The Happy Gynecologist

Today I am going to walk you through my process for how to handle the day-to-day stress of being an OB/GYN and then what to do to handle the Shit Shows that happen in this job.  I have developed a Shit Show Plan for myself and I walk you through what that looks like and what to do to make yours.  Enrollment is open for Quit Your Burnout, Not Your Job! To work with me click here: www.coac...

Do you find yourself running behind in clinic? Then do you find yourself beating yourself up or stressing over how much you run behind? Many of us have beliefs about how running behind makes us bad people or rude. These beliefs don't serve us and may actually lead us to run even more behind! Come listen today to learn more.  Also check out my newest FREE Mini Course on my website that I have...

 Have you ever wondered why we work such long hours in this field? I think the answer to that question is much deeper than "because there's a lot of work to be done."  I see 5 common reasons why we work long hours in OB/GYN and they aren't what you might think! We need to look at the real reasons why we end up overworking and begin to realize it's not just the amount of work. Our beliefs...

Burnout can feel like you are stuck on a hamster wheel--running and running, exhausted, but getting no where. Often, this is related to the questions we ask ourselves.  When we ask our brain a question, it's job is to find potential answers. So if we ask negative, Dead End Questions, we get negative, dead end answers...and a negative, dead end mindset.  In this episode, we discuss what D...

Wanna know the truth? Your truth is different from mine. Because it is based on your thoughts, experiences and life. The truth is subjective. This applies to when patients bring birth plans to the hospital. Come learn why patients do this and how to deal with it in a way that doesn't add to burnout.  To reserve your spot on my wait-list for "Quit Your Burnout, Not Your Job" click here: https:...

We will all pay a price to do the things we love. How much is too much to do those things? What if we thought about call/charts/clinic as the price we pay to play? Come learn what I mean by this and how to start changing your beliefs about work so that you are ready to pay the price of admission without feeling burnt-out. In this episode, I teach you a technique to change your thoughts about work...

For some more free resources, head over to my website: coach-miles.com/freeresources Listen in today to learn about what validation is and how it leads to burnout Learn a helpful metaphor for being an OBGYN that can help you prioritize yourself  Learn the questions to ask yourself to begin working on your self worth so that you no longer have to rely on validation from others. 

When we are burnt-out, our brain doesn't have much dopamine floating around. It is in survival mode. Dopamine is what gives us motivation and satisfaction. Many times, our brain will try to feel better by seeking out large amounts of dopamine from external sources, such as sugary snacks, alcohol, social media, or online shopping. These are all examples of concentrated pleasures, which give our bra...

One of the leading causes of burnout is the lack of respect from admin, staff and colleagues. The problem is, respect is a feeling, and feelings come from our thoughts. When we are burnt-out, our brain is in survival mode and primarily is run by the primitive part of our brain, which views most interactions as negative. Today we are going to discuss why we often feel disrespected when we are burnt...

Beliefs are thoughts that we have thought over and over again. They are thoughts that we believe to be true. When we have beliefs about work, sometimes they can lead to burnout, as I quickly learned. By examining these beliefs, you can start to question whether your beliefs about work are really serving you or not. Listen to find out what beliefs are, and how they may be leading to burnout fo...

In medicine and on the road to get here, we have been taught many things about failure.  Mostly that it is bad. And that to be good, we must avoid it at all costs. After a recent event at work, I decided to dig deeper into failure and what we make it mean about us as physicians, and as people. Come listen today to see if you do the same, and how to go about addressing it.  You can always...

Sunday Scaries. I'm pretty sure they should have their own ICD-10 code. And they suck. That's what I've decided. I used to struggle with this regularly, even on non-Sundays... Sometimes it was a mini-version of the Sunday Scaries, where I didn't want to get out of the car when I get to work. But I've found the way to get rid of the Sunday Scaries for GOOD. So come and listen to find out whether yo...

