The Feels with Charmian

What does your therapist think about you? And what are they really asking when they ask you questions? In this episode, I chat with Jon about his practice as a Psychotherapist and Mindfulness Teacher, to set the record straight about what mindfulness is, and how we can hold space for our anxieties. Skip ahead to parts that interest you with the timecodes below, or sit with us and let's unpack. Jon...

We’re baaack! To kick off season 2, I bring on my film’s co-star, Ky Tan, for a no holds barred conversation on modern dating. We discuss our share of bad dates, how to use dating apps effectively, defining “the one”, core values vs dealbreakers, and if marriage is the necessary end goal of heterosexual relationships.  Watch our film, This is how we never happened , here ! Connect with us on...

Started from the bottom now we here! We have levelled up with our manifestations since our free coffee days my friends. For the big 2-0, I share with you some of the fun (and unexpected) things that I’ve created in my life, using various methods mentioned by the likes of people like Billie Eilish, Shawn Mendes, Oprah, Ashley Graham.. the list goes on. Listen to get a healthy dose of wu-wu today, a...

We're back with a new guest episode! This week, I chat with Tim & Elaine of local restaurant-bar, In Bad Company, who together are business partners, and partners in life. While some of us might have the perception that business partnerships tend to jeopardise a romantic one (and vice versa), this couple dissects and divulges the secrets behind doing it so well. What decisions do they make tog...

It's time to spill the tea on my 2-year therapy journey! In this requested episode, I get real about the events in my life that motivated me to get therapy and look back on the person I was before I started, how it changed my perspectives, and share the reasons I haven't gone back so far. I hope these first-hand experiences will give you a better idea of the role of therapy in our lives, and also...

Let’s about UNproductivity! We all have lazy days, days we don’t want to achieve, but if the lack of motivation draws out, there could be more we’re not seeing. In this episode, I highlight the key differences between laziness and burnout, to help you have a better idea of what we’re dealing with here, and know the fix to this disconnect we feel. Laziness is something we can live with, but pervasi...

Do you control your emotions, or do they control you? I'm all for feeling our feelings, but in the heat of the moment, we can get carried away. The 5 second rule is known for helping you to curb hesitation, so that you can act on instinct and achieve your goals. By the same token, taking 5 seconds to not react when sh*t hits the fan can help you regulate your emotions, so that you can act from the...

Even the best of us struggle with feeling great about themselves from time to time, and that just reminds us we are human. But, a healthy level of self-confidence can be built and maintained, with some tools to help! In this episode, I share with you my roadmap to building confidence over the years — through uncovering the experiences that have caused it to falter, how then to bounce back from tha...

"No expectations, no disappointment" is a phrase some of us are comfortable living by, until you realise that is exactly how disappointment breeds. In this episode, I break down what The Pygmalion Effect is through a tried-and-true experiment, and give real life examples of how when we set up to fail, we indeed end up failing. The Pygmalion Effect argues that the higher the expectation, the better...

The idea of Radical Acceptance feels somewhat overwhelming, especially when we find ourselves rooted in uncomfortable situations. How can we accept something we don't like? In this episode, I break down what psychologist Marsha Linehan terms Radical Acceptance, and how to practice it especially in these trying pandemic times, where shifts are inevitable, and normalcy fluctuates. Radical Acceptance...

Ever find that when we try to "be positive", doing exactly that feels harder? I break down why this piece of advice can be counter-effective, and how it could even set you back further on your emotional scale. This is one of those times non-action is actually good action. Listen to find out why and... don't press the red button. Don't do it. Don't. Do. It.

"The things you face in life are harder, because your calling is higher." Charlene Chew is one of the strongest people I know. She is a burn survivor, but beyond that, she's intelligent, free-spirited, and is meant for something great. In this episode, we uncover the fateful burn accident that changed her life, listen to what her recovery journey entails, and discuss what self-healing really is ab...

In this episode, I open up about my unanticipated weight loss, and how anxiety had a hand in it. The experience allowed me to reexamine the relationship I have with my body, and how we see weight loss as a measure of success or even happiness. It’s completely okay to want to look better, but remember you don’t have to wait for your body to look better, before loving it. Start now, no matter where...

This week, we dissect the brain with the help of Dr. Claudia Aguirre, neuroscientist and mind-body expert! From across the world in LA, Dr. Claudia’s work is highly sought after across TV and radio shows, beauty & wellness brands, and she's also an educator with TED. In this episode, we discuss what really happens when we sleep, how melatonin can help us fight Covid-19, how our skin processes...

Happy Valentine’s Day people! The beautiful Barbara Latimer joins me for a special episode this week, where we talk about everything to do with dating in the modern age. In Part 1 of this no-holds-barred conversation, we discuss coping with loneliness, our experiences with dating apps, and getting back with the ex. Grab popcorn (see also: wine) cause this is a *juicy* one. Barbara Latimer is an ev...

In this episode, I share with you my blueprint for journaling in the most efficient and enjoyable way. If you have trouble being consistent, it’s okay because that’s me too! These 4 tips will absolve you of journaling guilt, and help you shift your mindset positively. Let me know which tips help you best, and have fun writing! Show notes: 1  Do it out of inspiration, not out of obligation. 2  Leng...

I am incredibly excited to welcome my first guest on The Feels podcast! Puja Bansal is first and foremost a dear friend of mine, but in her professional career, is a Nutritional Therapist, a mother of 2, and an amazing wife and cook all in one. She believes food is medicine, and has worked with clients in their various recovery journeys. In this episode, we discuss all things gut-related, and whil...

On New Year's Eve 2020, I met a boy carrying an umbrella. This is how we never happened. And that's okay!

Actor Matthew McConaughey recently published his memoir, Greenlights. It's introspective and lots of fun to listen to as an audiobook! Before I picked it up, I came across an interview he did that I thought really put into perspective my career switch this past year. Borrowing his wisdom and wisecracks, I (finally) talk about what made me left radio, and how sometimes, running shirtless on the bea...

A fun little experiment to start the new year! In this episode, I share what I’ve learnt about the art of Manifestation, or as some call it; conscious creation. Does it work? Is it magic? HOW did I do it? More importantly — (yawns) what can it teach us about, well, us? Whether you’re doing it to learn more about yourself, or just want to get free coffee... it’s pretty fun. Here's to a ~magical~ 20...

Blisters, boundaries, and the shoes.

You can take the mic out of the girl, but you can't take the girl away from the mic! Hi, I'm back.