The Ex-Good Girl Podcast

Send us a text In this episode,  Kori Linn and I discuss Imposter Syndrome. Kori is a life and career coach as well as the host of the Satisfied AF podcast. She helps clients, listeners, and social media followers create more satisfaction & delight in every area of their lives. Imposter syndrome points the finger at individuals and burdens them with being “better” or improving. It burdens the...

Send us a text This week I’m joined by Andrea Giles. She's a certified life coach and has a podcast called “Heal From Infidelity”. Andrea helps women sort out the confusion, grief, fear, doubt, and frustration that comes when infidelity (as well as other forms of betrayal) occurs in their marriage. Today we talk about our life stories and what got us here. We’re both on healing journeys and w...

Send us a text Our wanting is essential and important. Women feel shame around wanting because we’ve been taught to not want things. “Don't be needy or selfish.” How many times have you heard or felt this? Do you choose not to hope or strive for your heart's desires because it's easier to not want than to be disappointed? Wanting is opening up to your curiosity on your path to self-...

Send us a text For this episode, Laura Sully joins me to share her experience having a consult with me. Booking a consult with me is the best way to start your journey with stopping people pleasing. When you start working with me, I’ll give you tools that are immediately useful in your life. Then we’ll get into processing emotions and dive deeper into the roots of people pleasing in your life. Aft...

Send us a text What if 2024 is the year you stop people pleasing? What if you started to create a world around you where you feel respected by yourself and others? The universality of our preprogramming aka good girl programming silently shapes us. We can learn to overcome the discomfort, and gain the respect we desire from ourselves and others. It’s possible to belong, feel loved, and feel respec...

Send us a text Elizabeth Sherman joins me this week to discuss midlife and the changes women experience on different levels. Humans socialized as women experience emotional, physical, and mental changes as they get older. Health should be the overall goal but our society's ways of thinking mess that up. Diet culture and the patriarchy are such negative influences. Food and emotions co-relate...

Send us a text Andee Martineau and I continue our conversation this week about people pleasing and parenting. Tolerating failures and disappointments with your children can be challenging but it is possible to deal with. The need to fix, save, and/or rescue can be consuming. As a parent, you have to be true to yourself and respect yourself first while also respecting and loving others. Stopping th...

Send us a text Andee Martineau and I have a long history together. She introduced me to coaching. She has 6 kids and I have 5. We home-schooled our kids together and have a common religious background. She’s a true friend who’s been there for me and is along for the ride. Parenting is a hard job and learning how to stay healthy, balance, and manage everything life throws at us is a lifelong proces...

Send us a text My mentor, teacher, friend, and colleague joined me to talk about how claiming authority changed everything for us. Kara Loewentheil, J.D., is a Master certified coach, host of the top-rated podcast UnF*ck Your Brain, and creator of The Clutch, a feminist monthly coaching program that has helped tens of thousands of women across the world liberate themselves from the inside out.  Wo...

Send us a text In this episode, I discuss how to navigate uncomfortable situations this holiday season. Unwinding the way we operate out of people pleasing and perfectionating is especially tricky during the holidays. Holidays kick up a lot of difficult emotions and situations. The way to get through this season is to honor your own desires, which starts with listening to yourself. Then, you can h...

Send us a text We are programmed to constantly worry about whether we are safe and loved. This comes from attachment styles we develop early in life. It can be helpful to identify your attachment styles because you can have a different style with different people in your life. In this episode, I’ll give you an overview of attachment styles so that you can think about what yours might be. Our attac...

Send us a text In this episode, Deb and I talk about repressed emotions and how they relate to physical pain. Deb Malkin is a feminist mind/body coach, specializing in using the tools of neuro + bioplasticity and consciously curious hypno-coaching to help people unlearn pain and emotional stress symptoms. As a queer, fat, radically unapologetic human with their own unique mind and body, Deb joyful...