Doctor's day is next week, and with "feeling unappreciated or disrespected" as a top cause of physician burnout, I want to talk about how to celebrate YOU so that you don't fall into this category! Because it doesn't matter what kind of Doctor's Day celebration is held--it's your thinking about it that matters. So if you find yourself grumbling because the hospital provided lunch is lackluster, I...

So many of us in medicine have perfectionistic tendencies, and to a point it has served us well. Come listen to today's episode to find out if perfectionistic thinking is still serving you or if it is leading to negative results in your life at home, at work and with your relationships. I will also teach you a concept that helps my clients ditch their perfectionistic thinking to start thriving and...

I'll admit it, I have had kind of a love/hate relationship with social media in the past. I have definitely used it as a source of buffering in the past. Especially while waiting on a delivery or on a surgery to start.  The negative consequences included me not doing my charts and orders in a timely fashion and it also contributed to my burnout!  This week we are going to discuss social...

So often our Burnout story is a rough one. It is a painful one. It can be full of negative emotions and terrible details. In today's episode, we talk about how I rewrote my burnout story, and how you can too. Tune in to hear my original burn out story and how I changed it. For more details on my upcoming program, visit my website at coach-miles.com or follow me on Instagram ( CoachMilesMD ) for up...

Buffering can show up a lot of ways in our lives, like emotional eating, having a glass of wine and watching Netflix or scrolling our phones. Essentially what we are doing is trying to escape or trying to feel better. Come learn more about how to tell if you are buffering and what to do about it! 

While on call this week, it was interesting to see my brain go into a scarcity mindset, and it got me thinking about how scarcity can play into burnout. Come listen to what scarcity is, how it can show up in our lives, and how we can get out of scarcity and live from a place of abundance instead.  I'd also love it if you left me a review on iTunes so I can get the word out to other OB/GYN's!...

With Valentine's Day approaching, come find out how I can make any situation better, by Sprinkling a Little Love on Top. In today's episode, we will discuss what love is, where it comes from, how we feel it, and how we can use it to take care of ourselves and reduce burnout. You will also find out if you are placing conditions on your love for other people (which means certain conditions must be m...

I like my creature comforts when I am on call. Yes, I bring my own pillow and bedding and body wash. But after an unexpected outcome, I found myself looking for more comfort to my stress. I was looking to sugar and phone scrolling to feel better. The problem with these things is, they don't actually comfort us. They just numb or blunt our emotions. So go get your comfy pants on and listen to ways...

The manual is a list of unspoken rules you have for other people. Like a Girl Scout manual that says what a good girls scout is, we also have a manual for what a good spouse is, what a good sister is, what a good friend is. It is a list of things we think other people should do, so that we can be happy. But often, this leads to tension and resentment in relationships or feeling frustrated with peo...

Did you know that there is a difference between guilt and shame? And that if you experience more shame, there are higher rates of associated depression, anxiety and burnout? Mom Guilt is like "I feel bad for giving my kid M&M's with breakfast," whereas Mom Shame is like "I'm a bad mom for giving my kid M&M's with breakfast."  We also tend to shame ourselves as doctors when we have com...

I'm a recovering people pleaser. There, I said it. Maybe you relate. People pleasing comes from our deepest primal fear of rejection, because if we were kicked out of the herd, we would be in danger. So no wonder it sucks to feel rejection. Come listen and we will discuss the ways that people pleasing often shows up, and how to show up in a more authentic way (to yourself and others).

Overwhelm is a part of being an OB/GYN at times. But today, we dive into the causes and the tools I often use when coaching my clients to ditch their overwhelm and get a place of finding better solutions.  From deep seated beliefs, to the evolution of women in the workplace, we talk about all the things that lead to our overwhelm and what to do about it.  Listen in to hear more! For questions, com...

Toxic People can really get us in a negative mood if we let them. Come along and listen today to find out my Secret to dealing with them. I'll also share the concept of Emotional Childhood and Emotional Adulthood, which is a something I teach my coaching clients to help them take charge of their emotions 100% of the time.  I also am discussing my new coaching program, "Quit your Burnout, not...