The Estranged Mom Coach™ | Estrangement, Prodigals, Estranged Parent, Biblical Emotional Healing

Estrangement from your child can throw you into a loop of questioning your identity and struggling to find happiness in your day-to-day life. You long for that moment of reconciliation… when the phone says their name as the incoming call. The first hug after so much time has passed. The text that says, “I love you, Mom.”. Maybe you pray daily for the reconciliation to come. But there’s a type of r...

Welcome to the second Lesson in the free audio class, Safe Spaces For Estranged Mothers. In today’s Lesson, we’re talking about your emotional healing. When your adult child goes no contact, it’s a massive blow to your emotions and your nervous system. Healing from that pain and trauma - yes mothers can have trauma too - is a vital part of reconciliation. You can’t show up how you need to until yo...

Hey, friend. Hold onto your hat for this one because you might be really surprised at what I’m going to tell you in this episode of The Estranged Mom Coach™. I came across a trend that’s being literally sold - as in sold for money -  to our adult children, as well as to you as an estranged mother. It’s a phony solution that will set you up for more relationship turmoil with your estranged child if...

Hey, friend. Welcome to The Estranged Mom Coach™. I am so excited to have you here for the first Lesson in a free audio class series called Safe Spaces For Estranged Moms. So much of the time, we focus on what our estranged children need but then… where is the support for you? You need safe spaces too. This free audio course is going to help you connect with those safe spaces. In this conversation...

Estrangement Oriented Manipulation. Also called EOM. Maybe you have never heard of that term before, but even if you haven’t heard of it before, it might be impacting your family. EOM is a pattern of dysfunctional behavior, often seen in daughters in law who drive estrangements between adult sons and their parents. It can happen with sons in law as well, but right now, there is an epidemic within...

As Christians, we are called to be different from the mainstream world. That includes how we handle estrangement from an adult child… and all the grief and sorrow that comes with being estranged. In this episode of The Estranged Mom Coach™, I’m talking about Godly grief versus worldly grief and how one sets you free while the other keeps you caged in such a way that estrangement lingers. Warm up s...

Many estranged mothers quietly carry this fear… What if admitting I got something wrong makes everything worse? What if your estranged child - or their spouse - uses it against you… Twists it… turns it into proof that you failed? That gotcha moment? What if it means you failed as a mother…The role you considered your identity. In this episode of The Estranged Mom Coach™, we’re talking about why re...

Estrangement has a way of circling one quiet question in your heart… why. If your child has gone no contact and you’ve been searching for something that finally makes sense of it, come sit with me for a few minutes. There are patterns here - not to blame you, but to gently reveal where healing can begin. In this episode, I’m sharing three of the most common threads I see… the kind that shift how y...

In family estrangement from your adult child, some days feel heavier than others. You do your best to keep going, and maybe you’re doing reasonably okay… and then suddenly the grief hits hard and you feel lost in it. If you’ve had moments where despair creeps in and you wonder how you’re going to make it through the day, this episode is meant to be a safe haven you can return to whenever you want...

You sit in this foreign space of estrangement from your adult child, wondering what went wrong. What’s missing? How can you fix it? You figure if you showed them you loved them more, or maybe explained your intentions behind the events that must have led them to walk away… maybe you’re just guessing in the dark because you don’t even know why they left. So you love harder, you try more… you miss t...

When your estranged child’s birthday approaches, it can stir up a lot of mixed emotions. You want to reach out… to let them know you’re thinking of them… but you’re also afraid that text could make things worse. In this episode of The Estranged Mom Coach™, I walk you through a checklist to help you decide whether or not sending that birthday text is the right thing to do at this stage of the estra...

Estrangement from an adult child creates a very particular kind of sorrow - some call it ambiguous loss. Your son or daughter is still alive, still somewhere out in the world… and yet the relationship between your child and you has gone quiet. In this episode of The Estranged Mom Coach™, we talk about what psychologists call ambiguous loss — and why I believe ambiguous grief is the more honest and...

