The Hello Someday Podcast For Sober Curious Women

Do you drink a lot and also feel physically and emotionally burned out?    Maybe your life feels unmanageable, work stress is constant, you’re sleeping terribly, tired, empty, unmotivated, overwhelmed or mentally exhausted.   The physical and emotional symptoms of burnout often go hand in hand with alcohol use and abuse, and the signs and symptoms of burnout can mimic those of hangovers and alcoho...

“For women, moving away from behaviors that don’t work for us anymore, letting go of core beliefs that convince us we’re broken and not enough, laying a stake in the ground around our desires, is an act of making noise”. - Andrea Owen   Have you ever received the message that you’re “too much”? Too loud, too opinionated, too sensitive or emotional, too talkative, too big, too something…   As women...

Ambitious and capable women can easily fall into the trap of overperforming and underliving. We get lost in overthinking, overcommitting, overwhelm, and an over-devotion to letting other people call the shots of our lives.  We prioritize other people’s needs and priorities and end up living a life someone else has designed and dictated, instead of saying yes to ourselves and the things we want to...

Has your people-pleasing habit left you with an overstuffed calendar, unrelenting anxiety that someone might be mad at you, and the inability to get through tough conversations without having a heart attack and the desire to check out at night with alcohol?   If you worry a lot about what other people think of you, look towards others for approval and validation, or feel like you need to please th...

This is Part 2 of a conversation with my husband about what happened in our marriage once I stopped drinking.    To listen to Part 1 of this conversation go to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/71   Mike and I had been together for 18 years before I stopped drinking alcohol.   Those years of dating, marrying and becoming parents together were filled with many happy memories of wine tasting weekends, pu...

What role does alcohol play in a marriage? And what happens in relationships when one partner decides to stop drinking?    So many women worry about the role alcohol plays in their marriage and what might happen if they were to decide to quit drinking.    Whether your spouse is your drinking buddy, wants you to stop drinking, doesn’t want you to stop drinking or just doesn’t get it, navigating mar...

If you've read any Quit Lit, Catherine Gray's book, The Unexpected Joy Of Being Sober, is likely on your bookshelf or Kindle. It's one of the first books about giving up alcohol I recommend to women as they're starting their journey to stop drinking.   So I'm incredibly excited because my guest today is the author of The Unexpected Joy Of Being Sober, Catherine Gray. I met Catherine online in a se...

Many women find themselves turning to alcohol and drinking more during the decline of a marriage, during a separation or once their divorce is final.   Why do women drink after a divorce?    Divorce can bring to the surface feelings of uncertainty, loneliness, resentment, fear, regret, guilt, anger and shame for many women. These emotions can be difficult to cope with alone and women may turn to a...

Sober Travel is all the rage. So how do you take an alcohol-free vacation?  If you’re sober curious, in early sobriety or simply want a mindful and relaxing health and wellness break, you are going to love sober travel!    The New York Times published an article recently about sober travel going mainstream with wellness and mental health being top motivators for travel and more people ditching the...

How many of us learned healthy coping mechanisms for managing stress, anxiety or depression when we were kids?    If our parents didn’t model for us healthy ways to cope with the normal human emotions of overwhelm, loneliness, resentment, anger or fear, it’s easy to emulate their patterns or buy into the narrative that alcohol will help us take the edge off and relax after a hard day.    And if yo...

For so many of us alcohol keeps us playing small.  We love opening a bottle of wine at the end of the day but don’t realize how much of our time, energy, motivation and ability to follow through on our goals is being diminished by our drinking habit.  You might have New Year's Resolutions that you somehow never seem to keep, hobbies you’ve always wanted to try or feel like you’re barely keeping yo...

I used to be a wine mom.  I bought into the idea that moms need to drink to relax and cope with the demands of motherhood. I felt like opening a bottle of wine helped me transition from work to home and made me feel the way I used to before I had kids.  I saw wine as my well-deserved reward for getting through the day.   Plus, I love being efficient. I felt like “drinking while momming” was a bril...

