The Flynn Skidmore Podcast

There is probably a spectrum of traumatizability. Some people, for reasons that span psychology, biology, spirituality, and beyond, just don't deeply internalize damage the way the world expects them to. I share something I have carried for nearly 20 years: a vague sense that a sexual violation happened to me when I was young, which became as close to confirmation as I will probably ever get...

If you’d like to continue this conversation with me live, join us this Friday in The Membership . The central question: is violent self-murder ever necessary, or is it actually the part of us refusing to consent to a death that's already trying to happen? I share what came up for me sitting with that question, starting with a week of post-dental agony that led me to something I want you to fe...

If you’d like to continue this conversation with me live, join us this Friday in The Membership . In the first seven months of my relationship with Julia, I was jealous. Not hyper controlling, but a silent suffering that verged on obsessive compulsiveness. I was beginning and ending my days with anguish, rage, despair, blame, and frustration. I share the full arc of that experience, what triggered...

Welcome to The Flynn Skidmore Podcast. I'm Flynn, and this podcast is for learning to light your soul on fire and become exactly who you want to be.  Ways to Work with Me Join the membership here for weekly live discussions Apply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort 1:1 with me

In today's episode, I speak with holistic psychologist, educator and author, Dr. Scott Lyons. Scott is a world-class body-based trauma expert, helping people break free from cycles of pain, limiting beliefs, and trauma.  In this conversation, we explore cyclical thoughts, shame and its effects, positive and toxic shame, self-actualization, social isolation and loneliness, and what it means to...

In this episode, I explore the often-overlooked fear of joy and the profound impact it has on our lives. Through a powerful client story and reflections on my personal journey, I uncover the ways early life experiences teach us to repress joy as a survival strategy. Together, we examine how these patterns shape our personality, relationships, and creative potential, often keeping us disconnected f...

In this episode, I delve into the journey of navigating darkness and discovering the beauty that emerges when we embrace our contradictions. I share my personal experience of living out of alignment with my true self, the pain of hiding behind masks, and the profound transformation that comes from aligning your external reality with your internal truth. Through the lens of congruence—where your in...

In this episode, I guide you through a powerful meditation designed to help your desires feel safe to grow and flourish. I’ll help you create a space where you can explore what you truly want, hold space for the fears that may arise, and transform them with warmth and tenderness. This practice allows you to connect with your desires, understand their potential, and create an environment where they...

In this episode, I share my thoughts on why material wealth alone doesn’t create a truly fulfilling life. I talk about the epidemic of isolation in our culture and how many of us, myself included, have sacrificed genuine connection in the pursuit of success. I explore what’s at the core of this need for “life force” and how nurturing friendships with shared aspirations can shift our experience, br...

In this episode, we explore the journey of becoming someone who genuinely inspires yourself. I share my personal transformation from relying on fear-based motivation to cultivating a life of true self-inspiration, highlighting both the struggles and revelations along the way. We dive into: Owning Your Desires: Why aligning with what you genuinely want can shift everything. Self-Actualization and C...

In this episode, I’m diving into the heart of self-love, breaking down some of the biggest misconceptions that can actually hold us back and deepen self-criticism. I’ll share how looking at self-love as an energetic process can help us move beyond judgment and obligation, opening up space for real acceptance and powerful transformation. I’ll guide you through exercises to help you reconnect with y...

In this episode, I explore the profound impact of completion on personal growth and success. I share my journey in recognizing the importance of signing off on both tangible projects and intangible parts of myself, including past versions of who I’ve been. By acknowledging what’s complete, I’ve found that it reduces overwhelm and frees up energy for new creations. Using the metaphor of water flowi...

In this episode, we explore the intricate dance between energy and the material world, uncovering how these two layers of reality shape our experiences. Through the lens of my personal journey, we examine how our energetic states—whether rooted in shame or love—ripple out to influence the physical world. Understanding the cycles of creation, assimilation, and completion, we gain the power to culti...

In this episode, I dive deep into the concept of creating our desires in life. I explore how our general orientation, like my goal of becoming 100% love, guides our actions and shapes our journey. I emphasize the importance of embracing the tension between our current state and our aspirations, viewing it as a space for creation and growth. We discuss the rhythm of creation - birth, maintenance, a...

In this episode, I dive into the concept of creation and share my personal journey of identifying as an artist. I explore how this decision has transformed my perspective on life and creativity. I discuss the importance of embracing all dimensions of ourselves, dissolving perceived contradictions, and how identifying as an artist has allowed me to love mistakes and take myself less seriously. I al...

I share how I've transformed potentially tense situations into opportunities for connection and growth. By approaching these encounters with an intention of giving of giving - offering presence, friendliness, and genuine interaction - I've not only often avoided traffic tickets but more importantly, created moments of real human connection. This approach, I believe, is about transcending...

In this episode, I ask the question, “Why does growth take time?” I explore the mechanisms underlying the materialization of desires and intentions, and consider why sustainable change takes time, using my own experience with eyesight as an example.  I discuss why quick fixes or "winning the lottery" or “chiropractor” scenarios might not lead to lasting transformation, and how God (or th...

In this episode, I dive into the complexities of personal growth within relationships and share my 4-part framework for co-creation.  We explore the challenging dynamics that arise when partners have different visions for their lives and the importance of understanding each other's ideals. We discuss the three options you face when your partner's growth doesn't align with your expec...

In this episode, I follow up on last week’s topics of superiority and inferiority and share my growth since. I speak about into the concept of empowerment and the journey from perceiving relationships vertically to embracing horizontal connections. I explore the realization that safety and genuine connection come from allowing ourselves to be seen horizontally by others. This shift in perspective...

In this episode, I dive deep into the personal journey of understanding and transforming my internal concept of worth and value. I explore the idea of being seen as the "best option" and how it has influenced my actions and relationships. Through a reflective process, I discuss the importance of shifting from a vertical, hierarchical mindset to a more horizontal, interconnected view of r...

In this episode, I dive into one of the most challenging and transformative aspects of personal growth: conflict. I share my perspective on how to navigate, embrace, and engage with conflict in the most next-level way possible. Conflict is golden because it accelerates the process of bringing unconscious material to the surface of your conscious awareness. This gives you the opportunity to make co...

In this episode, I dive deep into my transformative journey with Connor Milstein's movement system. This isn't just about getting in shape; it's about aligning your body, mind, and spirit to the highest degrees of love and transformation. We kick off by exploring my initial resistance to adopting Connor's system and how committing to it has led to unprecedented levels of person...

This episode is a re-airing of the episode published on December 13, 2023. In today’s episode, I teach you about the The 6 Principles of Your Unconscious. These principles, informed by Neuro-Linguistic Programming, are the key to understanding your unconscious to transform your internal and external realities. The 6 Principles: Your unconscious stores and organizes memory Your unconscious takes ev...

In this episode, we dive deep into the themes of purpose and our contributions to the collective well-being. We explore how aligning our internal and external environments can empower us to trust our instincts and fully engage in our lives, unlocking a state of fulfillment and creative power. Here’s what we cover: Purpose and Contribution: Understanding how to live in service to the greater good a...

In this episode of the Flynn Skidmore podcast, we delve into the relationship between our internal states and the external environments we navigate. I challenge the idea that joy can be cultivated internally regardless of external circumstances by emphasizing the interconnectedness of the internal and external worlds. Here’s what we cover: Interplay Between Internal and External Environments: How...