The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse

Are you SO tired of the arguing, the explaining, the reminding that you have to do with your ex partner? What if you stopped? Then what? Today I share a powerful acronym that can help remind you to stop the unhealthy patterns that are keeping you exhausted in your interaction with your ex partner. W- Warnings (Threatening) A- Arguing L-Lecturing E-Explaining R- Reminding Practicing to eliminate th...

In this empowering episode of 'The Empowered Divorce Podcast,' I delve into the painful yet common experience of not being believed after betrayal and divorce. I give voice to the struggles of being labeled as the 'crazy one' and the challenges of seeking validation and acknowledgment in the face of judgment and misunderstanding. Key Points: The Struggle for Belief: Exploring why f...

We hear you and see you. Those of you women who share the experience of the FBI apart of your D-Day. You too are not alone. Join my friend and colleague Sarah Morales, who is also the DECONSTRUCTING GASLIGHTING™ Expert. , as she shares her story of betrayal, abuse and divorce when the FBI was how she discovered her ex husbands sexual addiction. I want to encourage all of you to listen as it's...

Maybe this is the first time that you're splitting time with kids and so not only are you having a lot of big feelings about it, but your kids might be having a lot of big feelings about it too! Perhaps you are a couple years into this shared holiday thing and you find yourself still hating it, despising your ex during it and crying in your bed when they're all gone. I get it. It sucks. Sh...

Today's episode focuses on 5 thoughts that have now become beliefs for me. I continue to practice as my human brain will still offer me the untrue thoughts sometimes. So there is no arrival to these thoughts! The shift that these thoughts have given me is life changing and I hope that you will be able to feel the shift in your own life as you continue to be the CHOOSER in your life! The 5 thou...

In this episode, I explore the powerful journey of finding joy and gratitude after betrayal and divorce. I share my personal experiences and insights, shedding light on the challenges faced during the holiday season and how I learned to embrace the end of the year as a time of renewal. Delving into the concept of foreboding joy, I discuss how trauma and betrayal can make us hesitant to fully savor...

Have you ever hear of the term Radical Self Care? Join Amie today as she uses this concept to encourage you to prepare for the up and coming holiday months so that you can be the CHOOSER of your experiences. Here is what she will cover: What is radical self-care? The importance of deep, intentional self-care. The first pillar: Awareness, including identifying beliefs, values, desires, fears, and u...

In todays episode I address the transformative power of believing something new while navigating the inevitable discomfort of cognitive dissonance. I talk about challenging limiting beliefs that hinder personal growth and outlines how thoughts directly influence feelings, actions, and results in our lives. Tune in to learn how to make space for cognitive dissonance, rewire your thought patterns, a...

Believing In YOU means believing all parts of you. Last week I talked about believing your lived experience with betrayal and abuse, and this week I am talking about how to believe your body's stored memory about all of it as well. Here is what I cover in this episode: Understanding the concept of radical self-care. The importance of deep, intentional self-care during the holiday season. Explo...

Main Points of the Episode The Impact of Betrayal and Abuse on Belief Amy acknowledges that betrayal and abuse can shatter one's belief system, leaving individuals feeling lost and incapable of trusting themselves. The Power of Self-Belief Amy emphasizes that individuals have the power to choose their beliefs, and rebuilding self-belief is essential for healing. She explains how she helps clie...

What you will learn from today's episode: The importance of authentic positivity in your healing journey, alongside addressing negative emotions. Why forcing positive emotions or using excessive positive affirmations may not lead to lasting change. How to access authentic positivity within yourself, even in the midst of trauma and emotional turmoil. The concept of "paradoxical gray"...

Dating From Within Workshop October 12th-14th SummaryAmie's Desire to Connect With Divorcees Amie shared her feelings of wanting to connect with her listeners, particularly those going through divorce. She acknowledged the struggle of loving someone who was unable to reciprocate that love and accepted that their ability to love was not a deficiency. Amie emphasized that the love offered was en...

