The For Peyton Podcast

In this clinical deep dive, Tami Valentine explores what healthy relationship repair actually looks like when couples face conflict, stress, grief, disconnection, and major life changes. Using real stories from nearly 30 years of marriage alongside evidence-informed couples therapy concepts, she breaks down recurring conflict patterns, emotional responsiveness, shared coping, and the small ways co...

What does nearly 30 years of marriage actually look like? In this episode of The For Peyton Podcast, I sit down with my husband, Aaron, for an honest conversation about growing up together, raising four kids, navigating money and family stress, learning how to communicate, becoming empty nesters, and grieving the loss of our son, Peyton. We talk about the things we got right—and plenty of things w...

In this clinical deep dive, Tami follows up on her conversation with Ashley Moran by exploring a question that can be surprisingly hard to answer: Am I depressed, or am I just going through something really difficult? Grief, burnout, stress, trauma, and depression can overlap in ways that are difficult to sort out from the inside. But you do not have to perfectly name what you are experiencing bef...

In this episode of The For Peyton Podcast, Tami sits down with her friend Ashley Moran for a candid conversation about motherhood, grief, faith, family, and learning how to keep living after devastating loss. Ashley shares what it was like to lose her husband, Donald, while raising six children, how grief affected each member of the family differently, and what it meant to keep parenting when she...

What happens when the danger is over, but your brain and body still act like it isn’t? In this clinical deep dive, Tamera explores how trauma affects the brain, nervous system, memory, and threat response—and why survival skills that help us in one environment can become exhausting in another. Using insights from her conversation with Sergeant Nicholas Hazelett, she breaks down PTSD, hypervigilanc...

In this episode of The For Peyton Podcast , I sit down with Nich Hazelett , a sergeant with the Colorado State Patrol, 12-year Air Force veteran, husband, father, and longtime first responder. Nich shares an honest perspective on the human side of law enforcement—what repeated exposure to trauma can do, how his own experience with PTSD changed the way he leads, and why protecting a person’s dignit...

In this clinical deep dive, Tami builds on her conversation with Luke Riley to explore leadership far beyond the workplace. She looks at how leadership shows up in marriage, parenting, family systems, and within our own internal world. Drawing from Bowen family systems theory, Gottman relationship research, Internal Family Systems, Carl Jung, and leadership principles from Stephen Covey and John M...

Luke Riley knows both sides of recovery: the struggle itself and the work of helping others find their way through it. Now a leader in addiction treatment and nearly 19 years into his own recovery, Luke joins me for a candid conversation about addiction, bipolar disorder, leadership, identity, and what happens when success becomes a place to hide. We talk about learning to separate who you are fro...

Tami Valentine follows her conversation with funeral director Stephen Hunzeker with a clinical deep dive into grief. Drawing from research, her work as a therapist, and her personal experiences following the deaths of her son Peyton and her mother, she explores how grief affects the brain, body, relationships, and spirit. This episode examines grief waves, nervous-system regulation, ritual, contin...

Stephen Hunzeker shares insights into his role as a funeral director, the changes in the funeral industry, and the importance of creating rituals around death. He discusses the impact of his work on families and the community, highlighting the need for compassion and understanding during difficult times. The conversation delves into the sacred rituals and emotional toll of funeral preparation, the...

What does mental health actually look like in everyday life? In this clinical deep dive, Tami explores how mentally healthy people respond to correction, success, failure, fear, gratitude, and belonging. She also shares practical questions to help you shift from self-criticism to self-coaching and grow with greater steadiness and compassion. A companion digital download for this episode is availab...

Western sports announcer and collegiate rodeo coach Branden Edwards joins Tami for a candid conversation about performance pressure, self-criticism, rejection, resilience, gratitude, and the importance of checking in on the people who seem fine. They also explore the lessons rodeo, coaching, community, and hard conversations can teach us about navigating real life.

In this follow-up deep dive episode, Tami builds on her conversation with retired educator Brad Huffaker by exploring public education through a trauma-informed leadership lens. Tami discusses five principles — safety before correction, connection before escalation, structure as support, repair after rupture, and systems not superheroes — and applies them across the home, classroom, school buildin...

Retired educator Brad Huffaker joins Tami to reflect on 30 years in public education — from classroom teaching and school technology to administration, CTE, transportation, and district leadership. In this conversation, Brad shares what he has learned about students, teachers, parents, technology, and the importance of helping kids feel seen. Tami and Brad also discuss the pressure educators are c...

In the first episode of For Peyton , Tami Valentine shares why she’s starting this podcast and the heart behind it. She introduces the vision for the show: honest, grounded conversations about mental health, grief, growth, and the things people carry that often go unspoken. Tami also shares about her son, Peyton “Pete” Valentine, whose life, creativity, compassion, and memory inspired this podcast...