Send us a text “Just be grateful for what you have.” How many of you have heard this before? This is synthetic gratitude, which is a form of gratitude that is expected of women to provide and perform- to show we are staying in our place. I think understanding how synthetic gratitude works will be really helpful. In this episode, I’ve broken down 4 things that I've noticed due to synthetic gra...

Send us a text This episode is out just in time for the holidays, giving you a chance to wrap up the year with a little extra kindness for yourself. In this episode, I'll reveal seven life-changing steps. These steps might sound simple, but they're not necessarily easy to implement. It's worth keeping in mind that letting folks down is just part of life, and I'm here to help yo...

Send us a text I have an extraordinary guest this week! Jen Berlingo, MA, LPC, ATR (she/her) is a midlife coach, a licensed professional counselor, a nationally registered art therapist, and a master-level Reiki practitioner. She wrote a book called Midlife Emergence, which reached #1 in several Amazon categories. She is also a visual artist and created the painting on the cover of her book. Jen i...

Send us a text Let's talk about holidays and expectations. We want to make special memories for our loved ones but often put our own needs to the side to please everyone else. Boundaries can be tougher with family because of our upbringing. From gifting to decorating then planning, shopping, and cooking… the list goes on. I’m stressed out just talking about it! But there is a way to reduce th...

Send us a text I am so excited to continue discussing boundaries this week with my special guest Olivia Vizachero! She is a Master certified life coach who helps people choose themselves as their top priority. When we decide to set a boundary and resistance comes up, that's where the work is. We can’t control how others react, we can only control ourselves and our thoughts and actions. Until...

Send us a text Boundaries are about learning to share the power in any situation by identifying actions within your control. This week's and next week's episodes are all about boundaries. I have a special guest joining me next week, Olivia Vizachero, who will help me continue the conversation. Being a good girl means not having boundaries. It means that you are constantly prioritizing ot...

Send us a text This is a powerful episode about an important movie, ”Women Talking”. I'm joined by Chelsea Paxton as we delve into the film's themes and the significance of language and speaking up. Sadly, women are often not taken seriously and are taught to suppress their feelings. Questions like "Are you really hungry?" or "Did that really hurt?" are dismissed with...

Send us a text This week my vocal instructor Kristin Jensen joins me to discuss finding our authentic voice. There are so many rules around how women's voices are supposed to be used. Women often soften or dull their voices and don’t feel comfortable speaking freely and openly. Good Girl programming can block you from finding your soul's voice and makes you bury your needs deep down with...

Send us a text This week my guest is Keina Newell. Keina is a financial coach and founder of the Wealth Over Now program. We discuss our relationship with money and get into the connection between money and people pleasing, codependency, and perfectionism. Keina discusses how budgeting can be therapeutic and comforting. She talks about how gaining awareness about how you’re spending your money can...

Send us a text This week the amazing Kristen Carder is joining me to talk about ADHD. I’ve been looking forward to this for a while. She is an incredible coach with 10 years of ADHD expertise and also my friend. I’ve started to become curious if I have ADHD after looking at the symptoms. It's mindblowing once you make the connections and realize that this might be something you struggle with....

Send us a text This episode is an intro to the gender diagnosis gap with ADHD and our ingrained masking behaviors from social pressures to be a "Good Girl". Masking behaviors are the ways in which we perform, pretend, and suppress our emotions to be accepted. “Be polite, be nice, be on time”...all of this keeps us from attending to our real ADHD symptoms. You can be free of the shame, an...

Send us a text How many times a day do you find yourself thinking, 'I’m selfish for doing this for me instead of doing something for someone else.' You're not alone. Rather than prioritizing our own well-being, women often give themselves only scraps of our day for self-care. Cultural expectations put women into roles that often call for them to be selfless, aka the caregiver or the...

Send us a text Wouldn't you love to have the golden ticket to a happier life? I got you! In this episode, I dive into the ten reasons why group coaching is effective in putting an end to people pleasing. If you're intrigued, mark your calendar for the week of September 18th, when my next group coaching course kicks off. I'm offering a variety of options, from a free consultation and...