The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

This episode dispels the myth that you are the sole reason that she doesn't like sex with you anymore. Here is a pep talk with concrete points to try if this is your situation... and don't worry, this doesn't mean you're "bad in bed"! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "There A...

Expectations steal your joy and sabotage your relationships. In this episode, I discuss how unrealistic expectations and comparison points hurt your self-esteem, your relationship with your kids, and your marriage. And then I add in stuff about friendships for good measure! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

A book review of Bill Perkins' Die With Zero! Really interesting philosophically, and dovetails well with a lot of the internal work my clients do every day in session! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

A helpful reframe for empathy! What was your mom like at the age that you're expecting your wife to act so sexual, exciting, and dynamic? Probably not acting that way either. Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

There are ALWAYS dating options! Here's what the internet tells you and why it's wrong. Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

I did a little video about this and I'm expanding on it in this episode... presenting the CCF (Child, Coworker, Friend) Reframe for how to think about your marital problems! This is easy to remember and can be a huge reality check if you think that you are behaving well in your marriage but you're still having issues for some unknown reason. Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Highly Sensitive People (HSP) definitionally feel things more intensely than others. Does this mean that HSP women are likelier to leave? Here's what I've seen in my practice! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Here's a terrifying thought... what if your wife had veto power over your work schedule??? Actually... this may be the best thing that ever happened to your marriage, and here's why! Also covered: who this works for and who it doesn't work for. Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https:/...

Many guys think that doing chores or childcare together is inefficient, so they try to "optimize" by "dividing and conquering" chores, errands, gym time, and more. Then they are surprised when after many productive hours apart, their wife is not happy to reunite but feels disconnected and distant. Here's how to understand this and what to do instead! Subscribe if you love t...

If you think your relationship doesn't feel "right" in some way, this is the episode for you. Relationship OCD is linked to anxiety in general, and can mean any obsessive thought about a relationship, including whether you are right for each other, whether your partner preferred a previous partner, whether YOU may have been better suited to someone else, and more. And here's how...

What does anxiety look like in men? This discusses ways that anxiety shows up in males, as opposed to females, and can be a lightbulb moment for you! Listen up if you're rigid, difficult, have back or stomach pain, or your wife "walks on eggshells" around you!! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

In the Facebook group, someone was upset by a life choice that a friend made that didn't impact this person directly. Why do people get triggered by situations that don't involve them? Why do we get upset if someone makes a choice different from ours? And what can you do if this is always happening to you? Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Often, moms are harder on daughters and dads are harder on sons. Why does this happen? When is it okay and when does it become a problem? And what to do if you fight about this in your marriage! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

A commenter made a really smart analogy between post-ovulation phase for women and post-nut clarity for men. This episode can really lead to an epiphany that transforms your understanding of your wife! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Why do some guys send dick pics? Why do some guys not understand foreplay? Why do some guys grab their wives' boobs out of nowhere? What does all this have to do with empathy? Buckle up and get your learning hat on! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmoms...

If you ask your wife too many questions, she doesn't want to have sex, talk, or be on the same planet as you! People ask questions compulsively for two main reasons... listen and learn what they are! Also: what to do instead. Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dr...

Certainly, desire decreases after the honeymoon stage, due to the biological end of the "drunk on new love" feeling. At this point, too many guys just blame biology for their wives not wanting sex. While I've spent a lot of time focusing on the biological changes, sometimes you're doing stuff that no woman in her right mind would find appealing. Listen and learn! Subscribe if you...

When people struggle with anxiety, depression, or rigidity, they can become terrified of doing anything new. This anxiety is not directly expressed, but comes out as judgment or criticism toward anyone who is perceived as trying to "force" them to do something new, or even think about something in a new way. What's an excellent way to treat anxiety? Exposure therapy! Listen to learn...

Should you just agree with your partner? What if you don't really agree? If you struggle with this question and you've ever used the word "yes man," this episode is a dive into how you grew up and why it's affecting your relationships now. Also: how to reframe "not agreeing" in a way that will help you get along with most people.... even if just agreeing is still a...

Listen for my impression of The Young Woman Who Thinks She Can Change The Avoidant Man... such a common archetype that it deserves its own episode! Plus... what to do if you married this guy. Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

I recently wrote a Facebook post saying that if a guy didn't get laid the week after Mother's Day, he probably didn't hit it out of the park the way he imagined he did. Some angry men said that sex shouldn't be a reward. As this was not at all what I meant, it made me think about which men would interpret this post this way and what that framing means for their relationships overal...

This can be a really hard transition if you're an HSP! Listen and learn if you've thought that the decrease in honeymoon stage hormones has been worse for you than your partner or vice versa! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Possibly my most interesting episode ever. Gotta listen to her first question and then you'll get a small taste of what insight oriented therapy is all about... I saw a very interesting pattern in what this listener asked and her prior question. People who martyr themselves to difficult partners... this is for you! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

As promised, the companion to the prior episode about what women want! If you didn't see a healthy marriage growing up, it can be hard to understand what men want. Researching this stuff online can bring you to internet rabbit holes that get you further away from the relationship you want. Today, I discuss what healthy men want from their wives. See how many you already knew and which are new!...

If you didn't see a healthy marriage growing up, it can be hard to understand what women want. Researching this stuff online can bring you to manosphere rabbit holes that get you further away from the relationship you want. Today, I discuss what healthy women want from their husbands. See how many you already knew and which are new! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...