The Good Sex Project

Inspired by Lisa Taddeo’s book, 'Three Women,' this episode follows the intimate journeys of Tracey, Leah, and Naomi through their experiences of love, desire, and identity. Navigating the deep waters of sexuality, societal expectations, and personal transformations across different generations, tune in for candid conversations that challenge norms and offer insights into the complex tapestry of f...

What if we took it slow? In this episode we join one woman on her search for profound love and mind-blowing, soul-melding sex, travelling from scepticism to a deep, fulfilling relationship built on respect, patience, and divine slow-sex. You’ll hear about real techniques to slow it down and up the pleasure from Alissa Resnick of OMGYes. If you're curious about taking your intimacy to a lush new le...

In this extended interview, Melody Thomas talks with renowned sex educator and author Emily Nagoski. They explore the neuroscience behind desire and pleasure, debunk cultural myths, and discuss Emily's latest insights on creating lasting sexual connections. Tune in for actionable wisdom and transformative advice that could elevate your intimate life to new heights. Let's stay connected!  Instagram...

Come with us and explore the myths and truths of maintaining a satisfying sexual connection long-term. From dealing with mismatched libidos to sex after babies, we explore what it takes to sustain meaningful relationships and thriving sexual connections, with real stories from real couples and expert advice from world-renowned author and researcher Emily Nagoski ("Come As You Are" and "Come Togeth...

Are you unsure how to address sensitive topics like sex and pornography with your kids? Join host Melody Thomas in this special bonus episode, where experts Yumi Stynes and Dr Jane Cherrington share practical advice, personal anecdotes and crucial insights to help parents navigate these challenging conversations. Learn why it's essential to maintain open communication, the impact of peer pressure...

What happens when sex education falls short? From finger-blasting to pick-up artists, this episode follows three people who took learning into their own hands, including return guest and disability advocate Etta Bollinger's experience with sex workers and a young man's near-miss with incel culture. There's plenty of trial and error, as well as joyful discoveries and pleasure. We're also joined by...

Would you like some pleasure with your politics? In this episode of The Good Sex Project, we explore how societal structures and cultural narratives impact sexual joy and freedom. We discuss the impact of ableism on sexuality with writer and disability activist Etta Bollinger, and chat to founders of a Māori ecosexuality kink zine (PARU) about reclaiming indigenous sexual joy. Join us in exploring...

Episode 1 of The Good Sex Project Season 2 embarks on a journey through different decades, unearthing diverse personal experiences that shaped people's relationship to pleasure. Featuring heartfelt conversations, painful confessions, and joyful revelations from the stories of Sophia, Porte, and Mary - no one's journey has been a straight line. Tune in for a thought-provoking episode that underscor...

Buckle in and get ready for a fresh new season of The Good Sex Project! Hosted by Melody Thomas, this series delves deeper into the heart of what makes sex and relationships thrive. The first two episodes,  ‘It’s  My  Pleasure’  and  ‘Pleasure is Political,’  are out July 9! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sometimes, relationships are better off ending. We figure out when it’s time to call it quits, how to break up amicably, and how endings make way for new beginnings. We also consider how aging plays into a person’s sexuality and how it’s never too late to find pleasure. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Pop culture and religion have told us that our soulmate - ‘the one’ - is out there. That our life partner should be our best friend, co-parent, confidant, intellectual sparring partner, sexual muse and all the things in between. But what if it works better when there’s more than two in a relationship? We speak to people who are engaging in ethical non-monogamy, swinging, and long-distance, label-l...

In this bonus episode, Melody Thomas held a live 'Masterclass' with clinical psychologist and family therapist Nic Beets and together they took questions from our listeners. This episode is packed with expert advice on relationships, why some of them work and why some of them struggle, as well as practical tips and tools. Have you got something you've been wanting to know? Email  thegoodsexproject...

Extra listening for the extra interested! In this bonus episode, Melody speaks with renowned American sex educator and researcher Emily Nagoski, who's mission in life is to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Extra listening for the extra interested! In this bonus episode, Melody speaks with Wanaka-based somatic sexologist Sonia Waters about topics ranging from desire and libido in long term relationships, to recovering from trauma, to managing jealousy and watching pornography. Sonia is certified with the Somatic Sex Educators Association of Australasia and is doing her Masters degree in psychology wi...

Long term love can be hard. We speak to couples who’ve got insight into how they make it through the tougher periods of their relationships, including having young children. We also get some guidance from experts including Dan Savage and somatic sexologist Sonia Waters. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We delve into the biochemistry of those first tingly feelings for someone, and how all those raging chemicals can cloud our better judgment and lead to some toxic relationships.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What does good, healthy & happy casual sex look and feel like in the age of dating apps? We speak to people who’ve negotiated their way into some pretty sexy situations using their open and honest communication skills. We also look at how mainstream porn has infiltrated our sex practices, and at what we can learn from the world of kink and BDSM.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more...

What's the point in sex positivity if the sex we're having is bad? We speak with South Auckland musician Pati AF, who grew up a "holy girl" in the church before kicking off her "hoe phase" - by claiming her own body and sexuality back with explicit Instagram posts and random dating app hook-ups. She was empowered. So why wasn’t she having a great time?   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for...

In this bonus episode, we meet the two Alices who share their later-in-life coming out stories. There's Alice Soper, one of New Zealand’s foremost voices on women’s rugby. She’d always told herself she was super straight - that is, until her OE to London changed everything she thought she knew. And comedian and writer Alice Snedden, funny, irreverent and in denial about her love life - until she w...

In this episode, we explore how feelings about our own bodies can get in the way of our love lives. We follow three people on their journeys to self-love, self-acceptance and self-worth. Also feat. expert advice from psycho-sexologist Chantelle Otten Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

New Zealanders have a lot of sex, but a lot of it is average. We meet three people who’ve had a lot of pretty average sex and not-so-healthy relationships. Also feat. Australian feminist writer and broadcaster Clementine Ford, and Emily Nagoski, the award-winning author of Come as You Are. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to The Good Sex Project. Hosted by Melody Thomas, this is a podcast about good sex, good relationships, and how to have them. Out Now! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.