Many of you amazing listeners are divorced. Many are seperated, in the process or considering. Either way, your external circumstances have changed a bit so you might not be exposed to as many stressors as you did in the same space as your ex, yet, you most likely still FEEL as if you are. GUESS WHY?!!!! Because the proverbial tiger behind the bush might be tied up- so it didn't actually bite...

I am thrilled to have with me today a woman whom I admire and learn from in so many ways, Rae Gaelyn Emerson. She works full-time as a betrayal trauma recovery coach, she is trained and certified by the association of partners of sex addicts, trauma specialist, (APSATS) She combined 16 years of personal and professional experience with other men and women who are also healing together from sexual...

When I read the new term and definition of Partner Adaptive Bonding Cycle created by my friend and colleague Hope Ray, LPC, CSAT, CHFP, CCPS, I felt like something landed in my body and my body liked it. A language, if you will, to explain what I had experienced in my previous marriage. I also started to see how this also continues to show up in many ways post divorce. In today's episode, I&#3...

Ancestral Trauma and Patterns: Let's chat about how toxic relationship patterns often run in families. I was at a seminar on ancestral trauma, and it got me thinking about how these old patterns still affect us today. The more we recognize these patterns, the better we can break free from them. Personal Experience and Patterns: I'm sharing a personal story today, one that made me realize h...

Bonus episode today to share 3 things that I have learned from my Hindi neighbors. Slowing down can seem impossible, and especially when you are going through divorce and carrying the weight of much more in life than you planned on. But the paradox is, when you slow down in certain aspects of your life, can paradoxically help you speed up your overall healing progress and well-being.  I am sharing...

Get your FREE Wise Femininity Booklet HERE⁠ ⁠ *be sure to check your spam folder!) Part 2 of my conversation with Hope Ray : Betrayal throws EVERYTHING out of whack. Your central nervous system, your trust, your reality, and so much more. It also throws off your WISE FEMININITY. What is Wise Femininity? Vulnerability Intuition Sensitivity But FIRST, in this episode of a two part series with Hope R...

Get your FREE Wise Femininity Booklet HERE⁠ *be sure to check your spam folder!) Betrayal throws EVERYTHING out of whack. Your central nervous system, your trust, your reality, and so much more. It also throws off your WISE FEMININITY. What is Wise Femininity? Vulnerability Intuition Sensitivity But FIRST, in this episode of a two part series with Hope Ray, we discuss a new definition to many of y...

What comes up for you when you hear the word victim? I can only speak for myself, but I hated it! I did not choose to be a victim to abuse and betrayal and I'd imagine you didn't either. Today I want to show you how being in this space can actually serve you for a time, AND, when you can be more are of what survivor and thrivor looks like you will be able to take the compassionate steps fo...

Come join me in creating a safe space for Sarah to share her story around how she got herself out of an abusive relationship and chose to practice empowerment, one small step at a time. Divorcing when these dynamics are a part of your story requires a lot of support and planning. One huge part of Sarah's success was getting more awareness to the dynamics that she was experiencing and accepting...

It's a thing. You seperate or move towards divorce and they may promise to amicable, they may say they don't want a war, but as soon as the realization of the power and control shifts, the abusive behaviors and communication escalate. It's shocking, confusing, and incredibly fearful. You wonder who this person you married really is and you are scratching your head at how you could have...

What does it mean to be good to yourself? Have you consciously thought about what that actually looks like for you? What does your brain tell you about that idea, to be good to yourself? Mine used to tell me that I don't deserve it. Today I share a few ways that you can practice being good to yourself and why thats such an important part of healing, self care, and stepping more into a place of...

Our final episode in the summer music month series and we are talking about how to become a health independent woman, and validating every step of the way. There are a few common stages I see happen in the journey to independence and with the help of a lot of my favorite artists and songs that highlight the 5 different stages, I hope today you can feel hope in the journey. Are you READY to get mor...

Part three of our summer music month gives me an opportunity to talk about forgiveness. Forgiveness after betrayal abuse and divorce is a sensitive topic and one that I believe needs to be chosen into. Meaning, if you are not ready or wanting to explore what forgiveness looks like for you right now in. Your journey, then it m right now be helpful to sit through sermons , talks or podcasts about th...