Some family estrangement advice sounds wise on the surface, but actually pushes reconciliation with your estranged child farther away. In this episode of The Estranged Mom Coach™, I’ll tell you about three pieces of estrangement advice you need to be careful with, because what seems loving, reasonable or harmless can actually deepen the divide between your child and you. Let’s gently sort through...

Sometimes the question that keeps an estranged mother awake at night isn’t just: When will we reconcile? It’s: What actually caused the estrangement from my child? . In this episode of The Estranged Mom Coach™, I want to share something that can bring surprising relief to your heart… a truth that sits underneath many estrangements, even when the details are different. . And once you understand it,...

If you’re an estranged Christian mom searching for support online, please hear me on this: not every group will help you heal… and some can actually make things worse. In this episode, you’ll discover three key questions to ask yourself to identify if an estrangement support group is healthy. And I’ll also tell you about one major red flag you should run from, when it comes to online estrangement...

Hey, estranged mom with a fiery streak and a big heart. I know you… Heart on your sleeve. Climbing walls loved ones put up because you were taught that when your people withdraw, you go after them. Not because you’re trying to trample boundaries, but because you love fiercely. But with your estranged child, the rules have changed. What once felt like devotion is received as over-stepping, and that...

Family estrangement and dreadlocks. What could those things possibly have to do with each other? Lots, it turns out…  What if the slow, uncertain way something forms is not a mistake… but the lesson itself? . In this episode of The Estranged Mom Coach™, I share how my dreadlocks - grown patiently, imperfectly and without control - mirrored deeper truths of family estrangement.  . We talk about mes...

When the distance between your estranged child and you feels unbearable, their social media can start to feel like the only open window. You scroll for comfort, to feel included in their life... Maybe to see grandchildren as well… and somehow you walk away more tender, more unsettled than before. In this episode of The Estranged Mom Coach™, I gently explore why that pull is so strong and why it so...

If you’re an estranged mother who finds yourself checking your estranged child’s social media, this episode is for you. You know that urgent feeling… the pull to know if they’re okay, almost irresistible… like your heart won’t settle until you look.  . But while checking their social media can bring temporary relief, it also grates against your already activated nervous system. In this conversatio...

If your child has recently gone no contact, everything can feel tender and urgent at once. This episode is a quiet place to settle if the estrangement is new and your heart hasn’t had time to catch up yet. I’ll gently share three things not to do in the early days of your child going no contact and what to do instead. This conversation is about emotional steadiness, wisdom and protecting what can...

When you’re estranged from your son or daughter, Mother’s Day can feel especially heavy. Mother’s Day can bring feelings of dread and sadness when estrangement has left a quiet ache where celebration should be. If you’re bracing yourself for a day that feels cold or lonely, this podcast episode is a soft place to land. We’ll talk about how to hold both sorrow and meaning without pretending the pai...

As an estranged mother, your heart’s desire is to fix what’s broken between your adult child and you. But maybe everything around you seems to point to no repair in sight. But what you see isn’t all there is. In this episode, we look at the story of the 10 lepers, and I’ll tell you why you must be like the lepers in order to have reconciliation with your estranged child. Brew some decaf tea, settl...

During a family estrangement from your adult child you might go looking for guidance… but not all guidance is safe. In this episode of The Estranged Mom Coach™, I’m offering a word of caution about false teaching creeping into the estrangement space… messages that pull you away from Biblical truth and erode your sense of peace. When radical love is framed as dangerous, burdensome or damaging, some...

In this episode of The Estranged Mom Coach™, we talk about echo wounds - the places where past rejection or abandonment are reactivated in the ache of being estranged from your child. Warm up your tea and settle in as I share a powerful story that invites you to notice what’s being touched inside you, and why healing it matters before reconciliation can take root. If your heart longs to respond wi...

So, you want to reach out to your estranged son or daughter. And you may have wondered whether a message you send would ever truly reach them—or be intercepted by a spouse before it ever finds their hands… or their heart. That wondering can open the door to other possibilities, such as contacting them at work. Should you contact your estranged adult child at their workplace? If this question has b...