The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse

What does it look like, how do you navigate it and how long will this last? Join me today as I share thoughts about grief, and how to process it in a healthy way that allows it to actually move through you. We can grieve empoweringly ( I created a new word) yes, you can allow grief to be an empowering experience IN the grief when you stop making yourself wrong for grieving, and when you stop think...

Here it it, the much anticipated interview (for me at least) with Dr. Kenneth M. Adams PhD. He is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), a CSAT supervisor, and CSAT training facilitator as well as an EMDR practitioner. Along with his associates, he is continually developing new program services to meet the needs of addicts and their families as well as adult victims of childhood abuse. He doe...

Today I want to share a few things to prepare you for next weeks amazing episode with Dr. Kenneth M Adams PHD. I will introduce Dr. Adams more in next weeks episode but today, I want to offer a few suggestions to prepare you for another opportunity to growth and healing in your journey. With his latest book, A light in the dark, The hidden legacy of adult children of sex addicts co authored with &...

Last bonus episode I walked you through a bo dy scan to help you regulate your emotions and have greater awareness to your physical body. Sometimes this can be challenging and so today I am offering another way to process. Thought Dumps.  I have been using this tools since my own coach introduced them to me and these along with body scans are so incredibly helpful to become more aware of what...

Women supporting women is key to this Empowered Divorce podcast. These are your stories, your experiences and it's important to know you are not alone.  Join me today as I interview another amazing women who stepped into her power and is having an empowered divorce. Want to hear more from Amie? Follow on instagram @amiewoolsey Here are some FREE resources from Amie you can check out Should I...

This bonus episode goes in conjunction with the 2 part episodes on triggers. Part of calming down the trauma in your body is bring awareness to the body and we can do that with body scans.  I encourage you to implement these at least once a day but ideally 3 times a day. Perhaps setting a timer on your phone to remind you. Implement these around something you are already doing, like picking u...

The trauma you experienced in your marriage die to betrayal and or abuse is real and never to be minimized. Understanding how to recognize these trauma parts and when they are triggers will help you to step into a more empowered approach to managing them.  Today I share some more insight around triggers and focus on the response your physical body has to these triggers and how to move through...

Due to the high trigger factor of this day we are NOT going to mention the "V" word! I do however want to mention the "L" word. Love. Just in a totally different way. So join me briefly today as I share some thoughts that have helped me take my own healing to the next level.  Here are some FREE resources from Amie you can check out The Empowered Divorce Monthly Q&A - Divorce is not e...

Did you think that once you got divorced you'd be free from triggers and trauma response? I did too. It can feel so frustrating when your body is still having trauma responses and you don't understand why.  Join me today as I share the reasons why this is happening to the brain and body as well as offer examples of how this can happen, what to do when it does and of course you will get practi...

It's a thing. You feel like you have to be the bad guy, the responsible one and no fun mom because the other parent is all about fun. No rules, no boundaries and you feel you have to do the heavy lifting and they get to do the fun.  How do you handle this? What can you actually do in these situations and how do you protect your kids?  Join me today as I share my thoughts around dealing with Di...

Today's questions from you amazing listeners are being answered! Is it wrong that I still miss him? Is it normal to have trouble sleeping after divorce, even if i'm the one who chose it? What do I do when my ex goes out on his weekends with the kids? I'm more sad about losing his family than the divorce, is that weird? I keep finding out more and more things he did during our marriage,...

Join me in supporting and celebrating another woman who has practiced leaning into the hard and  having an empowered divorce.  Want to hear more from Amie? Follow on instagram @amiewoolsey Here are some FREE resources from Amie you can check out Should I Stay or Go - The first Thursday of every month for those who are feeling stuck making the decision to stay or leave the marriage. This...

Have you ever wanted to scream out, "I HATE HEALING!!" I did. Which led to this episode on healing. It can feel overwhelming and some days more than others, you just want to scream. I get it.  Healing is a journey not a destination. Have you heard that before? Today I explain why and offer you thoughts to consider so you can be more aware of where you are currently at in the healing jour...

