The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse

Episode 2 of our summer music month as I share two more songs with you today that impacted my healing and gave words to what I was experiencing after betrayal and divorce. Betrayal breaks you, breaks you down and breaks your heart. Well, it feels broken anyway, and I remember feeling as if it will never be whole again. Asking myself if I will ever love again, will I ever be loved again, and will m...

Join me today in my summer music month series where I will share songs that played a key role in my healing journey. Join the conversation by sharing YOUR empowering song on Apple or Spotify reviews so other women can build their healing playlist! Today's song choice is the first song that really helped me lean back into trust, when I couldn't trust myself, or anyone else after betrayal. I didn't...

I love celebrating freedom. I practice honoring others' ability to choose. But what if their choices actually take your choice away? Trauma is not about choice, however today I will talk about how to get access to that ability to choose, and be free no matter what external choices have been made for you. Free agency is the greatest gift of freedom and having an empowered divorce after betrayal...

You are going to get a double dip episode here today with my amazing new friend Julie. Not only will she share her journey to having an empowered divorce, but as a general contractor ( bad ass right?) she will give tips and tricks to navigate basic household wears and tears, tackling those fixer upper projects and how to find the right contractor help when you need it. You are not going to want to...

Today I am answering a listeners question, and many others who have asked me this over the years. This is not an easy topic, it's emotionally charged and can really weigh heavily on those of you who are facing this. There are absolutely tactics that an abuser will use to gain power over you, get you to do something they want, or avoid responsibility. So how do you know if it's a tactic, or...

Today I share an "AH HA" experience ( all you Oprah fans know what I'm talking about) while at the gym, of all places. I have been loving this new thoughts shift and I can't wait to share this concept with you. Many times, our of survival, we have become so dependent on what others think, how others view us and even get motivation to reach goals from others, but not ourselves. In...

Listener Giveaway!! Leave a review on APPLE podcast for the chance to win $100 Visa gift card to use towards your first family outing/vacation as a single woman! Are you feeling like you are NEVER going to be able to go on a vacation ever again now that you're divorced? What thoughts are your brain offering you around this? What about feeling angry or envy that your ex is taking the kids on va...

I don't think it matters how much time has gone by or how long a person has been divorced, when you find out your ex is getting married, not only does it hurt, but it is a shock response. There are many feelings that flow through you after this awareness, including the feeling of injustice, like unfairness. There can also be anger, bitterness, and jealousy–why does he get the happy ending and...

Perhaps you used to look forward to summer time. Maybe you planned vacations and activities with the kids, family vacations with the kids’ grandparents at an amazing beach house. It was time you looked forward to, slow things down a little, enjoy time together. Divorce changes all of it. Now you might be working, sharing time, missing out on the kids' adventures and not being able to even vaca...

Normal grief for any human is hard and unwanted. When you have had previous trauma, chronic pain or metal illness such as PTSD, anxiety or other chronic issues and then you experience betrayal In your primary relationship, abuse and divorce, you most likely are suffering from complicated grief. Today I share some thoughts around what this can look like, and offer a few things you can practice toda...

When you feel the emotion of fear, do you then try to just have more faith? What about when you feel grief, do you try to just feel more grateful? Today I offer a little trick I use that will help you to make a much needed shift. It's a shift into more authenticity, acceptance and empowerment. I have 2 of my favorite words I am sharing with you today, and as I have implemented these in my life...

Join Emily today as she bravely shares her story through betrayal and divorce. Dealing with serious illness and chronic pain on top of navigating betrayal is salt int he wound. Emily is recently divorced and is continuing to learn more about her experience and heal, but doing it from a place of empowerment as she continues to practice everyday. This isn't about getting it perfect or perfectly...

Have you thought to yourself, "How did I get this so wrong?", or "How did I miss the red flags and get into this marriage ?", "I chose wrong, I got it wrong". Perhaps you have thought ,"Where did things go wrong, I thought everything was right?". Any of those thoughts resonate with you? They did for me. Changing the way I thought about my choice to marry som...

Whether or not you're thinking about dating again, there are a few phases of healing after betrayal that can be helpful to be more aware of and today I want to help you identify perhaps what phase we're in, and own it. When we aren't aware of where we are at, we can get stuck in the journey. Stuck in bitterness, anger and the fear of loneliness can become overwhelming. Surviving a marr...

Have you ever had this thought? Have you ever wondered why he didn't choose to fight for you, and what things would be like if he had? There are a lot of real emotions attached to this thought, and I want to walk you through how to make peace with this idea. What if his not choosing you really isn't about you? What if this thought really isn't serving you or giving you the results you...

Internal family systems work is one of my favorite modalities to healing from betrayal trauma and divorce. It really helps to separate all the trauma parts that have been created through your experience, old childhood wounded parts, and protector parts that keep you from connecting with the Self. There are 8 characteristics that when practiced, can help you to be more in tune with your higher, tru...

Come join me today s we hold space for Jori to share her story, her experiences and her truth. Owning your story is an important and powerful part of the healing journey. I hope that as you support other women as they share their story, it helps you to own yours. Want to hear more from Amie? Follow on instagram @amiewoolsey Here are some FREE resources from Amie you can check out Choose Recovery D...

There are two different types of overwhelm I will talk about today, one is the literally nervous system shut down overwhelm that happens when a traumatic situation caused your brain to tap into it's energy reserve and there just isn't more to give. The other type of overwhelm we often find ourselves in, is the lifestyle overwhelm. Many of us have been so used to this kind of over-functioni...

Have you had people tell you right after divorce, don't worry things will get better, or, why aren't you happy now that you aren't with the man who hurt you? Here you are just trying to still wrap your head around what the hell just happened, and perhaps you really are trying to be happy and move on but just can't. I want you to know that there is a good reason why and it's a p...

Are you having a hard time getting up in the mornings? Showering, eating, working out, meditating, working.... all the things? Are you wondering how in the world can you get motivated after betrayal and divorce? I got you. Today I share a quick simple tools that will help. In fact, this was the first tool I used that began my journey to thought work and becoming in charge of my life and moving out...

Have you ever gone to a favorite restaurant and the one meal. you always get isn't available anymore because they have a new menu? Do you grieve like I do?! Ok maybe not over food, but when the menu of life changes and what you thought was available to you isn't, what you were told was going to be prepared is no longer an option, we can get stuck making a decision off the new menu. Today I...

"Is this hell?" I asked myself while sitting in the Dr. office after divorce, because I found out that my ex had in fact had an affair. It's another loss to process as you realize even more, just how much you were in the dark and will possibly never know all that transpired and all that you were unknowingly exposed to during your marriage as your partner betrayed. Today I want to val...

Join me in supporting Shawn on today's Women Supporting Women series, as she shares her story of empowerment.  Want to hear more from Amie? Follow on instagram @amiewoolsey Here are some FREE resources from Amie you can check out Choose Recovery Divorce Support Group- This support group is for those who are new to divorce and needing support from other women and help with basic processing and...

Feeling alone and lonely? Join me today as I share some thoughts around how to make a shift from no power to empowerment by learning how to be WITH yourself.  Here are some FREE resources from Amie you can check out Divorce Support Group - This support group is for those who are new to divorce and needing support from other women and help with basic processing and grounding. This is NOT a coa...

Today I answer a listeners question around how to get rid of those racing thoughts that are all too consuming. I will offer you 4 steps to take that will help calm those down and allow you to step into a more empowered approach to healing.  Do you have a questions you'd like me to answer in more detail and offer tools to help you? Email your questions to amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com Her...