The Feels with Charmian

Fam! It was a pleasure reading all of your emails with your theme and stories from 2023. I've selected three to share on the final episode of the season. The Feels is officially 3 years old now. Thank you for 3 amazing years. The goal of the podcast was first to create a space to heal, over time it turned into a space to empower. Without this community, it could not have done either. I leave y...

*This episode is a follow-up to EP 36. This was a year in the making! At the start of the season, I decided that we’ll all pick a theme for ourselves to live by in 2023. We’d let it guide us from the back of our minds and see how that intention would manifest for us. Now, 10 episodes later, I’m finally revealing my 2023 theme to you all and sharing the highs and lows that came with it. This episod...

The council has spoken; we're having a meeting with all of our toxic traits ☺ I'm not a fan of the woe-is-me mindset, and this is definitely not a hall pass for us to indulge in victim mentality. However, it is healthy to acknowledge what we got going on that is causing undesirable patterns in our lives, so that we may fire them accordingly. In this episode, I share a few of my own pattern...

We all know what it's like to experience moments where we entertain the idea of giving up. It's taking too long, it's not going anywhere. We've all been there. If you're on the brink of that, perhaps this episode will help reignite the flame in you to keep going. Especially if giving up is not your first choice. While my journey to becoming senior instructor at Absolute is not...

Your entire personality is made up. The identity you put on the most becomes who you are. Whether that scares or comforts you, in this episode I discuss how that's possible through repeated storytelling. You are not a product of your circumstances, since those circumstances are actually taking cues from your state of mind, i.e. who you are being most of the time. The state you occupy the most,...

We're baaaack. Turning 30 this year has been liberating, and in the time away I found the words to describe my takeaways from being 20-something. I share my discovery about self-worth, recognising that there's more to life than being attractive to the people you like, to stop asking for permission, and how being triggered is a choice. Side note; I hope you've been keeping tabs on your...

Letting go is not something you do, it's something you stop doing. In this episode, we'll be discovering: 1. What letting go is and isn't 2. Why letting go seems hard (but doesn't have to be) 3. The Sedona Method, and how I apply it 4. The Charmian Method, and how you can apply it! Letting go doesn't have to be dark, tedious or dramatic. It doesn't have to take long. It can...

It is the nature of nature to forgive. Too often, when we think about "forgiving", we think it means to take action towards something or someone. But really, forgiveness is not about doing something, it is the absence of it. I'm here to tell you that no one other than you has the ability to convince you to un-feel resentment, disappointment or anger with regards to the matter at hand...

Google “Top SG male influencer”, and the first name that ranks that list is Benjamin Kheng. Even if you don’t know what this multi-talented artist does exactly, you probably know him through social media, recognised for his sincere humour and never-ending pursuit for artistic expression. Ben is arguably one of the most creative people I know, and it was nice to kick back with him and chat about ev...

Hailed as “Asia’s Anna Wintour” and “Top 100 Women of the Future”, Singaporean Dr Loretta Chen is an award-winning creative director, bestselling author and respected professor. She was shortlisted as a Nominated Member of Parliament and was International Consultant to the investment arm of the Royal Government of Bhutan. Above all, she is a loving daughter, sister, wife, aunt, and mother to 18 fu...

.. is not real. Fear is an emotion exclusive for the "future", that doesn't currently exist. It traps you in its own reality, and the only way it becomes your reality, is if you make it real. Read that again. In this episode, we discuss the illusion of fear, why we manifest unwanted/ fearful outcomes more "easily", and how to allow the presence of fear, without letting it r...

Welcome back to Season 3 of The Feels, people! We kick off Part 1 by setting a theme for ourselves. If you've tried and tested this year's resolutions to no avail, let's try setting a theme instead. We discuss why themes give us direction without rigidity, and how to decide on the right theme for you. To keep each other motivated and accountable, we'll set our own themes, and check...

Hey Alexa, play Sam Smith's 'Money On My Mind'. This is a fun one to end the year! To help you with your goal-setting for 2023, I thought I'd share with you how I manifested my money goals this year, from the moment I intended it, to how it unfolded, to what I've learnt in the process. No, this is not another cup method to manifest a couple hundred dollars, this is not where you find the secret to...