Today I’m talking about giving up alcohol with Paul Churchill, the founder of Recovery Elevator.  Paul is a leading voice in the world of recovery having launched the podcast, Recovery Elevator, 6 years ago as an accountability tool when he was first getting sober.  The Recovery Elevator podcast has been downloaded over 6 million times in 145 countries and has helped countless women and men give u...

Do you go through the cycle of trying to detox your body after drinking too much with healthy eating and exercise, only to turn around and retox again with wine, beer, or cocktails?   I did that for years.  -I’d drink a bottle of wine each night and then go to a 5:30 am workout class.  -I’d go running after work and then come home and open a bottle of wine.  -I’d log everything I ate during the da...

Are you worried you won’t have fun without alcohol? Is FOMO (the fear of missing out) keeping you drinking?  Can’t imagine what life would look like without happy hours? Wondering if there is (actually) life beyond the bottle? You’re not alone! My guest today is Tricia Lewis, the creator and host of the Recovery Happy Hour. She’s here to talk about the concerns a lot of women have about life witho...

What does your self love practice look like? Are you chasing love and acceptance from others instead of finding love within yourself?  Self love means taking care of your needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others. Accepting yourself first is the first step to healing.  Today, I’m talking with self love expert Aubree Nichols who has spent her entire trying to fill her insides with...

Sometimes if you’re lucky someone reaches out to you in the early days when you’re first trying to stop drinking and shows you how to take the first steps. And for me, that person was Dawn Nickel.   8 years ago, when I first thought that I needed to stop drinking and decided to try life without wine, Dawn reached out to me.  I was traveling with my son and husband from Seattle to Victoria, British...

Do you wonder why drinking alcohol helps you feel relaxed and then leaves you awake at 3am? Or why do you have trouble moderating how much you drink?  How is it possible that alcohol is both a depressant and a stimulant? Why does a substance that makes you feel euphoric later leave you feeling so low with anxiety and a hangover? And is it actually true that alcohol is actually good for you in smal...

In early sobriety, sober treats are important, not an indulgence.  Don’t underestimate their power, because sober treats are essential to helping you both stop drinking and keep going once willpower runs out and motivation fades  When you’re walking away from drinking you need your time without alcohol to feel rewarding and kind - not like a punishment or deprivation.  And most of all you need sob...

Today marks ONE YEAR since I started this podcast! I can’t believe it. When I look back on the past year, I’ve been a little scared everytime I release an episode but mostly happy and grateful. I’m amazed to see women like you listening and reaching out and telling me that the podcast is helping them. Launching this podcast has been incredible and one of the most exciting and satisfying projects t...

Let’s talk about what happens to your body when you drink alcohol and what happens when you stop drinking after consuming it on a regular basis. I asked Gillian Tietz, the Sober Scientist and host of the Sober Powered Podcast, to come on the podcast to talk about the Science and Psychology of Addiction.    In today’s episode, Gill and I discuss Why alcohol slows down our brain activity How alcohol...

What do you desire in life and what’s holding you back from going after what you want?  Are you worried that your dreams aren’t practical or achievable?  Or that you’re selfish or self-indulgent for wanting more than you have?  Do you feel like you’re too busy, with too many responsibilities to go after something new (and you’ll have time to focus on it ‘someday’)?  Or are you scared to want somet...

We all have negative thoughts at times and often can be our own worst critics.  And if you have a tendency to be hard on yourself, the automatic thoughts you have can have a big impact on your emotions and the way you experience and interpret the world around you.  It’s normal to feel sadness, anger, worry and loneliness at times. But getting stuck in negative thought patterns can trigger heighten...

Let's talk about sugar, diets and early sobriety. This topic comes up all the time with women who are trying to stop drinking because they’re fearful of replacing overconsumption of alcohol with food. Common advice in early sobriety is to let go of your ‘food rules’, go ahead and eat the Peanut M&Ms, have dessert and don’t get too hungry. But a lot of women resist this advice. Instead, they try to...

Did you know that you can live alcohol-free and still enjoy your life? You can still be social, still hang out with your friends who drink and also transform internally.  You can let go of the things in your life that aren’t serving you, but also keep the people and activities that bring you joy.  You can have everything you’ve always wanted.  That’s what we’re talking about today, embracing an al...