and wellness New Year’s Resol...

If you’ve ever tried to stop drinking or take a longer break from alcohol you know how hard it can be to put together 2 weeks or 30 days or 4 months of sobriety.  Sober momentum is precious and often difficult to get. So when you have a foothold in alcohol-free life, how do you keep your sober motivation going strong?  The fear of losing steam, falling off the wagon or becoming unmotivated to stay...

When I was drinking I was the furthest thing from mentally strong and resilient. I went through most days feeling like I could barely cope with life.  Between the 3 AM wakeups, hangovers, promising myself that I would not drink and then buying a bottle of wine during the witching hour, I felt defeated, tired, defensive and overwhelmed on a daily basis.  The work of shifting away from that negative...

If you’re in your first year of sobriety you might not know how to ask your family and friends to support you during the holiday season.  But whether or not you realize it, getting help and support from the people around you to navigate the holidays alcohol-free can be incredibly useful and will help you navigate drinking events with more ease and less stress.  If you’re on the alcohol-free path,...

Feeling anxious and uncertain about how to stay sober during the holidays? You’re not alone, especially if it's your first holiday season alcohol-free.  It's completely normal to feel out of place and crave a drink during those holiday parties and family gatherings.  You’re probably used to toasting the New Year with a glass of champagne or sipping red wine around the Christmas fire.  For a long t...

The "Happiest Season Of All" can be a big challenge to navigate alcohol-free, especially in early sobriety. But with the right strategies you can cope with holiday season anxiety and family stress without drinking over it. Let's be real, facing the holidays with your family without a drink in hand can be awkward. Maybe you're used to drinking to celebrate or to cope with loneliness.  You might use...

Today my 9 year old daughter, Lila, is joining me on the podcast to chat about how I talk to my kids about alcohol, why I quit drinking and what she thinks about her mom being a sober coach (and a podcaster!)  A lot of women in early sobriety wonder how to discuss their drinking or not drinking with their kids, and of course every family is different. But since I get asked this question a lot I de...

If you’re taking a break from drinking or quitting alcohol completely, how do you navigate friendships in sobriety that were created on barstools and cemented in boozy book clubs? Most women I know have a lot of fears around how their friendships and social groups might change when they stop drinking. And that makes sense when all your friends drink or your partner is your drinking buddy.  Maybe y...

Do you feel lonely in your marriage? If you're a high-achieving woman, you're not alone. If you're a high-achieving woman, you're not alone. Many women who are kicking ass at work and home are also lonely and struggling to connect in their marriages. Maybe you're busy, overwhelmed and have gotten into the habit of putting family and work ahead of your own needs. You might feel guilty when you're a...

What should you expect to feel and do and experience in your first year of sobriety?  You’ve probably heard that the first 30 days sober are the absolute hardest and that hitting the one year milestone is big and important, but what comes in between?  Your first year sober can be a complex, emotional rollercoaster. You'll feel immense pride and joy and also uncertainty and vulnerability. It’s beau...

If you’re an introvert it's likely you’ve used alcohol in social situations to ease anxiety, be more outgoing and cope with large gatherings. So what do you do when you stop drinking? Most introverts gain energy from solitude and quiet and enjoy interacting one on one or with smaller groups. Parties and lots of social interactions can feel draining for introverts, and it’s common to use “liquid co...

What you don’t know about breast cancer and alcohol can hurt you.  Most Americans believe that “moderate” drinking (think 1 drink a day for women or 7 drinks a week) is “safe”, and many Americans believe that red wine is good for you.  While most people know that you shouldn’t drink and drive or drink while pregnant, a recent study found that only 34% of the general population knew that alcohol is...

You don’t need to have a drinking problem for alcohol to keep you from breaking through to your best life.  Sometimes, without even being aware of it, we’ve allowed alcohol to steal our time and energy, cloud our clarity, fuel self-doubt, reduce motivation and alter our brains and bodies.  Our lives have been dulled by booze. I asked Amanda Kuda, author of the book Unbottled Potential: Break Up Wi...

Sober October is the perfect time to take a break from drinking so you can look and feel your best going into the holidays.  And I got some of my favorite sobriety podcasters together to talk about all things Sober October and share what helped us most in our first month alcohol-free.  Join me, Suzanne Wayre from The Sober Mom Life, Amanda E. White from Therapy For Women, author of Not Drinking To...

“Let’s grab a drink” is a pretty standard invitation for a first date and in my drinking days almost every date with my husband involved a bottle of wine. So when you stop drinking it’s normal to wonder how sober sex, dating and relationships are going to work without alcohol as a social lubricant.  The good news is that there are a lot of benefits to dry dating.  When you take alcohol out of the...

How do you handle an endless number of meetings in a single day and the pressure to constantly do more? Do you feel like you’re always behind, overworked and undervalued? What if you wake up everyday to head into a workplace that feels toxic and untenable but blame yourself for not handling it all with grace and ease? If you’re a high-achieving woman with an ambitious career, the pressures of corp...

What’s the image that comes to mind when you hear the phrase “wine mom”?  In popular culture she’s portrayed as a woman with small children, barely getting through the day and reaching for a glass of wine at night to ease the stress of parenthood. Or maybe she’s a soccer mom with a tumbler of wine on the sidelines or escaping the kids for the night at a book club meeting with girlfriends and lots...

Self-care is critical for setting you up for success in early sobriety. If you’re like most women who drink to reward yourself at the end of the day you’ve probably been going through life over-scheduling yourself, putting your head down to get through your endless to-do list, feeling like there’s never enough time in the day. You’re likely overwhelmed, overworked and overtired. And if you continu...