The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Some people come into marital therapy assuming the therapist will recognize that they are awesome, far more awesome than their spouse, and they are hoping that the therapist metaphorically slaps some sense into their spouse, saying something like, "Don't you know how lucky you are to be married to this person?" Instead, the therapist usually ends up feeling bad for the spouse of this paragon of pe...

Often, men think that after they make a bunch of money, their wives should change their daily activities from laundry and book club to HRT and screwing. This doesn't work, and threatens the entire structure of the marriage! Today, how to make sure you have empathy toward your wife's struggles with your success and don't engage in the cognitive distortion that money is only good! Subscribe if you l...

This can be a huge wakeup call if you're someone who looks down on your spouse for not trying individual therapy. If you're the critical partner... this episode is for you! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "A New Year's Pep Talk For My Subscribers!" For...

This is just nonsensical and crazy-making for him and for you! How to be real with yourself and what to say instead, with scripts! And here's our upcoming groups! Reach out to join: info@bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. Accountability In The New Year: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/accountability-in-the-new-year Better Breakup: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/better-breakup-group E...

Thankfully I see this ideology very infrequently in practice but it's all over internet comments. Here's a helpful reframe if you've ever thought she deserves less because she was at home with the kids! And here's our upcoming groups! Reach out to join: info@bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. Accountability In The New Year: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/accountability-in-the-new-year Better...

Are you really? Or could it be one of these issues underlying what seems to be a fear of hard work? Today's episode also includes an epiphany about overpreparing from my own earlier life! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "I Am What I Am." For my secret F...

Got this question as well as the second one, "If you never used porn but want to start using it after a while in your relationship, isn't that the woman's fault?" I explain everything about porn and its impact on relationships at various stages, including some useful analogies as always, in this awesome episode! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmom...

My sweater analogy.... and why people are drawn to people who are NOT a good fit! Here's our two upcoming groups I mentioned also. Better Breakup: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/better-breakup-group https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/better-breakup-group and Accountability In The New Year! https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/accountability-in-the-new-year They should be awesom...

Some guys are so bored with their partner that they execute foreplay like it's the Bataan Death March, or like Patrick Bateman in American Psycho without the murder, and then wonder why their wife's responsive desire doesn't kick in. If she thinks you're only into her if she does XYZ in bed, then it is adaptive and self-protective not to have sex with you, as it is actually only about sex to you a...

Nobody would go on a date with a bored, dull married person lol. Here's a question to ask yourself instead, and see how the reframe opens your mind to examining your role in your marital dissatisfaction! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "The Interesting...

A useful reframe for anyone who complains about their spouse and who's never been divorced/remarried! Spoilers for some of this book: The Divorce by Moa Herngren https://amzn.to/4g97b3k . Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "The Interesting Thing That Happe...

A helpful hack to make you realize how deeply biased you are toward your own perspective... albeit unintentionally! Game changing advice. And a story about me in highschool! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Four Reasons Some Men Hate Foreplay!" For my s...

After reading Mad Wife by Kate Hamilton ( https://amzn.to/3OyCr04 ), I realized that I need to be far more direct (rare for me) about the tremendous risks of having sex with a woman who isn't into it. How does this interact with the idea of responsive desire, drive decreasing within monogamy and with age, and more? Listen and learn! The straightest talk you will ever get about how consent is curre...

Some guys are scared of their wife's mood... even when they are happy! This episode teaches you why you feel this way, how to reframe your wife's mood, and ways to communicate more successfully. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Four Reasons Some Men Hat...

Some people say, "My problem is I can't stand up to my spouse because if I do, they get upset/would leave me. So how could therapy help with that?" Well, individual therapy or coaching can definitively help you with self-advocacy and assertiveness, and I've seen this in practice for a decade and a half! Here's how! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsych...

All about why some wives hate kissing their husbands! Common issue and here's why it may happen. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Ways To Take Care Of Your Wife!" For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous membe...

Today's episode discusses the stupidest move men make on the dating market. A fitting companion to the prior episode about the stupidest mistake young women make! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Ways To Take Care Of Your Wife!" For my secret Facebook g...

Today's episode discusses the stupidest move you can make on the dating market. We have all been here (at least those of us who have been young women who were preoccupied or "romantic" lol). Listen for what it is!! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Ways...

Today's episode discusses the four top female fantasies: why they arise, which ones your wife may have, and what impact her fantasies can have on your sex life! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Huge Red Flag: Never Having Two Encounters (Or Orgasms) In...

When people say this, there are usually two issues they aren't examining the depth... career and marriage. Today's episode discusses how you can feel that life is unfulfilling even if it looks "perfect" from the outside! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode:...

Many lower libido people say things like, "You got off, what more could you want?" This is not badly intentioned, but comes from a place of not understanding much about sex. Having an orgasm means nothing about the quality of sex just like having had a meal means nothing about the quality of the food. Understanding this idea can be transformative for both men and women in therapy! Subscribe if you...

If you are harder on yourself (and possibly your spouse/kids) than on anyone else, this is the episode for you. Here's why you may struggle with self compassion and how to start treating yourself with more kindness and grace. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber epis...

Some men believe that if a woman needs touch to be aroused, then she isn't really attracted to you. This is not accurate, and this sort of distorted thinking ruins many sexual relationships. Learn about attraction, foreplay, and arousal in this episode! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes!...

Your relationship with your parents and the relationship you observed between your parents aren't the only subconscious templates you learn in childhood for later relationships. How you interact with your sibling(s) are also a huge source of information about relationships, expectations, and scripts. Learn more in today's episode! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/...

The ubiquity of internet porn has made many men think in unhealthy ways about married sex. Kinky or new activities are not the norm for most married couples, except on special occasions. Thinking about sex as a life activity, similar to exercise or eating, can be a very healthy way to reframe sex if you've had a history of porn use or have been told that you make your wife uncomfortable in bed. Su...