The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse

Surviving emotionally immature relationships require you to show up, or not show up, in certain ways to preserve the relationship and the attachment. Part of healing and especially if you are considering getting into another relationship, means you need to be able to take a look at how YOU showed up in your previous relationship. This is a shift from looking at how your partner may have showed up...

Join me today as I share a few key ways to assess emotional maturity in other, AND in yourself. Many of my clients want to know what healthy looks like, especially when they have experience abusive behaviors and communication in their relationships. Many fear repeating the patterns and "choosing wrong again" in future relationships. With the help of on of my fav's, Lindsay Gibson and...

Today, we're diving deep into the concept of energy levels and how they manifest in our bodies, particularly through catabolic and anabolic energy. This framework is especially valuable if you're still learning to comfortably feel and identify your emotions. Here's what we'll cover today: The Seven Levels of Energy : We’ll explore each level, adapted to situations like divorce and...

Today, we're diving deep into the transformative concept of catabolic and anabolic energy and its profound impact on our emotional and physical well-being. By understanding our emotions as energy in motion, we unlock the potential to be more present in our bodies, neutralize the intensity of our emotions, and foster healing and growth. Key Points Discussed: Understanding Catabolic and Anabolic...

In this episode, we explored essential strategies for managing stress during challenging life situations, such as divorce, co-parenting, and re-entering the dating scene. Here are the key takeaways: Distinguish between trauma responses and everyday stressors to better manage your emotional well-being. Identify stressors and recognize where they manifest in your body without judgment. Determine wha...

Is it driving you absolutely crazy when those whom you'd expect to support you, believe you or at least acknowledge that you didn't want this divorce, but can see why it's a life saving divorce- ARE ACTING LIKE SWITZERLAND!!!?? Staying neutral, on the sidelines and invalidating your experience of betrayal and abuse is.... well, no words. Ok, maybe some 4 letter words. Today I want to v...

Good, bad? Right, wrong? Feeling negative emotions doesn't mean anything about your worth, value, or enoughness. In fact, YOU are not your emotions! So how do you FEEL them rather than react, avoid or resist? When we believe that our emotions mean something about who we are or how we are healing it actually creates a lot of unnecessary suffering. Join me today as I talk about how to stop moral...

You have experienced the complexities of grief, and you are perhaps looking for ways to get over it, get through it, and just stop the hurting. I get it. There are many ways in which we cope with grief. The emotions based coping, reactive coping, situational coping and even maladaptive coping. I want to offer you another way to approach your grief post divorce. Proactive Grief. This is where you a...

Corrective emotional experiences are powerful moments that can change you forever. They can open up new pathways in your life, free you from painful beliefs about yourself that always held you back, and help you discover parts of yourself that you might not have even known were there Learning how to have healthy, positive relational experiences when you have had unhealthy and abusive experiences i...

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It's confusing, overwhelming, and gut wrenching that you are even considering having these kids of conversations. What to tell your kids about divorce, about your story and about their father. I've got you. Today I am sharing 4 things to consider and you answer this question for yourself. Separating Your Story from Your Children's Story : Recognizing that your experience is different f...

In today's episode, I'm excited to dive deeper into the topic of secure attachment and its crucial role in fostering healthy relationships with our children. As parents, our goal is to provide a secure base from which our children can explore the world confidently. Join me as we explore how to cultivate secure attachment, especially in the context of divorce and parenting dynamics. Main Po...

In today's episode, I delve into the intricate world of parenting post-divorce, and where do bundaries come in to play here? I explore the dynamics around attachment theory with children through and post divorce, when you are triggered by children and their behaviors which remind you of your ex, how to seperate your emotions from your children's, and what being their secure parent looks li...

In todays continuing episodes on boundaries, I will walk you through the EMPOWER acronym that will help you create and master boundaries through your divorce and post divorce. Giving you the healthy space you need to to heal from betrayal trauma, abuse and divorce. Using the acronym below, I will go into detail and give examples of how this will help you to be a master of setting boundaries. Acron...

What is The Window Of Tolerance, and why is it important to understand how it relates to your healing? That's what I am talking about today in this quick episode. This is an important concept that will help you with your boundaries as well! Sometimes when we understand more of the psychoeducation around healing and why are brain and bodies are doing what they do, we aren't as resistant, ju...

Join the continues conversation around boundaries through and post divorce. Because divorcing from betrayal and abuse is NOT the same as other divorces. Today I am walking you through 3 first steps to take with boundaries and how these will lay the foundation to further boundary setting steps. Here are some highlights from the episode: Setting boundaries might feel daunting, especially if your bou...

In this special bonus episode, I share some profound insights I gained after watching the movie Wonka. While I won't be giving a movie review, I want to impart valuable lessons that left me inspired, and thinking of each of YOU! Two central characters, Noodle and Willy Wonka, will guide us through these lessons. So, stay tuned and get ready to rekindle your belief in yourself, your potential,...

Yes, Betrayal trauma and abuse impact how you do or DON'T have boundaries Yes, Boundaries are different through and after divorce. Yes, It's hard to let go of control when betrayal trauma took your choice away. No, you don't have to stay stuck in the unhealthy patterns. No, You don't have to feel happy about it all. AND.... Having and EMPOWERED DIVORCE means you are going to now be...

I remember thinking after divorce, that my life is such a mess and I have so much emotional baggage, trauma and problems that no guy will ever want to date me let alone marry me. This energy limited my beliefs about myself and about what I can create in my future. I felt sorry for myself, and even though it makes sense why, it wasnt helping the energy I was putting out. into the world. Today I tal...

As we are approaching the next Dating From Within Workshop I thought I'd ask my colleague Geoff Steure r, who's work with couples through betrayal is amazing, I asked if he'd come up with his 5 top signs a guy is healthy. Because I know many of you are wondering what the hell does healthy even look like! Now of course these are on 5 of the signs to look for, but you can come join me Ja...

In this episode of the "Empowered Divorce Podcast," I'll be exploring the complex emotions of loneliness that often accompany the journey through divorce, especially when layered with betrayal and abuse. I'll take you through what loneliness can feel like in different scenarios and offer practical steps and reflective questions to help you navigate these challenging emotions. You...

While you may want 2024 to be better than the year before, we want to set new goals and create from a practiced place of self love, compassion, curiosity, creativity, calm, courage, connectedness, clarity and confidence. Trying to change or set goals from a place of self judgement, shame or blame may by you a few months, but it's not sustainable change. It's understandable how much you mig...

When you leave a marriage where not on ly was it unsafe to grow thrive and just BE you in that relationship, your home was also influenced by the betrayers behaviors making it difficult for all in it to thrive and just BE. Today I want to offer the idea that you can create YOUR own healing home and I offer 6 ideas to consider using to support you in this journey. Key Components of a Healing Home S...

Hello, my amazing and beautiful listeners, Merry Christmas! In today's brief but meaningful episode, I invite you to join me in exploring a powerful perspective shift. Inspired by the classic film 'It's A Wonderful Life,' we'll delve into how lost dreams can transform into newfound opportunities. This episode is for anyone who's felt their dreams slip away amidst betrayal a...