Nothing in life has meaning. You make it mean something, so the question is, what does it mean to you ? Human beings are inherently storytellers. We are designed to create meaning, in order to make sense of our time here. Otherwise, there truly is no point to doing anything in life (ha). In this episode, we discuss the paradox of assigning meaning, why we choose to legitimatise some meanings and n...

Some feelings feel particularly heavy, and no one likes that. Having been on both ends of the coping spectrum, i.e. letting negativity overstay its welcome, versus not acknowledging its presence at all -- I share why it is necessary to find a balance between the two. You're already feeling the ick whether or not you want to, and choosing not to feel it now , is simply postponing it. Letting it thr...

Why do we get some things that we want, and for others, they seem to elude us? In this episode, we discuss the tendency as human beings, to see our biggest desires, as big to begin with. In order to have the things we want, we have to become the version of us that naturally identifies with having it. We talk about how to shift into that mindset, and how to take our goals, people, and ideal states...

What does it mean to “become the one” rather than “find the one”? If we find ourselves unable to keep relationships, is it them or is it us? In this episode, we discuss how the state of being we perceive relationships from, affects our relationship health. This is for anyone who wonders why they can never truly feel happy single or attached; the lack of fulfilment in any circumstance stems from yo...

Let's talk affirmations! We affirm every moment of every day, so the question is, how do we affirm more of what we do want? A scan of what we experience now will give us a clue of what our subconscious programming is currently like. I discuss the Illusory Truth Effect and why you don't have to believe what you affirm, how to craft the right affirmations, when best to affirm intentionally.. and eve...

Some of us consider spiritual upgrades as becoming closer to God, but I see it as becoming closer to oneself. In the last year, I've learnt about what it means to change no one but self , reframed my perspective on the role of desire , and how I've arrived at trusting that what we want, we can have . Spoiler alert; it involves giving no one but yourself, the permission to believe that you can. Tha...

It takes 21 days to form a habit, and 90 days to create a lifestyle. In 2022, I finally have a mental health routine that I feel confident about sharing with you :) From my exact journaling format, to how I build a meditation routine I love, how I keep a mental diet, and how I start my mornings - I hope this episode motivates you to create a wellness routine that not only feels natural to you but...

"Every single thing about who we are, we got it from somewhere.” Part of knowing ourselves is being able to identify what isn’t us. Do we know what beliefs are running our lives, and where do they come from? Chris Marhefka led many lives before this one; the one of an athlete, recovering from brain surgery, growing and selling seven-figure businesses, and finally becoming the CEO of personal heali...

How often do we discuss our successes? How often do we talk about our failures? We get so comfortable replaying our failures in our head, one would think we enjoy failing ;) In this episode, I share how I rebel against unhealthy inner conversations when we miss the mark, and how to have a healthy relationship with failure. Get comfortable with failing, until it gets bored of you. Then, success!! ...

Let's talk about MOOLAH! Or more specifically, how to make your money work for you, no matter how or what you earn. In this episode, I invite my friend Matthew John (@slim.matt) to reinforce the basics of money 101, and together, we break down the various money personality types there are out there. This is especially helpful if you work in a gig-economy, just entered the workforce, or are looking...

The 24th episode on the 24th of the month - did I plan it? Maybe maybe maybe. This is the last episode for the year folks, and one I highly recommend giving a listen as we start thinking of our new year's resolutions. This, IMHO, is step 0 to lasting change - understanding how change really happens. Make 2022 the year you drop old stories of yourself; stories that no longer have a place within the...

Say no to being A HOE HOE HOE! lol it’s cuffing season! A time so easy to settle for mediocre, less-than-fulfilling relationships out of loneliness. Sis is here to help strengthen your dating standards, by sharing with you author and sexologist, Shan Boody’s concept of the Frozen Five. We know what we don’t want, but do we actually know what we NEED in order to thrive in our relationships? I break...