The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse

I address a common yet deeply personal question many face during the life-saving divorce process: What do you do with the physical reminders of a past relationship? This question isn't trivial—it's a significant part of moving forward. Deciding how to handle these items can stir a range of emotions, from sorrow to relief, and is often a crucial step in the healing journey. Whether you're contempla...

In this episode, I continue my conversation with Tony Overbay, a licensed marriage and family therapist, as we dive deep into the concept of 'pathological kindness' and its impact on individuals, especially in the context of divorce. We discuss the importance of registering for free divorce support sessions, the significance of emotional self-care, and how to avoid repeating toxic relationship pat...

As the holiday season approaches, let's come together to support each other! Many of our incredible listeners, including divorcees working hard to support their families, have started their own ventures, from crafting adorable knitted animals to organizing engaging flute circles. Before you head to big retailers for your holiday shopping, why not check out our Facebook page to discover unique...

In this episode, I am joined by Tony Overbay , a licensed marriage and family therapist and host of the Virtual Couch and Waking Up to Narcissism podcasts. We explore the complexities of breaking free from relationships with narcissists, focusing on the challenges and strategies to regain emotional autonomy. We delve into the concepts of differentiation, trauma bonding, and the importance of self-...

Because you are having a LIFE SAVING DIVORCE! It's beyond challenging to find yourself still dealing with the abusive behaviors and destructive communication with your ex, AFTER DIVORCE! You want to feel freedom, others are perhaps expecting you to- so why can't you? Join me today as I talk about why and how to actually begin feeling freedom when you shift your focus back towards you and have an E...

Are you finding yourself still waiting for ownership from your ex about his choices and actions? Perhaps it's even subconscious and yet you find yourself feeling resentful angry or stuck in moving on because you are waiting for there to be some decency in a human to take accountability of their choices which led to the situations you are experiencing. Im sharing my thoughts about this today and of...

Does this feel confusing to you? Divorce after betrayal and abuse can leave you with a lot of unresolved feelings. The pain and hurt from your partners actions can still feel shocking. You don't want to be with this person anymore, so why is there also this felt sense of "missing them"? I validate this cognitive dissonance today and offer some ideas that might help ease the confusion...

In today’s episode, I dive deep into some of my favorite quotes from the movie Kung Fu Panda. Have you ever noticed how philosophical it is! Join me as i share some insights that will surely inspire you to keep going, to not give up and to be the chooser in your life! One day at a time. Here’s what you’ll discover in this episode: Recognizing Your Inner Strength : We’ll discuss the importance of a...

Following up on last week's episode where I was talking about believing that you are 100% of WORTH & VALUE. Today I wanted to talk about IFS ( internal family systems) developed by Dr Dick Schwartz, otherwise known as parts work. Understanding yourself in this way can help you believe that you really do have a CORE SELF and that, that CORE SELF is NOT impacted by your trauma. Here are the...

I can't believe we are on episode 100! ( ok actually 125 with all the bonus episodes but......) What better way to celebrate than talk about your 100% intrinsic worth and value. To help you believe just a little bit more, or perhaps for the first time, that you really are ENOUGH! This week and next I am sharing how I started to believe this for myself, how my clients begin this work and then I...

We missed the July Live Q&A so today I am taking 2 listeners questions that are about anger and answering them today. As Kim and I have been talking about anger I wanted to answer these questions to give you a more real life situations involving beautiful anger emotions. Today’s Discussion Highlights: Understanding the Roots of Anger: Explore why anger isn't just about the present frustrat...

Join myself and Kimberly Day again for our continued conversation around anger. We are touching more specifically on how anger can amp up after separation from the soon to be ex partner. We want to have a honest dialogue around this toic because so many of our beliefs change, emotions change and then the legal system, which is fundamentally flawed creates situation where anger can also be present....

What do YOU think about anger, your anger? How do YOU feel it? How do YOU avoid it? What do you make YOUR anger mean? Join myself and Kimberly Day again as we do a 2 part series on ANGER! Have you ever thought of your anger as beautiful? Listen today as I share with you why I all it beautiful and how you can better validate it and process your anger, and why it's VITAL to your healing journey....

In this episode, we delve into the crucial distinction between what is uncomfortable and what is intolerable in the context of healing from trauma and navigating an empowered divorce. Understanding this difference is essential for your healing journey and can significantly impact your ability to manage and process emotions effectively. I discuss how in my brainspotting sessions, communication and...

HAPPY 4th OF JULY!! This is one of my favorite holidays and as I know this is a time to celebrate our country's freedom, I love taking time to also celebrate the freedom that myself and so many women have also found in their healing journey. I am sharing one of my favorite poems called, " The Journey" written by Mary Oliver and breaking it down to how this poem resonates with my jour...

Kim and I are back at it with part 2 of what does healthy look like but focusing on the physical domaine in the relationship. Primarily what healthy physical intimacy looks like. Join us today and we have a conversation around some key points to be aware of in this area. Key Points Discussed: Understanding Consent and Physical Presence: Emphasizing the importance of mutual consent and being attune...

My friend and colleague Kimberly Day LMHC share a private podcast on ONE SAFE SPACE where our focus in one supporting women who are navigating abuse in their relationship. I have pulled this episode and a few others that I felt would be just as valuable for you my amazing listeners. Key Points Discussed: Healthy Doesn't Mean Perfect: Exploring what healthy interactions and relationships look l...

In this episode, I delve into the common challenge faced by many parents post-divorce: managing the behavior of children when they return from the other parent’s home, often appearing dysregulated or "worse." I discuss the importance of understanding and adjusting our expectations, and how a shift in perspective can transform our response and improve the dynamics at home. Join me as I ex...

This poem was given to me early after my divorce and I didn't appreciate it as much as I do now. Now that I have actually created a new path forward in my life after betrayal, abuse and divorce. I didn't see a path forward at the time. Yet, this poem gave me hope that it's possible. That I could keep learning and growing along the way. Today I break down the meaning , to me, of this po...

Your children will have events to celebrate for years to come and you want our children to feel loved and supported by as many people as possible. You also, might not want to or feel emotionally ready to be in the ame room with those who caused injury to you. Join me today and I share some ideas on how you can navigate these events from a place of EMPOWERMENT and how you can still show up for your...

In today’s episode, we’re diving into the concept of bravery—a vital attribute that combines both psychological insight and physiological management to overcome fear. As you listen, I hope you feel inspired to lean into bravery again, on a whole new level, empowered bravery - especially as we reflect on our innate ability to confront and navigate our fears around divorce. Key Steps to Cultivating...

I am continuing the conversation today and sharing the resource I created that helps you to identify if you are stuck in your healing journey. Last week I went over common thoughts that you will have while in VICTIM and EMERGER stages. Today I will cover common thoughts that relate to RECLAIMER and CHOOSER stages. Remembering that there are NO wrong or bad stages, yet we can get stuck along the wa...

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You have been victimized. You didn't choose it, you didn't cause it, and, you don't want to get stuck IN it. You are NOT your trauma. Today is the first of 2 episodes around the 4 stages of healing and the thoughts that are most common in each. This resource is intended to not only help you gain more awareness as to where you are at , where you might be stuck, but also give you some id...

Today I am answering a few questions to make up for the missed live Q&A this month! Question #1: What if the good, is too good to be true? Question #2: When will the EXHAUSTION end? Join me as I answer both these questions, and with question number 2- I take a turn towards talking about how we as women are CYCLICAL beings! and how it's so important to honor this about ourselves. We can use...