I'm answering a listeners question today about being in a place where she doesn't ever want to get married again and actually, men suck! She has a question about being in this state of mind and I answer her in todays BONUS episode. My answer might surprise you! Want to hear more from Amie? Follow on instagram @amiewoolsey Dating After Divorce Workshop - This is a 3 day workshop held in the...

Obviously I love the word empowered. To empower is to make yourself stronger and more confident, especially in controlling your life and claiming their rights. You are entitled to certain rights, it's giving yourself permission, it's allowing and knowing that things you want in your life are warranted. Empower is to set yourself free from captivity and release yourself from things you can not cont...

I love the movie Wizard of Oz, and every time I watch it I learn something more about life and empowerment. Today I share some thoughts that come to me as I watched it again and want you each to know that you have always had your power of agency. The power to CHOOSE. We just didn't always know it, for many reasons, but you can access that power now. You can have an empowered divorce! Want to hear...

Want to hear more from Amie? Follow on instagram @amiewoolsey Here are some FREE resources from Amie you can check out Should I Stay or Go - The first Thursday of every month for those who are feeling stuck making the decision to stay or leave the marriage. This is a group coaching session to help you see what might be keeping you stuck. Register Here The Empowered Divorce Monthly Q&A- Each mo...

It's that time of year! Joy in the season........ or maybe not. If this is your first holiday single, I want to give you a big hug and say I promise it gets better. But right now, I totally validate how hard it may be.  I am talking about joy today and how I define it as well as offer thoughts around how to access it despite the circumstances in our lies not going as planned. Just like one of...

Now that you are single, are you wondering who the heck am I ? Now that you are no longer married, many of you have most likely lost yourself in your marriage, in your partner, children, and in the life that you thought was real only to find out it wasn't. So its totally understandable why you'd feel lost, and wondering who am I ? Today I want to share some thoughts that can help you approach this...

When you have experienced betrayal and or abuse in your marriage, then navigate possibly a traumatic divorce, just being divorced doesn't mean you are suddenly healed. There is still work to do. With so many different aspects of healing, breath work is one of the most important.  Today on the podcast I interview Shay Taylor who is sharing her own experience with finding healing through breath...

Just like his affair and sexual addiction had nothing to do with you, neither does his moving on have to do with you. Whats often happening here, underneath it all, is we are making this mean something about ourselves intrinsically. Meaning, we are connecting our worth and value and enoughness to this- so it hurts. Our thoughts might be- I wasn't good enough for him to choose- whats wrong with me...

Today I want to share a few thoughts about what you can do in the raw, tender moments of trauma and pain. Now I am not offering these suggestions as a one and done or a linear checklist of things that will make it all go away…… These things have worked to help me stay in the present moment to pass through the pain and sorrow so that I don't get stuck and became a tornado of so many emotions that i...

 You don't have to force gratitude or a positive attitude right now. It will come, I promise. But you wont have space for the gratitude when you are hiding the real emotions of hurt sad or mad. It is natural of course to want to be positive. None of us wants to feel fear, pain, or anything else that is uncomfortable. But pain and sadness are an unavoidable part of life. They are here to stay....

Divorce does not discriminate. It doesn't matter what age you are and women need to know that even if you are still in your 10's, and divorced, you too are not alone. Today I have the honor of interviewing Halle who navigated a divorce with a young child not too long after marriage. This was certainly not in the plans, yet she was able to move forward as she took small steps into empowerment.&nbsp...

My youngest son Jackson wanted to be on my podcast. He doesn't listen to it but knows that I help women who are going through divorces similar to mine. He said that he things he can help other moms know what a kids experience is going through divorce and wanted to share some thoughts he has with you today.  I honestly didn't think he would follow up with me after I told him i'd interview him....